Just seperated, what are some successful techniques for this game

[smd001]

Just separated from wife 4 days ago. Been married only 4 months, dated for almost 2 years. She said she wanted a divorce during heated argument. She shutdown on me after that for about 2 months. She still wears her ring. I tried staying in other room, but I got depressed and decided that I needed to move out to get myself together. I am actually feeling good.

 

For those with marriage reconciliation success.

 

What are the techniques to get her back that worked? Do I just wait and let her make the moves? Should I date other folks?

 

I made a mistake the other night and called late night, she said the classic-"you have not changed, you are still selfish". Only communication is our morning e-mails saying we made it to work safely.

 

I feel she still loves and cares for me. I think she is confused between me and ex.

[debilou]

My only advice is http://www.marriagebuilders.com.

 

Good luck, you'll do fine!

 

Debilou

[New_Wife]

counseling. My hubby and I went to premarital counseling. best choice we ever made. It's amazing what stupid things can piss you off, or what issues you completely didn't see coming.

[smd001]

We also went to pre marital counseling. One of the things that I made not of, was that I do not know how to deal with her when she shutsdown. While dating, she would only shutdown for a day or 2. While married, it has turned into 6 weeks.

[clandestinidad]

Did the 2 of you live together b/f you got married??

 

I ask b/c if not, her 'shutdown' might be longer now that youre married b/c she doesnt really have time away from you like she did when yall were just dating.....I dunno

 

And I wish I had some advice about reconciliation, but I dont....it was never a possibility in my separation/divorce. I wish you all the best through this, and I'm glad to hear that youre doing well lately