guy45 Posted August 26, 2017 Share Posted August 26, 2017 I'm at a point in my life where everything just seems to be going wrong. I've been single for about 3 months, and without many people to talk to, and by that I mean the friendships I have aren't very strong. My best friend of ten years which I've know since high school recently stopped talking to me. I suspect he might be dating my ex or maybe I'm overthinking it, but either way that bothers me a lot because talking to him gave me some comfort in my life at least. I have friends at my college but they don't seem like the kind of people that will be there for you. Any advice on getting my life back on track would be greatly appreciated. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 26, 2017 Share Posted August 26, 2017 Well, I hope he isn't dating your ex, but if he is, he isn't a good friend to keep anyway. Maybe it's not that. Maybe he's just busy. Do you have any friends in common you could ask to find out what he's up to? I just suggest that you keep talking to different people at college and maybe one or two of them will stick. If you don't like the ones you know now, just go up and talk to one who also seems to not already have a best friend and get to know them. It can't hurt. Usually you will meet some people in college that will be lifelong friends. So maybe your breakup made you a little less social and you just need to be the one to reach out and seek out new friends. Good luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author guy45 Posted August 26, 2017 Author Share Posted August 26, 2017 Well, I hope he isn't dating your ex, but if he is, he isn't a good friend to keep anyway. Maybe it's not that. Maybe he's just busy. Do you have any friends in common you could ask to find out what he's up to? I just suggest that you keep talking to different people at college and maybe one or two of them will stick. If you don't like the ones you know now, just go up and talk to one who also seems to not already have a best friend and get to know them. It can't hurt. Usually you will meet some people in college that will be lifelong friends. So maybe your breakup made you a little less social and you just need to be the one to reach out and seek out new friends. Good luck. Thanks preraph, I don't know anyone else that knows him unfortunately. This might sound funny but he hasn't had internet in his house for years and ever since he got it, although he did have a smart phone, he started not taking to me as much if at all. I still find it strange though him not talking to me though to be related to that. Either way your right I have to find new friends. Transitions aren't always easy but I suppose I will get through it. Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted August 26, 2017 Share Posted August 26, 2017 Joining a club helped me after my divorce. I met a whole new circle of friends who had similar interests. Good luck! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 I am sorry to hear, but I can tell you that you and everyone will go through dark periods like this at least once. You'll be ok. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 27, 2017 Share Posted August 27, 2017 I bet if he just got internet he's online trying to date or something. Link to post Share on other sites
Author guy45 Posted August 28, 2017 Author Share Posted August 28, 2017 Well turns out my friend was busy playing video games online since he got internet Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted August 28, 2017 Share Posted August 28, 2017 (edited) Lol, gaming binge. Been there. People start wondering if you're still alive. Glad to hear he's resurfaced Edited August 28, 2017 by Cookiesandough Link to post Share on other sites
ZA Dater Posted August 28, 2017 Share Posted August 28, 2017 I like to think one aspect of life can be dark but you should never let it darken your whole life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 29, 2017 Share Posted August 29, 2017 So maybe he got addicted to video games and is blowing off the rest of his friends and obligations? Yikes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted August 29, 2017 Share Posted August 29, 2017 Lol, gaming binge. Been there. People start wondering if you're still alive. Glad to hear he's resurfaced Ever feel like you're in the game you've been playing? It's weird, but kinda trippy. :S Hey guy45. Well, I'm glad things got sorted out with your friend, but I would suggest 2 things: 1. Try not to rely too heavily on another person as a type of emotional security. At the least, not just one person in particular. Which leads to... 2. Go find some new friends! If the ones you met at college aren't that great, keep looking for some more. College was a really good place for me to meet some very unique people that became cool friends. But I didn't only meet them in my dorms or in classes. I went walking around all over the campus at different hours and just approached random groups that looked like they were doing something interesting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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