Author HiCrunchy Posted October 27, 2017 Author Share Posted October 27, 2017 I'm kind of the same way, but then there's no telling when I will find someone attractive. For me, it's more about who they are. I'm with you on celebs. For me, most actors are too plain vanilla mainstream for me and I only find a couple attractive. Don't worry about that. Not sure what people see in celebs half the time to be honest. That is the perfect way to describe it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HiCrunchy Posted December 18, 2017 Author Share Posted December 18, 2017 (edited) With the year coming to an end Edited December 18, 2017 by HiCrunchy Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted December 22, 2017 Share Posted December 22, 2017 don't worry about it l've never been attracted to many women either, mine are rare. l dunno what the thing is for celebs either, l've rarely had any interest in any of them in that way. Though l do love hearing about all the money they make haha, l can dream right. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
heartbrokenlady Posted December 22, 2017 Share Posted December 22, 2017 Hi Crunchy, I identify. I'm almost never attracted to anyone either, and I'm at the other end of life to you. For me, attraction is an intellectual thing. If I click with someone's mind, then I can build an attraction. George Cloony, Jonny Depp etc, nothing. Never knew what others saw in them. But really, in my entire life, there have been 4 or 5 men I have been attracted to. I had relationships with 2 of them. You're not alone in this. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Minnie09 Posted December 22, 2017 Share Posted December 22, 2017 Same. Not attracted to most. Celebrities don’t do it for me, either. I’m attracted to intellect and personality, but apparently that isn’t around much in the area in which I live. Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted December 22, 2017 Share Posted December 22, 2017 Me too. I only get attracted when I know the person and there is a connection. Link to post Share on other sites
heartbrokenlady Posted December 24, 2017 Share Posted December 24, 2017 I'm envious of those that can be attracted based on looks alone. Must make things so much easier. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HiCrunchy Posted December 29, 2017 Author Share Posted December 29, 2017 I'm envious of those that can be attracted based on looks alone. Must make things so much easier. I am attracted to looks and personality. Not just looks alone. Even then I do still have a physical type. Someone can be smart and fun to talk to but physically need to be attracted to them to be in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
nospam99 Posted December 30, 2017 Share Posted December 30, 2017 So many ladies around here that don't care about looks. It's a wonder any of those good lookin dudes can even get dates. I'm gonna have to change up the advice I give guys around here. Forget going to the gym, losing weight, or any of that other physical nonsense. Evidently, the ladies don't care about that stuff. You struggling guys, you need to just read more books, maybe pick up a Rubik's Cube, stuff like that. See how that works out for y'all. Smartass. Methinks the ladies doth protest too strongly their disinterest in the physical appearance of such gentlemen as myself and perhaps you as well. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HiCrunchy Posted December 30, 2017 Author Share Posted December 30, 2017 (edited) So many ladies around here that don't care about looks. It's a wonder any of those good lookin dudes can even get dates. I'm gonna have to change up the advice I give guys around here. Forget going to the gym, losing weight, or any of that other physical nonsense. Evidently, the ladies don't care about that stuff. You struggling guys, you need to just read more books, maybe pick up a Rubik's Cube, stuff like that. See how that works out for y'all. I'd say I care but I am in the minority lol Edited December 30, 2017 by HiCrunchy Link to post Share on other sites
nospam99 Posted December 30, 2017 Share Posted December 30, 2017 I'd say I care but I am in the minority lol Why in the minority? Because you care? Because you'd SAY so? Both? Link to post Share on other sites
Author HiCrunchy Posted December 31, 2017 Author Share Posted December 31, 2017 I'd say I care but I am in the minority lol Why in the minority? Because you care? Because you'd SAY so? Both? So many ladies around here that don't care about looks. It's a wonder any of those good lookin dudes can even get dates. I'm gonna have to change up the advice I give guys around here. Forget going to the gym, losing weight, or any of that other physical nonsense. Evidently, the ladies don't care about that stuff. You struggling guys, you need to just read more books, maybe pick up a Rubik's Cube, stuff like that. See how that works out for y'all. Well alot of advice from women on the thread seem to be like they don’t care for looks so I’d think that I’m in the minority Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 (edited) Have you tried dating guys outside of your taste? You might feel it is a waste of time, and at first it may be, but you might eventually be surprised by someone