TOXIC: break-up with delusional ex-gf

[Jchav123]

as I'm starting to move on I get a text from the ex-GF that's NOT about the final stuff we need to exchange. its more along the lines of a late night text asking what I'm doing ??? not sure what's going on here, but I ignored it. we settled on a future date to exchange our last couple of items since the breakup.

 

its been over 3 weeks since we last saw each other.. her last text brought me back to being hopeful or wondering what she was thinking. i'm definitely not going to bring up any past issues.. i'll keep it cordial how I have been.

 

Believe it or not same here. My ex texted me this past Friday after I accidentally looked at her Linkedin page when trying to click on someone elses. It notified her I looked, so she endorsed me for stuff, then sent me a few messages. It has also been 3 weeks since we last spoke.

 

I wasn't as strong however and did engage in her "catching up". I learned she still isn't happy with the guy she is with but luckily I had friends around me to keep me from answering her calls that night and wondering "why I'm so busy" as to I can't pick up the phone.

 

You're staying strong though, I don't think I can handle having other women over just yet. Keep it up!

[TwinFlameGone]

ex-GF text a few times to pick up some forgotten items. i was actually too busy which felt great. on the day she's supposed to pick up her things she sends a note saying throw everything away and a stabbing comment "Thanks for everything".

 

NC didn't work in this case. Not sure what changed as she was reaching out and it was clear that the minor things she wanted to pick up were an excuse to meet. Before she cancelled I kept getting notifications from Netflix to reset my password. I assume she was trying to use my account - but after the breakup I changed things. I never acknowledged to her that I saw the password reset requests. I got sort of excited and anxious and then like a dagger she cancels and ends all conversation. Back to NC I guess...

 

At the same time I've been dating. I met a girl who's VERY NEEDY. She's head over heels for me in a matter of weeks and I like the company, but not really into her. Long story, we fool around and end up having sex. Most regretted decision ever. Now, I'm trying to slow things down and really fade things out. I kept her company because I was bored. It sucks.

 

still recovering... I've been good on NC and not checking my ex-GF's social media. I know that seeing her social media would totally crush me.

[TwinFlameGone]

Ex-GF and I finally agree to a time to exchange remaining items. She text me about a non-important sweatshirt she had. I tell her I have some forgotten items of hers too. We met and it's the same cold, distant game she's playing. She collects her things and leaves with no goodbye. I was hurt, but stayed calm.

 

A few minutes after she walked out she sends a text inviting me out to grab food. We have food and drinks and I treat it as a way to catch up. There's no mention of our breakup. After some nervous silences --- its casual conversation. I take care of the bill and we walk out. Before I could say goodbye she bolts back to her car. My plan after that moment was to go back to NC and let things come naturally again the way they have been.

 

During our "reunion date" I mentioned I had an extra Macbook power cable I didn't need. Hers has a frayed cable. She text me this morning about when she can pick it up. I responded saying "anytime, just let me know when you're on the way". She never responded and she knows I'm leaving out of town in a few days.

 

I'm wondering if I showed neediness or was being too pleasing with this gesture. She ignored my text about picking it up "anytime" and it feels like she's giving me the cold shoulder.

 

Am I analyzing this too much or did that offer turn her off ??? I had been doing NC correctly and when we've been face-to-face exchanging personal items I've been calm, and showed no signs of begging or discussions about the breakup. Since the breakup and NC/LC she's been the one to initiate and I would ignore any chatting that wasn't necessary. This was my first time being helpful and it looks like it blew up in my face.

 

Thoughts guys? I need some advice on how I've been doing..