What Does It Mean If...

[Imminence]

Your ex girlfriend wouldn't put up photos of you together on Facebook (even when you expressed that you wanted them to after they never would) and hid the in a relationship post from their Facebook timeline while with you, yet does this immediately with the person she is seeing now?

 

Why do ex's refuse to put information on their Facebook account with you while you are in a lengthy relationship with them, but do it instantly with the next person that they get with?

[bummer]

it means you shouldn't be looking at her FB.

[Imminence]

it means you shouldn't be looking at her FB.

What I am asking is why she wouldn't put these things up while we were in a relationship but she will now.

[bummer]

1. he's more attractive.

2. he's cooler.

3. he's more attractive than her friends' bfs.

4. he's cooler than her friends' bfs.

5. he knows magnum, blue steel, and le tigre and the appropriate occasion for each.

6. she likes him more.

7. she wants a future with him, more.

8. she learned her lesson for not posting photos with you and wants him to feel good about himself.

9. she finally learned the photo tag option.

10. her parents like him more.

11. her friends like him more.

12. her cat likes him more.

13. because she wants you to be jealous.

14. because she secretly wants you back?

15. most likely, he is getting on her account and posting them himself.

 

point is, it means something you no longer get to know because you aren't with her so it doesn't matter.

[Imminence]

1. he's more attractive.

2. he's cooler.

3. he's more attractive than her friends' bfs.

4. he's cooler than her friends' bfs.

5. he knows magnum, blue steel, and le tigre and the appropriate occasion for each.

6. she likes him more.

7. she wants a future with him, more.

8. she learned her lesson for not posting photos with you and wants him to feel good about himself.

9. she finally learned the photo tag option.

10. her parents like him more.

11. her friends like him more.

12. her cat likes him more.

13. because she wants you to be jealous.

14. because she secretly wants you back?

15. most likely, he is getting on her account and posting them himself.

 

point is, it means something you no longer get to know because you aren't with her so it doesn't matter.

 

Cheers. She used to live with her brother and his wife (she is in her early 20's) and said that family was the problem. There was a time where she had to change my conversation nickname because her brother was snooping through her messages. Later on in our relationship she wanted to rent and stay in an apartment. I believe that she is now - could it be because she is away from her family so she no longer feels uncomfortable posting this information?

 

She said that she didn't want to post these things because she didn't want her family finding out.

[bummer]

16. because she didn't want her family to know then, but now it's cool.

 

Maybe. Sounds like a weak excuse. And now she doesn't care what they think? Are you a felon or second cousin which would make knowing about you an issue?

 

If it lets you fall asleep sure, but really, it doesn't matter. Do you get my point?

[Imminence]

16. because she didn't want her family to know then, but now it's cool.

 

Maybe. Sounds like a weak excuse. And now she doesn't care what they think? Are you a felon or second cousin which would make knowing about you an issue?

 

If it lets you fall asleep sure, but really, it doesn't matter. Do you get my point?

Her brother and his wife can't snoop in her account or anything anymore.

 

In her culture you don't introduce your boyfriend or girlfriend to your family or parents until marriage. She is from an Asian background.

 

She has close family friends on her Facebook though and she has only been with him for about a week so I have doubts as to whether what she told me was true or just an excuse.

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[d0nnivain]

OP this other guy had the same issue & I will give you the same answer: she didn't post pictures of you because she was ashamed of the relationship. She was hiding you because you were her "dirty little secret". She didn't want anyone to know & she was using you.

 

Now that she's in a new relationship with another guy, she likes him better & is happily posting away. All the cultural excuses she gave you were lies.

 

Do yourself a favor & block her on all social media so you don't have to see this. Stop torturing yourself.

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[Frostedflake]

5. he knows magnum, blue steel, and le tigre and the appropriate occasion for each.

 

 

Bahaha. I'm dead.

[Imminence]

OP this other guy had the same issue & I will give you the same answer: she didn't post pictures of you because she was ashamed of the relationship. She was hiding you because you were her "dirty little secret". She didn't want anyone to know & she was using you.

 

Now that she's in a new relationship with another guy, she likes him better & is happily posting away. All the cultural excuses she gave you were lies.

 

Do yourself a favor & block her on all social media so you don't have to see this. Stop torturing yourself.

 

Her brother's wife has liked her relationship status Facebook post. When she was with me she hid it. He has gone to her house. She would refuse to introduce me to her family or invite me into her house even though I only lived (don't know if she has moved) one street down from her.

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[knabe]

[] This is now none of your business. Move on. This is making you look whiny and weak.

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[Gaeta]

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You were not her boyfriend. She used you and abused your kind and generous heart.

 

Block her everywhere and move on. She does not want you, she never did. It's useless to figure out why, just move on and go find a nice girl that wants to date you.

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[Imminence]

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You were not her boyfriend. She used you and abused your kind and generous heart.

 

Block her everywhere and move on. She does not want you, she never did. It's useless to figure out why, just move on and go find a nice girl that wants to date you.

 

Thank you so much for your reply.

 

She was the one displaying interest in me though. She was the one who messaged me first. I then arranged to meet her. She asked whether or not I was looking for a girfriend. She seemed to want a boyfriend after using me (she only started seeing this guy a month after she broke up with me and she was looking for a boyfriend almost instantly after breaking up with me) which doesn't add up if she didn't like me. She was the one who kept asking me what I wanted. It was rather off-putting. After the first date she wanted me to clarify how I felt about her and I said I would tell her if I wanted to be her boyfriend on the second date which I did.

 

It was a recent breakup.

 

Why would she have sex with me if she had no interest in me? She was very clearly aroused as well (vaginal discharge/fluid.)

 

We had sex only two weeks into our relationship.

