***update*** We met and talked

[Redhead14]

Wow. Well I feel super lucky to be talking to you, everyone on this thread have really helped turn things around this evening and help to clarify things for me which is a relief as Ive been on the edge as it is for the last few months.

 

I fully appreciate the insight you've all given me. I'm still unsure as to why I don't come to these conclusions myself but am grateful there is a place such as here to chat. It stops me panicking and drowning in a sea of analysing what I've said and done and trying to work out where I've gone wrong. I wish you could have a personal adviser sitting on your shoulder sometimes - my brain just doesn't work the right way to make sense of these things.

 

Like I said earlier. You're too close to the situation. I want you to do a mental/emotional exercise when you can get some alone time and the house is quiet -- close your eyes. Visualize yourself in a glider circling over this situation. It's very peaceful and quiet up there. Glide around for a little while and enjoy the peacefulness then look down on it all from all the angles. (If you're scared of heights, this won't work at all for you But some people get some peace and clarity out of an exercise like this.

Edited September 1, 2017 by Redhead14

[weeble78]

Like I said earlier. You're too close to the situation. I want you to do a mental/emotional exercise when you can get some alone time and the house is quiet -- close your eyes. Visualize yourself in a glider circling over this situation. It's very peaceful and quiet up there. Glide around for a little while and enjoy the peacefulness then look down on it all from all the angles. (If you're scared of heights, this won't work at all for you But some people get some peace and clarity out of an exercise like this.[/QUOT

 

Ha luckily I'm not scared of heights. Thank you, I will try this tomorrow. It would be lovely to gain some perspective and already it helps me feel calmer.