elaine567 Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 If a woman has a new car, college degree, and high paying job and the guy doesnt... most often these relationships have a higher rate of failing... actually the divorce rate is higher. Is that really any surprise? From the link, the more she earned the more housework she did, presumably to compensate the man for feeling "less than"... AND So the author found that a man is more likely to cheat on his partner if he is more financially dependent on her. And men who are completely dependent on their girlfriends or wives are five times more likely to cheat than men who earn the same amount as their partners. And the explanation given here was basically the same as the housework thing. So it's basically about kind of men feeling like they need to conform to society's definitions of masculinity. And of course if she is earning more and not happy, doing more than her share of the housework, with a cheating spouse, then she can just walk away too. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 I have found that it is not my intelligence that threatens men. It is independence for me. I feel ya. It takes a strong man to be with a strong woman and vice versa. I don't want someone I can control and I don't wish to be controlled either. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
shellybing Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 I feel ya. It takes a strong man to be with a strong woman and vice versa. I don't want someone I can control and I don't wish to be controlled either. You know, I am a woman in my mid 30's. I have lived a full life. I have been through a lot! Abusive relationships, bad childhood. I feel like I came out okay on the other end of it all. I have come to terms with a lot of things in my life. Right now, my son is dieing. I am not dating, but when we found out he was going to die and ended up on hospice care, my ex bailed out on me. We cancelled the wedding and everything. I take care of my own business. I am a full time single parent with full custody. I make it with no child support. . .and then these men.. I have had 3 realtioships over 6 years since my divorce and they just want to come in and take over my life like they own me. I am sooo done with that. I have plans. . . .omg and then get mad because I won't let him take the credit haha. #nope 1 Link to post Share on other sites
knabe Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 You know, I am a woman in my mid 30's. I have lived a full life. I have been through a lot! Abusive relationships, bad childhood. I feel like I came out okay on the other end of it all. I have come to terms with a lot of things in my life. Right now, my son is dieing. I am not dating, but when we found out he was going to die and ended up on hospice care, my ex bailed out on me. We cancelled the wedding and everything. I take care of my own business. I am a full time single parent with full custody. I make it with no child support. . .and then these men.. I have had 3 realtioships over 6 years since my divorce and they just want to come in and take over my life like they own me. I am sooo done with that. I have plans. . . .omg and then get mad because I won't let him take the credit haha. #nope Sounds like your man picker needs some work. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 You know, I am a woman in my mid 30's. I have lived a full life. I have been through a lot! Abusive relationships, bad childhood. I feel like I came out okay on the other end of it all. I have come to terms with a lot of things in my life. Right now, my son is dieing. I am not dating, but when we found out he was going to die and ended up on hospice care, my ex bailed out on me. We cancelled the wedding and everything. I take care of my own business. I am a full time single parent with full custody. I make it with no child support. . .and then these men.. I have had 3 realtioships over 6 years since my divorce and they just want to come in and take over my life like they own me. I am sooo done with that. I have plans. . . .omg and then get mad because I won't let him take the credit haha. #nope I'm so sorry about your son x I have to agree with knabe....your man picker might need some tweaking because why should they need to move into your place? Where's their house? If you say they don't have one then maybe go tell them to go build one and then get back to you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
shellybing Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 I definitely agree my man picker needs work I have just decided not to date and focus on my personal goals and self. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 I definitely agree my man picker needs work I have just decided not to date and focus on my personal goals and self. Sorry for your personal troubles....That sounds terrible...My best to you ... Probably a good idea to put it on hold...Who knows? Sometimes that's when the perfect person enters your life... Be well TFY 3 Link to post Share on other sites
shellybing Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 my son.....has an illness. I have known for most of his life that this time would come and have come to terms and accepted it for what it is. All I have ever done is try to live well, and good. It is difficult because i have a big heart, and men with no values or morals choose to extort that. I will never be the same after the last one. . .calling off a wedding after the whole world thinks he is going to adopt my kids. (At his own suggestion) then leave because he can't be a grown up about it all. I just cannot understand why cheaters can't just fess up and leave. I would rather just be done with it without all of the drama and mess. Sit me down and tell me there is someone else. Save us all the drama. Please. Thank You all for the support 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 Is that really any surprise? From the link, the more she earned the more housework she did, presumably to compensate the man for feeling "less than"... AND And of course if she is earning more and not happy, doing more than her share of the housework, with a cheating spouse, then she can just walk away too. What I have pointed out time after time is this.. actually, in 1 in 3 of those cases, the woman's only earning more because her husband isn't earning anything at all. Western women desirability to get with unreliable/bad boy/fixer upper man because the nice guy doesn't give her the "spark" she needs and than when life gets real and bills pile up and the kids are running amok. She realize the spark doesn't want to clean or do diapers.. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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