Lobouspo Posted August 25, 2017 Share Posted August 25, 2017 What's the fine line in a relationship? I know generally "spying", checking your partner's phone, social media is generally a big sign of insecurity, but at what point is it justified? I personally know people who have caught their SO's cheating by checking their phone and/or email. So at one end you can be this insecure needy troll always looking for the other shoe to drop, but if you ignore warning signs you can also be a total doormat letting this person betray and cheat on you without check. At what point for you would or have you check on an SO if you thought something just wasn't right? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 25, 2017 Share Posted August 25, 2017 It's a fine line. I guess the technical time it would be justified is if you already KNOW they are cheating without a doubt but they are gaslighting you so you need to prove that you know it. But truth is, none of that is going to help much. I mean, the upshot of it all is, once you've lost trust, it's very hard to salvage a happy relationship out of it. And you can't monitor someone into not cheating. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted August 25, 2017 Share Posted August 25, 2017 There is no need for secrets in a relationship. Next when one has a feeling in their gut that something is wrong what is said on the forums when concerning infidelity is that the gut is never wrong. So it's time to investigate. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted August 26, 2017 Share Posted August 26, 2017 The day I suspect there might be another woman will be time for me to leave. Now I trust my instinct. I did, in the past, snoop on my bf because I suspected he was cheating and yes what I found confirmed he was cheating. That still does not justify snooping. What lead me to snooping should have been enough for me to end the relationship. I should not have looked for a confirmation. When a man acts like he is having an affair and he's not touching you anymore a woman does not need to snoop, she leaves. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted August 26, 2017 Share Posted August 26, 2017 I think part of the equation involves asking yourself whether or not you are a suspicious person in general. If a person who has always been trusting finds themselves in a situation which raises alarm, then there may be something in it. But if a person has baggage which has a created a situation where they don't trust anyone, then they need to further question whether or not there truly are red flags. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted August 26, 2017 Share Posted August 26, 2017 If you don't trust the person enough not to snoop through their stuff you have no business being in a relationship with them. Trufax. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted August 26, 2017 Share Posted August 26, 2017 The day I suspect there might be another woman will be time for me to leave. Now I trust my instinct. I did, in the past, snoop on my bf because I suspected he was cheating and yes what I found confirmed he was cheating. That still does not justify snooping. What lead me to snooping should have been enough for me to end the relationship. I should not have looked for a confirmation. When a man acts like he is having an affair and he's not touching you anymore a woman does not need to snoop, she leaves. You or anyone in your shoes was not wrong to investigate. Link to post Share on other sites
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