Cookiesandough Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 haha good good. one pic guys always scare me. it's like they are hiding something!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 One picture and jumping straight to date to me is a guy very desperate to get a GF or ONS and leading using some dating rules that men read But again, that's just based on my (limited) experience. Maybe chat a bit with him before the date - you'd get the best sense is he legit or not doing that (like you did with the other guy). Is there something I should be on the look out for? I'm not sure why my description of him seems suspicious 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 Nothing wrong with jumping straight to date IMO I prefer those guys vs too much waiting. Get see what he's like in person. One of mine turned out (95% sure) to be gay! Never would have picked up on it in writing lolz 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted August 27, 2017 Author Share Posted August 27, 2017 One picture and jumping straight to date to me is a guy very desperate to get a GF or ONS and leading using some dating rules that men read But again, that's just based on my (limited) experience. Maybe chat a bit with him before the date - you'd get the best sense is he legit or not doing that (like you did with the other guy). He has 2 more pics I didnt see When he messages on OLD, he sends long messages but it takes him a few hours to message back. I like that because I dont want us to have so much communication to where we build things up too much before the date I just messaged him my number. The date is on Tuesday and I dont have good service here What I get from our convo so far is legit. He likes building/fixing things. He has a cat Bonus points! He's interested in what I'm about and wants to know about me. Also a bonus that he lives right near me. I moved into my new house 3 weeks ago. Its in the country, its a small town and I dont know my way around yet so it'll be nice to date someone who does 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted August 27, 2017 Author Share Posted August 27, 2017 Nothing wrong with jumping straight to date IMO I prefer those guys vs too much waiting. Get see what he's like in person. One of mine turned out (95% sure) to be gay! Never would have picked up on it in writing lolz Totally agree! I've chatted with guys for days/weeks before meeting up. That excessive communication creates an illusion about who that person really is so when you meet...they're either not what you thought it would be...or they're a straight up let down Best to just dive in assuming you click thus far He did offer to pick me up but which I thought was a sweet offer...but this isnt my first time around the block 2 Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 Also a bonus that he lives right near me. I moved into my new house 3 weeks ago. Its in the country, its a small town and I dont know my way around yet so it'll be nice to date someone who does Oh you got a new house! That's great, I remember the multiple pet constraints 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted August 27, 2017 Author Share Posted August 27, 2017 Oh you got a new house! That's great, I remember the multiple pet constraints I'm renting a house for now but I LOVE it!!! It's like a dream here! My 4 cats and bunny in tow This guy has a cat = Brownie points 2 Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 This guy has a cat = Brownie points Guys with cats are for the win - head runners on patience. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted August 28, 2017 Author Share Posted August 28, 2017 Tuesday guy sends long messages but only about 2 of them a day I gave him my number last night and I havent heard from him I dont like excessive communication before the date but maybe more than 2 messages a day. The date is tomorrow and I'm starting to wish we had more of a rapport than we do Am I being too finicky? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted August 28, 2017 Author Share Posted August 28, 2017 He hasnt messaged/texted me at all today (Tuesday guy) I'm kind of getting turned off I'm not too enthused about the date now....I dont really want to go 2 Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted August 28, 2017 Share Posted August 28, 2017 He hasnt messaged/texted me at all today (Tuesday guy) I'm kind of getting turned off I'm not too enthused about the date now....I dont really want to go Just go:) It is a first date - if you don't like him no follow up needed. Having said that - my gut says this guy is fishy, but who know - maybe your date will prove me wrong 3 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted August 28, 2017 Share Posted August 28, 2017 He hasnt messaged/texted me at all today (Tuesday guy) I'm kind of getting turned off I'm not too enthused about the date now....I dont really want to go here we go again.....:laugh: TFY 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted August 28, 2017 Share Posted August 28, 2017 you mean like you gave him your number last night and he still hasn't text? thats weird. I would get turned off too 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted August 28, 2017 Author Share Posted August 28, 2017 you mean like you gave him your number last night and he still hasn't text? thats weird. I would get turned off too Yup! I'm getting turned off for sure 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted August 28, 2017 Author Share Posted August 28, 2017 here we go again.....:laugh: TFY Elaborate pls TFY I'd like to hear a guy's perspective on this Link to post Share on other sites
