kevinjinha Posted September 1, 2017 Share Posted September 1, 2017 (edited) Last night, was out with a bunch of buddies at a club and was trying to have a good time. Got a little tipsy, when I suddenly get a text message on instagram from one of my exes. I try to open it, and since she has me blocked, I couldn't read it. Out of curiosity I sent her a text message and asked her if she needed anything. I got responses like how I got her number, and I've always had it because of my iphone icloud storage. We had no hard feelings, as I apologized awhile ago. ( We dated over 4 years ago). Then she completely goes off on me saying I don't know her, (She has a boyfriend), and that she would like to remind how much of a piece of **** I am. She also accused me of stalking her house and called me a creep. Why would I stalk my ex girlfriend of 4-5 years ago... I was in high school, I'm a senior in college now. I started assuming she was on something, but then she said a statement that completely blew my mind. She said, "Your ex wouldn't lie to me." I recently had a horrible break up with someone that I really loved, about 8 months ago. So I assumed that they started talking about me, and my ex of 4 years decided it was a good idea to message me through text message to remind me how much of a piece of **** I am. I am a lot older and mature than I was when I was 18, (23 now) so I was extremely confused. Under the influence, I decide to fire back at her saying "Why would I stalk someone I rejected", etc etc, lead on to me blocking her number. The reason why I am writing this post is that, I feel really guilty about it. I gave my recent ex the most love in the world, and she broke my heart and decided to talk to my other ex years ago to spark some fire that has been gone for years. I feel like I'm disliked and it really opened up my eyes if I should self-improve myself for my next girlfriend, because I don't want this to ever happen again. I have moved on with my life, but the fact that they decided to message me and talk **** about me till this day just makes me wonder what I did wrong to fire this hate. My recent ex girlfriend cheated on me after 4 years of dating, so I'm surprised she can even open her mouth. If you read my old posts I was extremely heart -broken, but I am better now. I need your help, I want to understand why I'm feeling this way, I feel like the whole world is against me (I have severe depression and anxiety) and my ex-girlfriends made it worse. Are their thoughts valid or still relevant? Thanks. Edited September 1, 2017 by kevinjinha Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 1, 2017 Share Posted September 1, 2017 If I were you I'd be good & angry. The types of people who reach out for their partner's EXs are pot stirrers & drama queens (no matter their gender). For your recent EX to be in contact with your previous EX was wrong. For an EX of 4 years ago to reach out to in some attempt to avenge the recent EX borders on psycho. If your long ago EX was over you, she would not have ever engaged your recent EX and more importantly she would not have cared enough to reach out to you. Stay away from all these people. Your life will be better off. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author kevinjinha Posted September 1, 2017 Author Share Posted September 1, 2017 If I were you I'd be good & angry. The types of people who reach out for their partner's EXs are pot stirrers & drama queens (no matter their gender). For your recent EX to be in contact with your previous EX was wrong. For an EX of 4 years ago to reach out to in some attempt to avenge the recent EX borders on psycho. If your long ago EX was over you, she would not have ever engaged your recent EX and more importantly she would not have cared enough to reach out to you. Stay away from all these people. Your life will be better off. Thank you! It was really really strange why they would hit me up, I felt like it was extremely toxic. I just hope this doesn't happen to anybody else that I'm with in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
Methodical Posted September 1, 2017 Share Posted September 1, 2017 Sounds like you have done a lot of maturing over the past few years. Sadly, the same can't be said for your exes. The most recent ex contacting HS ex was childish. HS ex lashing out the way she did... Well, she may have a bf now, but her vehement reaction shows she carries emotional scars and they run deep, even years later. You can't undo the past so move forward. Delete, Block, and Ignore future contact for your own sake. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author kevinjinha Posted September 1, 2017 Author Share Posted September 1, 2017 Sounds like you have done a lot of maturing over the past few years. Sadly, the same can't be said for your exes. The most recent ex contacting HS ex was childish. HS ex lashing out the way she did... Well, she may have a bf now, but her vehement reaction shows she carries emotional scars and they run deep, even years later. You can't undo the past so move forward. Delete, Block, and Ignore future contact for your own sake. Thank you, I understand that , and I hope they move on as well. I am completely over them both, so it's just odd to me that she would hit me up years later. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted September 1, 2017 Share Posted September 1, 2017 Smart, mature people know there are two sides to a story and how to identify reliable sources for information and how to read other people. A smart person would consider the source. There are usually two sides to a story. It's kinda interesting that that ex from 4 or 5 years ago is still on a tear over that relationship. It sounds to me like you really dodged a bullet or you really hosed her over My point is, either way, she hasn't matured much and this girl who blew up on you isn't either. Don't beat yourself up. It's just negative press. The best way to deal with it, in this case, is to ignore it. When they have someone else's yard to crap in, they'll forget about yours . . . It's not the whole world, it's just two immature women-girls flinging poop like monkeys at the zoo 2 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted September 1, 2017 Share Posted September 1, 2017 I'm not surprised you are confused; it sounds very odd. Best not to believe what one ex says about another. They may not have been in contact after all. It could be that your 4-5 year ex is going through a bad patch or drinking too much and decided to mess about with her phone. I would put this down to bizarre behaviour on her part and not worry about it. Most of us have made mistakes with exs. It is hard to reject someone and the person rejected tends to feel hurt, whatever we do. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted September 1, 2017 Share Posted September 1, 2017 Sorry that happened. Bad enough breakups are painful without them getting reignited through no fault of your own. However, that said, what you might do as an exercise once you calm down is kind of go through both these relationships piece by piece and each piece, reverse roles, that what you did in this instance, it was her doing it to you. So for instance, random example, if she used to get mad because you agreed to clean up the kitchen, but then you didn't do it and said you forgot, imagine if she had agreed to clean up the kitchen but she didn't do it, and when you got mad, she said she forgot. Do unto others, you know. Sometimes looking at it that simply can make you see how infuriating you are:o Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts