I dislike how effective playing hard to get is

[Redhead14]

Fair enough.

 

But it goes both ways. You as a woman have to show you are worth all that. You don't show it by just sitting around waiting for the guy to do all the work while you lye back in judgement lol.

 

I agree. If you like the man, in the beginning, you let him lead and show you his sincerity, interest level and the woman is receptive. Very shortly, she should start initiating and being reciprocal so that he doesn't feel like he's doing all the work. It should balance out fairly soon if there is enough mutual interest.