Paljoey Posted September 6, 2017 Share Posted September 6, 2017 Got cheated on a couple months back. I'm over her now but I just want to be single and focus on work,school, my motorcycles. I feel that's unhealthy though and feel like the only way to get revenge is get a girl hotter then her. It ended okay. I didn't overreact or cry. I'm just totally thrown off at talking to women now. I haven't done it in a while. I feel like the only thing that got me over her was to not give a f@&$ and act wild at parties and with friends etc. need some advice. Anyone else turn into a total wild card after being heartbroken? Link to post Share on other sites
bummer Posted September 6, 2017 Share Posted September 6, 2017 Unhealthy to focus on things that drive your future forward? More healthy to go party and sleep around? It's totally cool to rebound and get your legs back under you. But Aristotle would caution that all things are best in moderation. Even motorcycles. But not helmets. More helmets is healthier. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Paljoey Posted September 6, 2017 Author Share Posted September 6, 2017 I see where your coming from. I feel like I only learn from my mistakes though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Paljoey Posted September 6, 2017 Author Share Posted September 6, 2017 What would you do in my situation? Link to post Share on other sites
bummer Posted September 6, 2017 Share Posted September 6, 2017 You're right. Me too. I would make sure you do what's in your best interest. Make sure you're working on your bikes, going to school, and working. Wear a helmet. Spend time making you a better person and you'll attract a better partner in the future. Post your frustrations about your cheating ex here. Last resort, do what you think is best. Go wild and get on Tinder. When you wake up and realize it meant nothing, wasn't that fun, and now you have to kick someone out of your bed, you'll go back to contently working on your bikes, going to school, and working... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Paljoey Posted September 6, 2017 Author Share Posted September 6, 2017 Excellent advice give yourself a pat on the back. All I need is a little reassurance. Thinking and even posting my frustrations about my cheating ex would be a waste. Like you said "went wild, wasn't that fun." Reminds me of her actions. In a way she did me a favor and made herself unattractive to me. Sexual attraction was the only thing keeping me around her. Link to post Share on other sites
bummer Posted September 7, 2017 Share Posted September 7, 2017 What era and what kind of motorcycles? Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 Got cheated on a couple months back. I'm over her now but I just want to be single and focus on work,school, my motorcycles. I feel that's unhealthy though and feel like the only way to get revenge is get a girl hotter then her. It ended okay. I didn't overreact or cry. I'm just totally thrown off at talking to women now. I haven't done it in a while. I feel like the only thing that got me over her was to not give a f@&$ and act wild at parties and with friends etc. need some advice. Anyone else turn into a total wild card after being heartbroken? focus on work,school, my motorcycles -- This is the healthiest thing you could possibly do. Revenge is unhealthy. The best revenge is you want to call it that, is to live your life, enjoy it and focus on YOU and nothing but your life and priorities and passions. Living a full life in spite of adversities says you are a strong, mature young man who doesn't waste a single minute of his precious life on negativity and fretting about things over which you have no control. Holding onto anger and resentment only gives her continued control and affect on you. Leave it behind. Karma will take care of her. Revenge never plays out in reality the way you see it in your mind . . . Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted September 9, 2017 Share Posted September 9, 2017 It sounds like you are still upset and angry with your ex, despite saying you are over her. You want revenge. While that is probably natural, revenge is best avoided. Not every girl cheats and you were unlucky. I know it feels rubbish and can make you question your worth/desirability, etc., but it is a learning experience. I bet most people have been cheated on at some point and most have had their hearts broken at some point. There are women out there who won't lie and cheat; remind yourself of that. After any upsetting experience, you are bound to feel disorientated and unsure how to assimilate things. I think you are right to stick to doing things that make you feel happy and are things that are meaningful to you. It is a way of finding your true self again. Avoid doing things that are dangerous or risky and forget about seeking revenge; you are better than that. Once you have begun to feel 'at home' with yourself again, you will be able to look outwards and start afresh re relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
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