Nadijda19 Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 i posted a picture for me and one of my guy friend on facebook. He is just a friend we were setting too close. me and my boyfriend were on and off for two years. he texted me who is this guy. I told him he is just a friend. He told me you are setting too close to him, and female and male friends don't set together cheek to cheek. i told him it's not his business, and my guy friend is more important to me than him. i didn't mean that. i was angry at him.... i tried to make him jealous, but we didn't talk for a weak. what should i do Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 You should get a new BF. This on again off again merry go round is unhealthy. It alone tells me your relationship is dysfunctional. The fact that your BF thinks he can control where you sit or how close you sit to somebody for a picture is ridiculous. He's not your father or your jailer. He clearly doesn't trust you & you can't have a relationship without trust. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 (edited) Never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never ever attempt to make a guy jealous. That will blow up in your face every time. You best bet is to tell your bf the truth, but I take it your relationship wasn't in a good spot to begin with if you felt the need to use that tactic. On/off relationships are usually toxic Edited August 24, 2017 by Cookiesandough 10 Link to post Share on other sites
umirano Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 Don't try to manipulate people. Especially not those who you claim to love and respect. If you want to fix your relationship you will need to offer a heart-felt apology, but something tells me this boat has sailed. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 snip *i tried to make him jealous, but we didn't talk for a weak. what should i do *There is your mistake. Nothing good ever comes of it. Don't ever do that again. Take care. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
act00 Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 You have a rocky relationship. You have a friendship with a male who, apparently, you get all snuggly and touchy with and flirt, and then you posted a picture with a purpose of invoking jealousy on your BF's part...which backfired, it always does. Your relationship with this guy is not working, and when you feel like you have to stoop to such levels as trying to make him jealous with a so-called platonic friend, it really speaks volumes. Forget this guy and move on to someone more suitable for you. It will spare you both some serious heartache. If you have to resort to playing games and hurtful actions, which you think will invoke a positive response, there's something seriously wrong...and this is after two years of "on again, off again." He probably decided, "He can have her, I'm out." Drama and games are not a good foundation. You told him that this guy is of higher importance then him. Words are hard to get over. You can't take them back. You can apologize, but it's always there, and your behavior backs it up. You reap what you sow. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 Why were you trying to make your boyfriend jealous? That's plain immature, girl. You can also see that it backfires. But if you two have been on-and-off for two years, it sounds like this isn't going anywhere good anyway. Time to find a new boyfriend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 He has a good self esteem and you tried to manipulate him. He saw right through your actions and words. Move on. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 Reality check: you two don't get along, and it's time to call it quits. Maybe this guy friend would be a better option for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 You should get a new BF. This on again off again merry go round is unhealthy. It alone tells me your relationship is dysfunctional. The fact that your BF thinks he can control where you sit or how close you sit to somebody for a picture is ridiculous. He's not your father or your jailer. He clearly doesn't trust you & you can't have a relationship without trust. Its amazing how blinded we can get just to justify something. Any girlfriend that is sitting cheek to cheek with some guy is done. Boyfriend knew what was going down and called her out. Quick way to a break-up if your dating me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Deonce Posted August 25, 2017 Share Posted August 25, 2017 (edited) i posted a picture for me and one of my guy friend on facebook. He is just a friend we were setting too close. me and my boyfriend were on and off for two years. he texted me who is this guy. I told him he is just a friend. He told me you are setting too close to him, and female and male friends don't set together cheek to cheek. i told him it's not his business, and my guy friend is more important to me than him. i didn't mean that. i was angry at him.... i tried to make him jealous, but we didn't talk for a weak. what should i do Sounds to me like you lost a boyfriend who respects himself. I'd have broken up with you only for that picture.. not to mention how disrespectful your other comments were towards him. Edited August 25, 2017 by Deonce Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted August 25, 2017 Share Posted August 25, 2017 If a house is sitting on a rocky/unstable foundation, you don't kick any of the rocks because you're pissed off in the moment . . . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nadijda19 Posted August 25, 2017 Author Share Posted August 25, 2017 If a house is sitting on a rocky/unstable foundation, you don't kick any of the rocks because you're pissed off in the moment . . . Please explain further?.... What do you mean? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nadijda19 Posted August 25, 2017 Author Share Posted August 25, 2017 thanks all for all your replies, i texted him and he seemed normal not upset or angry or anything we didn't talk about it what do you think???? should i apology to him and tell him i was angry at the moment i really want this to work out.... Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted August 25, 2017 Share Posted August 25, 2017 thanks all for all your replies, i texted him and he seemed normal not upset or angry or anything we didn't talk about it what do you think???? should i apology to him and tell him i was angry at the moment i really want this to work out.... Then stop playing childish games!! If you have to fight to get his attention then you are making yourself undesirable because you like a child or he's not that into you. Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted August 25, 2017 Share Posted August 25, 2017 (edited) thanks all for all your replies, i texted him and he seemed normal not upset or angry or anything we didn't talk about it what do you think???? should i apology to him and tell him i was angry at the moment i really want this to work out.... You sound young and not experience enough to figure out why you do and why you don't yet. Now posting stuff on face book can be a lot of trouble. Got issues now to deal with. Don't say sorry to anyone except yourself. Pull the picture down and put up a smiley face of the sun instead. Guys will be guys if they did comment on the picture you know they're interested in you still, if they didn't talk to you ever again will you know he's not into you like you had thought he was. Catch 22 "he likes me or he doesn't like me" You got your answer! Now you said you really wanted this to work out then go to him and say that to his face don't text or call. Hold him and say to his face look into his eyes show a little water in your eyes. Guys like us like that. That means you really into this guy head over heels.. Just play it right and it should fall into place. Hopefully he doesn't have another girl in tow.. Good luck my child! Edited August 25, 2017 by coolheadal Link to post Share on other sites
umirano Posted August 25, 2017 Share Posted August 25, 2017 I wouldn't say everything is fine just because he has not mentioned it. If you want to be sure, and if you in fact understand why he was upset, tell him that you know what upset him, and that you will not do it again. Yes, you make yourself vulnerable, but that's precisely what's necessary sometimes. If he loves you he will appreciate it and be relieved. Link to post Share on other sites
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