jadedjessie Posted August 13, 2005 Share Posted August 13, 2005 I am at an absolute loss. A couple days ago I posted an entry asking how to win my boyfriend back. Well, I sent him a text message today saying I was coming by to bring his things to his house. Then he called me and said, "I'm not at my house." I replied, "Well, okay, I'll leave your things at Chrissy's house then." Then he said, "I thought you wanted to see me." I said back, "Well, you made it clear that you don't want to see me, so I guess it doesn't matter now." Later I realized that was a stupid thing for me to say if I really want to get him back. So, I sent him a text message that said, "Saying today that it doesn't matter anymore wasn't the most intelligent thing for me to say. It does matter. I did want to see you. I still do." After that he called me and asked why I was being so confusing and I explained that I was just trying to give him the space he needed. He then said that he'd like to be friends with me and possibly build back up to a romantic relationship from there. I am thrilled to hear all this, except, there happens to be a slight problem. After I began thinking I had no hope of ever getting back together with my ex, one of our mutual friends, who we will call Tom, admitted to me that he had feelings for me. We had been hanging out for a while and even though I made it very clear to Tom that I was not yet over my ex and that nothing was going to happen between he and I at this point in time, he tried a few times to kiss me, and, well, I didn't stop him. Now I feel as though I have led Tom on. All I want is to be friends now. I wish I had an erase button. I think Tom will understand if I explain the situation to him, but I am just so afraid that he will tell my ex what happeneed between he and I, and all hope of my ex and I getting back together will be dead. So, Tom wants to be with me, and I want to be with my ex. My ex just wants to be friends with me for now, and I just want to be friends with Tom for now. It's pretty much a no-win situation for anyone at this point. I don't know if anyone has any advice for me or not, I just had to get that off my chest. It's had me quite worked up for a good five hours now. I feel so bad for Tom and so sorry for what I've done, yet I can't help but feel like he set himself up for this. If he knew I wasn't over my ex then he knew that he was just a rebound. At the same time, I'm still quite worried that Tom will tell my ex everything that happened, and me and my ex will never work anything out. I just want to be friends with them both, with Tom keeping his mouth shut, and my ex considering coming back to me. This is what I'd prefer. But is it best? Should I even be hoping for that? I know I made a mistake, but how big of a mistake did I really make? Help me out here. Even if you don't have advice. Comforting words would still be very helpful. I'm so lost. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted August 13, 2005 Share Posted August 13, 2005 A threesome will cure everything. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jadedjessie Posted August 13, 2005 Author Share Posted August 13, 2005 Haha, perhaps. But actually, I told Tom about everything and he completely understood and we've gone back to being just friends. I guess I'll see what happens with my ex, but at least I know Tom is still availible, and more importantly, still my friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jadedjessie Posted August 16, 2005 Author Share Posted August 16, 2005 You know what? My ex is an a**h***. I think I oughta just go ahead and start dating Tom. I already f*cked my ex's best friend. It's definately over between my ex and I. Whatever. Link to post Share on other sites
ButtonPusher Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 did you leave out something here??? Is tom the guy you banged? or did you do someone else? Link to post Share on other sites
NiCoLe20 Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 whoa girl!!! what happened b/w u and the ex??!! details!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author jadedjessie Posted August 17, 2005 Author Share Posted August 17, 2005 I don't want my ex back anymore. But now I'm taking all of the worst possible steps in getting over him. I slept with now TWO of his close friends (Tom is one of them), and I have just been ignoring how I feel about me and him. I know I need to grieve and do non-damaging things to get over him, but I'm so tired of feeling sad over it. I just want to continue on with my life and not care anymore. I really do think I'm going about this all wrong though. I kind of want a relationship with Tom, but I'm just not sure yet. What does everyone else think? Is what I'm doing just going to damage myself more in the long run? Am I a complete moron? What should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
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