rightondude Posted August 21, 2017 Share Posted August 21, 2017 Has anyone here ever triumphed in escaping the hell of the friend zone, and if so, how did you do it? Link to post Share on other sites
Robratory Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Has anyone here ever triumphed in escaping the hell of the friend zone, and if so, how did you do it? I rolled 13 on a 1d20 and cast a spell of Absorb Dimension. But seriously... no. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fiskadoro Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Yes, mainly by: hanging around till there were no better options being in the right place at the right (drunken) time It goes against everything we are taught, and I would gladly testify under oath that it isn't possible, but between you, me and this laptop... it's possible. People win the lottery too, but I won't spend my whole paycheck on scratch-offs. The best way out of the friend zone is to never enter it! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Jlec93 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Has anyone here ever triumphed in escaping the hell of the friend zone, and if so, how did you do it? Well I was basically cousin zoned... and now have a FWB type relationship ... not what I want .... but ... idk its progress i guess ? Even tho things aren't going smoothly right now and I want more but idk if it's a good idea. Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Not really. Anyone who escapes the friend zone must face the fact that originally they weren't good enough. They only settled for you when there were no other options. So, you never escape the disrespect. The truth is always there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rightondude Posted August 22, 2017 Author Share Posted August 22, 2017 Not really. Anyone who escapes the friend zone must face the fact that originally they weren't good enough. They only settled for you when there were no other options. So, you never escape the disrespect. The truth is always there. so you don't think people ever realize they made a mistake? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 so you don't think people ever realize they made a mistake? What made them realize they made a mistake? Did they suddenly realize you were a person worthy of respect? An equal to the person of their dreams? Or did they realize no one better may come along and the person who is always hanging around will do? For now. I have a hard time tolerating disrespect. Hanging around where I'm not wanted. Then again, I've never wanted or needed any woman that bad. I could always get somebody else. Somebody who wanted me for me. Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Only once did I do that, but I realize looking back I went into the situation a bit oddly ... I was with someone a few years ago who was absolutely, positively GORGEOUS. I'd known him for a bit, I'd see him a few times a year and we just said hello. Then we started hanging out a bit, I was completely uninterested in him. He one day leaned over and kissed me. I was shocked. We had a short term relationship, he left because he didn't deserve me. But it was HOT in all caps. I guess that's how it was/is for women - ignore him and he'll be panting like a dog, act like you like him and he'll reject you. Link to post Share on other sites
Usename12 Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 If by escape, you mean to quit seeing her altogether then yes. Many escape. And are better for it. Stop orbiting. The eclipse is over. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kazen Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Yes, plenty of times. The way to escape friendzone is you have to surprise them with qualities they never thought you had. For instance, one of my best female friend thought I was a goofball in highschool. She rejected me when I reveal I like her, so I got friendzoned. After her rejection, I brush it off and continue to be her friend. I went on to date another girl, so she was surprised by that. I also beat her in scoring higher in exams to show her that I'm not as dumb as I look. I became active in school activities and became a captain of my club. I basically treated her like she was just an ordinary friend. I never gave her any special attention. And she notice girls started to want my attention and so she became jealous. So then after 2 yrs since she rejected me, she confess to me she likes me. I dated her afterwards. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CptInsano Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 If we are talking about the term "friendzoned" as a euphemism for a soft rejection, then I never bothered sticking around. If we are talking about ending up being friends first then it's a different issue. I've tried that once but we failed to overcome the patterns we had already established. We couldn't get over being just friends, meaning that it felt very comfortable but not very passionate. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
girlinNYC Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Has anyone here ever triumphed in escaping the hell of the friend zone, and if so, how did you do it? Yes, but unfortunately my best friend fell for me and I didn't feel the same way. So technically I escaped the friend zone without wanting too. Now we don't talk because I rejected him. Sometimes being friends isn't so bad... just be grateful this person is in your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Ieris Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 It hasn't happened to me before but I have seen friends get out of the friend zone despite being told they are not their type, they're not looking for a relationship, I see you as my little brother etc. I think the key is persistence. Does not mean it will always work, as it depends on whether the person of interest is one of those no means no people or one that can be won over. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kazen Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Yes, but unfortunately my best friend fell for me and I didn't feel the same way. So technically I escaped the friend zone without wanting too. Now we don't talk because I rejected him. Sometimes being friends isn't so bad... just be grateful this person is in your life. You were not in the friendzone, he was. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
PacificPlain Posted August 22, 2017 Share Posted August 22, 2017 Has anyone here ever triumphed in escaping the hell of the friend zone, and if so, how did you do it? I did once! But I wish I never had. Guy and I were friends, had a moment but then he decided he didn't want anything with me, but could never really explain why (the physical chemistry and friendship were there). Two years later, he changed his mind and we got together. A year into the relationship, he abruptly dumped me for greener pastures. Looking back, there were a couple things I should have noted--Firstly, he became interested, and subsequently asked me to be his girlfriend, after he'd had a string of lackluster dates, rejections and crappy tinder experiences, and was very lonely. So it's likely he never really loved me, he was just settling til he figured something better would come along. Secondly, even at a year into the relationship he had never once mentioned kids or marriage even hypothetically, which definitely says something about what kind of long term prospect someone DOESN'T view you as. So in summary, if someone friendzones you, don't hang around there and wait for them to change their mind. You will always be lower value to them than their first choice who they DIDN'T have to "come around" to dating. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rightondude Posted August 23, 2017 Author Share Posted August 23, 2017 I'm more discussing this scenario or something similar: guy meets girl. Guy really likes girl, girl seems to like guy, girl cuts guy loose with "it's not me it's you I'm real busy blah blah blah but let's stay friends!" Guy moves on, dates other girl(s), original girl finds out guy is dating another girl, original girl suddenly has an abrupt change of heart and says she realizes she made a huge mistake and doesn't want to lose guy after all... is it ever a wise move for guy to go back if the feelings were stronger for original girl? Link to post Share on other sites
hercules22 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 i have never stuck around when a girl tried to friendzone me i just dissappear lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hercules22 Posted August 23, 2017 Share Posted August 23, 2017 I'm more discussing this scenario or something similar: guy meets girl. Guy really likes girl, girl seems to like guy, girl cuts guy loose with "it's not me it's you I'm real busy blah blah blah but let's stay friends!" Guy moves on, dates other girl(s), original girl finds out guy is dating another girl, original girl suddenly has an abrupt change of heart and says she realizes she made a huge mistake and doesn't want to lose guy after all... is it ever a wise move for guy to go back if the feelings were stronger for original girl? that depends if you like the original girl more aswell then i would give her another chance but there also the offchance u could screw all ties with new girl if you sort of like her to Link to post Share on other sites
LostandLonging Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 The friend zone is not real. https://www.google.com.au/search?q=what+if+i+told+you+friend+zone&client=safari&hl=en-au&prmd=ivn&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjH8vKdku_VAhWKsFQKHTdPBfYQ_AUIESgB&biw=320&bih=460&dpr=2#imgrc=iSs88ss3N7dIWM: Link to post Share on other sites
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