outside of your type who charms you. Edited January 1, 2018 by Cookiesandough Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 There is nothing wrong with not being attracted to a lot of different men. It just means you're selective and like what you like. No shame in that Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 Well alot of advice from women on the thread seem to be like they don’t care for looks so I’d think that I’m in the minority It's a lie. They do care for looks. They have simply hit a point where they are willing to date and potentially marry a man that they don't find attractive. They don't care to have strong sexual chemistry or whatnot. Some of them are also likely lower down the attractive scale so their standards are lower. I spent a good amount of time as an athlete. I've seen those women who say looks don't matter bend over backwards to get with me while ignoring uglier guys with better personalities. I've seen this at work first hand. So... in giving you advice I'm torn. If your standards are insane and they might be, then you should change what you are attracted to. If you routinely run across guys who fit what you like, then I believe you are just honest. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
CptInsano Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 Well alot of advice from women on the thread seem to be like they don’t care for looks so I’d think that I’m in the minority I don't think you're in the minority in the sense that I'm certain that most women care about looks. In my experience I would only believe a handful of them if they said that they don't. However, if you are truly that selective then your efforts to find that person will have to be proportionally higher to have a realistic chance of finding a match. It's as much a prerogative as it is a challenge. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 Nothing is wrong with you. I think you need to love yourself more. Take care of yourself. When you can love yourself fully (which takes time) then you’ll be ready to love a man and it will come to you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
heavenonearth Posted January 3, 2018 Share Posted January 3, 2018 Congratulations, you are a demi-sexual! That's ok, I am one too! I don't get sexually aroused by anyone but my partner. I am totally ok with that. It's a blessing. You just have to wait until you fall in love. And for that, you have all the time in the world. x 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HiCrunchy Posted January 3, 2018 Author Share Posted January 3, 2018 (edited) Have you tried dating guys outside of your taste? You might feel it is a waste of time, and at first it may be, but you might eventually be surprised by someone outside of your type who charms you. Yes I did that once. It lasted 3 weeks because I couldn't bring myself to kiss him. I left him and never got feelings for him in a romantic (or even a friendship sense). I wasn't attracted to him in anyway shape or form and my friends wondered why I was dating him at all. (He wasn't great personality wise either). I am open to having someone else charm me I suppose but I just end up "friend-zoning" them. I am very guilty of that I suppose. Not on purpose but they end up being really good friends but nothing develops relationship wise. I should go on more dates I guess. Edited January 3, 2018 by HiCrunchy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HiCrunchy Posted January 3, 2018 Author Share Posted January 3, 2018 Nothing is wrong with you. I think you need to love yourself more. Take care of yourself. When you can love yourself fully (which takes time) then you’ll be ready to love a man and it will come to you. Yes. It is strange how much I don't love myself. I remember the last convo with my ex. He told me "be good to yourself HiCrunchy". I have never forgotten that. He always told me I should love myself more. As have others in my life. I think that is my biggest goal this year. Thinking of this makes me miss him all over again. If I loved myself even a fraction as much as I loved him As much as I loved my sister, or mother, or friends, then maybe life would be more bearable. Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted January 6, 2018 Share Posted January 6, 2018 (edited) Yes I did that once. It lasted 3 weeks because I couldn't bring myself to kiss him. I left him and never got feelings for him in a romantic (or even a friendship sense). I wasn't attracted to him in anyway shape or form and my friends wondered why I was dating him at all. (He wasn't great personality wise either). I am open to having someone else charm me I suppose but I just end up "friend-zoning" them. I am very guilty of that I suppose. Not on purpose but they end up being really good friends but nothing develops relationship wise. I should go on more dates I guess. Yea I feel you. I hope you can learn to love yourself hicrunchy. You seem like an awesome person! Edited January 6, 2018 by Cookiesandough 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted February 14, 2018 Share Posted February 14, 2018 It's a lie. They do care for looks. They have simply hit a point where they are willing to date and potentially marry a man that they don't find attractive. They don't