olivetree Posted August 28, 2017 Share Posted August 28, 2017 you mean like you gave him your number last night and he still hasn't text? thats weird. I would get turned off too This would be no big deal to me before meeting, considering you gave him your number last night and are meeting tomorrow and there are still hours left in the day today. Plus it's not a big change from his usual patterns of messaging twice a day, if I have that right. He just needs to message you by early tomorrow so that you know it's on. It's good to have less (not zero) communication before you meet. Creates more room for progression 2 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted August 28, 2017 Share Posted August 28, 2017 Elaborate pls TFY I'd like to hear a guy's perspective on this I'm referencing another thread/poster..Nothing to do with your deal.. On a side note, why is it when this thread comes up, I see it as ****Any Mutilating Tips??***** I was going to suggest an axe or machete, perhaps a chainsaw for the heavy stuff.... TFY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted August 28, 2017 Author Share Posted August 28, 2017 This would be no big deal to me before meeting, considering you gave him your number last night and are meeting tomorrow and there are still hours left in the day today. Plus it's not a big change from his usual patterns of messaging twice a day, if I have that right. He just needs to message you by early tomorrow so that you know it's on. It's good to have less (not zero) communication before you meet. Creates more room for progression Hey Olive Interesting perspective and I cant say I disagree I'll give him until tomorrow but if I dont hear from him...I'll assume the date is off And if that does happen....that will be the second, successive first date that has fallen to the way side since I started up OLD again 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted August 28, 2017 Share Posted August 28, 2017 This would be no big deal to me before meeting, considering you gave him your number last night and are meeting tomorrow and there are still hours left in the day today. Plus it's not a big change from his usual patterns of messaging twice a day, if I have that right. He just needs to message you by early tomorrow so that you know it's on. It's good to have less (not zero) communication before you meet. Creates more room for progression Perhaps. I guess it depends if he's been on/saw it. I just feel like if someone gives number you should acknowledge it. I always do if I'm interested. I don' think you should leave a girl hanging, wondering... waiting all day to reach out...Or at least I wouldn't Seems like so many guys these days are passive man-children??? This guy, the rapper guy who flaked, No_Go's guy, some guy I had to tell I didn't wanna message anymore to ask me on a date then made me basically plan the details. It's like they're not even making effort anymore. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted August 28, 2017 Share Posted August 28, 2017 Perhaps. I guess it depends if he's been on/saw it. I just feel like if someone gives number you should acknowledge it. I always do if I'm interested. I don' think you should leave a girl hanging, wondering... waiting all day to reach out...Or at least I wouldn't Seems like so many guys these days are passive man-children??? This guy, the rapper guy who flaked, No_Go's guy, some guy I had to tell I didn't wanna message anymore to ask me on a date then made me basically plan the details. It's like they're not even making effort anymore. Because we made it too easy for them 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted August 28, 2017 Author Share Posted August 28, 2017 Perhaps. I guess it depends if he's been on/saw it. I just feel like if someone gives number you should acknowledge it. I always do if I'm interested. I don' think you should leave a girl hanging, wondering... waiting all day to reach out...Or at least I wouldn't Totally agree with this Cookies. Took the words right out of my mouth. Many times, the guy gives me his number first and I always text him fairly soon after that. This guy was always a slow messager but now his pace is at a stand still. I dont like it. It a huge turn off but I'm trying not be level headed about it at the same time Seems like so many guys these days are passive man-children??? This guy, the rapper guy who flaked, No_Go's guy, some guy I had to tell I didn't wanna message anymore to ask me on a date then made me basically plan the details. It's like they're not even making effort anymore. Ya, pretty sad state of affairs. The reason why I was excited about this guy was because he nailed down a time, date and place without me even hinting at a date. That was a turn on. Now.. *crickets* 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted August 28, 2017 Author Share Posted August 28, 2017 Because we made it too easy for them I really didnt make it easy for either guy though I didnt make them jump through hoops but I didnt do all the leg work either 1 Link to post Share on other sites
No_Go Posted August 28, 2017 Share Posted August 28, 2017 I really didnt make it easy for either guy though I didnt make them jump through hoops but I didnt do all the leg work either Maybe he's playing dating games that he read somewhere - e.g. Not to look too interested etc. it is all BS but some men fall into this trap of advice. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dis Posted August 28, 2017 Author Share Posted August 28, 2017 Maybe he's playing dating games that he read somewhere - e.g. Not to look too interested etc. it is all BS but some men fall into this trap of advice. Oh this could def be the case But if he is playing games in the hope it'll make him appear more desirable or whatever .... he's sadly going to lose 2 Link to post Share on other sites
olivetree Posted August 28, 2017 Share Posted August 28, 2017 Perhaps. I guess it depends if he's been on/saw it. I just feel like if someone gives number you should acknowledge it. I always do if I'm interested. I don' think you should leave a girl hanging, wondering... waiting all day to reach out...Or at least I wouldn't Seems like so many guys these days are passive man-children??? This guy, the rapper guy who flaked, No_Go's guy, some guy I had to tell I didn't wanna message anymore to ask me on a date then made me basically plan the details. It's like they're not even making effort anymore. He might think that his first text to OP is when he will acknowledge that he got her #. I dunno, I'm more forgiving for simple stuff like this in the beginning / before meeting, even though it's not ideal. Some people just aren't big on communicating a lot before meeting so that there is more to talk about in person. Some also don't feel the need to acknowledge every little thing in texts. You can communicate your preferences once you know them a bit more though. If you don't hear from him by early tomorrow then absolutely write him off. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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