Proposing marriage after 4 months of dating...huge red flags or true love?

[chargersfan]

I recently had a close friend accept a marriage proposal after 4 months of dating. He seems nice enough, but 4 months seems so fast to me. I'm sure it works out in various instances, but to accept a lifelong commitment after 4 months of dating in the best stage of all, seems quick.

 

My friend is divorced, nearing mid-30's, and has one preteen daughter (she's obviously introduced him to this guy).

 

Would you tell your friend anything? Voice your concern? Or should I just be happy for her. She's very pretty, educated, and her stuff together. The guy seems cool and has a good job. He lives at home with his relatives and doesn't have nearly the stability she does, but he is continuing his education so I get it. He's over 30, as well, no kids.

 

I guess it seemed kinda rushed and he keeps thanking her on Instagram for "taking a chance" on a guy like him and accepting him for who he is and who is not. A common theme in his posts. Maybe I'm jaded because I got engaged after 3 months and we are now divorcing (I'm gay, though, so take that for what you wil).

 

Would you be concerned for your friend? Everyone is happy for her, so maybe it's just me.

[mrs rubble]

I'd say nothing. I got engaged after 4 months too, our engagement lasted 5years and we've been married for 6 months now. Very, very happy. We both knew after 4 months we wanted to be together.

[Gaeta]

My 43 year old cousin just married a woman he met online 3 months before. There is nothing you can do. We tried to knock some common sense into him for weeks and nothing got through to him. He's an adult man he can take care of himself.

[SevenCity]

If this person is your friend, be happy for them.

 

If it doesn't work out, be there to support them.

 

That's what friends do. I learned a long time ago no one likes when you piss in their cornflakes....even if you are right.

 

My sister got married to a guy quickly (not as quick as your friend) and no one likes him (he seems like a jerk). I never, ever said a word to her. I'll be there for her if it works, I'll be there for her if it doesn't.

 

You are projecting your view of the world because of your experience (gay or not - doesn't matter). Their view of the world is different.

[SevenCity]

My 43 year old cousin just married a woman he met online 3 months before. There is nothing you can do. We tried to knock some common sense into him for weeks and nothing got through to him. He's an adult man he can take care of himself.

 

This is why you are better off keeping your mouth shut.