care to have strong sexual chemistry or whatnot. Some of them are also likely lower down the attractive scale so their standards are lower. I spent a good amount of time as an athlete. I've seen those women who say looks don't matter bend over backwards to get with me while ignoring uglier guys with better personalities. I've seen this at work first hand. So... in giving you advice I'm torn. If your standards are insane and they might be, then you should change what you are attracted to. If you routinely run across guys who fit what you like, then I believe you are just honest. Unfortunately, you may have a point. Funny, i read an article not long ago about how many people, marry someone they don't find particularly attractive. I am going through something similar, Crunchy, you're not alone. i don't think men as a whole are there are attractive. Sure, most people are average, but there are way more sexy looking women than men. Straight men don't have a big reason to try to make themselves look better because we have monogamy, or perhaps serial monogamy. In the past I tried dating men who i didn't find particularly attractive. They just about always came at me in a hyper sexual way. I would try to see if they could grow on me, but that could never happen. Despite what people on ls say, i havent found less attractive men to be nicer, more chivalrous, less overtly sexual, etc. Part of me says if i gotta deal with this, i will wait around for the attractive guy. I've met and dated some hotties, too. If op isn't physically attracted to most men, that's very understandable imo. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mike800 Posted February 14, 2018 Share Posted February 14, 2018 Unfortunately, you may have a point. Funny, i read an article not long ago about how many people, marry someone they don't find particularly attractive. I am going through something similar, Crunchy, you're not alone. i don't think men as a whole are there are attractive. Sure, most people are average, but there are way more sexy looking women than men. Straight men don't have a big reason to try to make themselves look better because we have monogamy, or perhaps serial monogamy. In the past I tried dating men who i didn't find particularly attractive. They just about always came at me in a hyper sexual way. I would try to see if they could grow on me, but that could never happen. Despite what people on ls say, i havent found less attractive men to be nicer, more chivalrous, less overtly sexual, etc. Part of me says if i gotta deal with this, i will wait around for the attractive guy. I've met and dated some hotties, too. If op isn't physically attracted to most men, that's very understandable imo. How old are you? I find once people hit a certain age they realize there are way more important factors then looks..not to say they don't matter at all but you become way less rigid on what you can be attracted to. Have you never been attracted to a average or ok looking guy? Are you just attracted to convenetinally good looking men? You say there aren't as many good looking men as women but maybe you're just too picky..What kind of standard do you have for men to be good looking? Do you expect men to look like some perfect Hollywood hunk actors? Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted February 14, 2018 Share Posted February 14, 2018 How old are you? I find once people hit a certain age they realize there are way more important factors then looks..not to say they don't matter at all but you become way less rigid on what you can be attracted to. Have you never been attracted to a average or ok looking guy? Are you just attracted to convenetinally good looking men? You say there aren't as many good looking men as women but maybe you're just too picky..What kind of standard do you have for men to be good looking? Do you expect men to look like some perfect Hollywood hunk actors? I'm 31. I used to make myself date less attractive men. It was easier when I was younger as I heavily romanticized dating. Like I said, I tried with less attractive guys, but they come at me in a very sexual way. I'm afraid the good looking men were all around different, not just the looks. Also, I work hard to be in shape. I don't feel like I should have to date a man with a pot belly just bc he's a man. Maybe if he were super romantic I could make myself deal with it, but nowadays it's more likely I'll get a pic of his junk than a live letter lol. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author HiCrunchy Posted February 14, 2018 Author Share Posted February 14, 2018 I'm 31. I used to make myself date less attractive men. It was easier when I was younger as I heavily romanticized dating. Like I said, I tried with less attractive guys, but they come at me in a very sexual way. I'm afraid the good looking men were all around different, not just the looks. Also, I work hard to be in shape. I don't feel like I should have to date a man with a pot belly just bc he's a man. Maybe if he were super romantic I could make myself deal with it, but nowadays it's more likely I'll get a pic of his junk than a live letter lol. Yep this happened to me as well, it was very off putting Link to post Share on other sites
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