 

Perhaps she was only after someone to have sex with. She made it clear before we got into a relationship and among care and respect was sex.

 

She hooked up with (did not get into a relationship with) another guy only a day before she got into her current relationship. He put pics up that she found embarrassing with him in her house. She would never invite me into her house but she was looking at apartments near the end of our relationship so she could be living in an apartment now.

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[mikeylo]

16. because she didn't want her family to know then, but now it's cool.

 

Maybe. Sounds like a weak excuse. And now she doesn't care what they think? Are you a felon or second cousin which would make knowing about you an issue?

 

If it lets you fall asleep sure, but really, it doesn't matter. Do you get my point?

 

OP, since its non of the 16 reasons stated by bummer, then here is no.17 : ASK HER.

[Imminence]

OP, since its non of the 16 reasons stated by bummer, then here is no.17 : ASK HER.

 

I can't. She has blocked me from absolutely everything including calling and texting her.

[mikeylo]

Go to her house or work or wherever you think she will be and just ASK HER.

[knabe]

Go to her house or work or wherever you think she will be and just ASK HER.

 

This is a good way to get a restraining order...since he is already acting and thinking obsessively like a stalker.

[William]

Did a minor cleanup and I'll direct members to address the topic. Folks might think it's cute to connect the dots but continuing upon that path can cause loss of posting privileges so I'd suggest a different method. Thanks!

[Redhead14]

Thank you so much for your reply.

 

She was the one displaying interest in me though. She was the one who messaged me first. I then arranged to meet her. She asked whether or not I was looking for a girfriend. She seemed to want a boyfriend after using me (she only started seeing this guy a month after she broke up with me and she was looking for a boyfriend almost instantly after breaking up with me) which doesn't add up if she didn't like me. She was the one who kept asking me what I wanted. It was rather off-putting. After the first date she wanted me to clarify how I felt about her and I said I would tell her if I wanted to be her boyfriend on the second date which I did.

 

It was a recent breakup.

 

Why would she have sex with me if she had no interest in me? She was very clearly aroused as well (vaginal discharge/fluid.)

 

We had sex only two weeks into our relationship.

 

Perhaps she was only after someone to have sex with. She made it clear before we got into a relationship and among care and respect was sex.

 

She hooked up with (did not get into a relationship with) another guy only a day before she got into her current relationship. He put pics up that she found embarrassing with him in her house. She would never invite me into her house but she was looking at apartments near the end of our relationship so she could be living in an apartment now.

 

You're confusing sex with love and commitment. Lots of guys have sex with women they have no interest in and lots of women do that with men as well.

 

After the first date she wanted me to clarify how I felt about her and I said I would tell her if I wanted to be her boyfriend on the second date which I did. -- She wanted to be on an ego trip and seeking validation and comfort after her previous relationship ended. Pinning you down after one date . . . Paleeze. She's a jezebel.

 

It seems she swings from one relationship to another and pins them down quickly. She's an attention wh*re who monkey branches.

 

She made it clear before we got into a relationship and among care and respect was sex. -- She sure made it a relationship pretty damned quick, didn't she?

 

Made it clear before you got into a relationship?:??? -- You only had two dates and you were in a "relationship".

 

Watch out for girls who want to make it a relationship so quickly. That's a big red flag.

 

This girl was not your girlfriend, I'm sorry to say. And, you should be happy to be free of her. Keep moving.

[Gaeta]

Thank you so much for your reply.

 

She was the one displaying interest in me though. She was the one who messaged me first. I then arranged to meet her. She asked whether or not I was looking for a girfriend. She seemed to want a boyfriend after using me (she only started seeing this guy a month after she broke up with me and she was looking for a boyfriend almost instantly after breaking up with me) which doesn't add up if she didn't like me. She was the one who kept asking me what I wanted. It was rather off-putting. After the first date she wanted me to clarify how I felt about her and I said I would tell her if I wanted to be her boyfriend on the second date which I did.

 

It was a recent breakup.

 

Why would she have sex with me if she had no interest in me? She was very clearly aroused as well (vaginal discharge/fluid.)

 

We had sex only two weeks into our relationship.

 

Perhaps she was only after someone to have sex with. She made it clear before we got into a relationship and among care and respect was sex.

 

She hooked up with (did not get into a relationship with) another guy only a day before she got into her current relationship. He put pics up that she found embarrassing with him in her house. She would never invite me into her house but she was looking at apartments near the end of our relationship so she could be living in an apartment now.

Imminence.

 

Couples break up. Married couples divorce. It's hard but there are no other choice but to move on to a better person and a better relationship.

 

Yes she showed interest for a short while, a very short while, and it was only to attract you into her web. Once you were caught in she stopped making efforts and kept you coming back with the sex.

 

When we break up with someone, what ever was said before the break up, does not count anymore. All the compliments, all the I love yous, all the sex doesn't mean anything - anymore. This is not only for you, it's like that for everyone.

 

My last boyfriend left me without a word after 6 months. For 6 months he had shown me affection and attention and had even told me he was in love with me. One day he got up and walked away without a word. I had 2 choices, I could move on, or I could paralyze and ask myself over and over why, why did he show me love, why all his affection, why did he say he loved me why why why. What would have that accomplished? Nothing.

 

Just like you will accomplish nothing by wasting months asking yourself why.

 

Now is time to block the last social media with which you are watching her. It's time to wipe her out of your life and time to move on.

 

We only live once, do not waste your time on someone that does not want to be with you. Each day you pine over her is a day lost.

[fred123]

Wow i feel likw you are impersonating me!please read my thread. Pretty much the samw thing

[fred123]

How long where u guys together for? Did she ever say she didnt want anyrhing serious ? Did u force her into a relationship?