wmacbride Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 If you are a guy, have you ever felt pressured into having sexual contact with a woman ( or man) when you didn't want to? If so, what did you do? Link to post Share on other sites
Larryville Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 Sucked it up and pretended to have the best time of my life. Just easier. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 Of course. I either turned them down or went along with it. Made a decision. If it was an SO, I almost always went along with it because I don't believe in denying my SO. Done it when I was sick or tired. Other people? Depends on the situation. Usually turned down unless there was a compelling reason to go along. Link to post Share on other sites
CptInsano Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 If so, what did you do? Both with men and women I simply pretended I didn't notice, and politely yet firmly extracted myself from the situation. There was one case of pity sex, but that was ultimately my decision because I could see how she could have misread my intention. Link to post Share on other sites
The Urbanyst Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 Sure. One time this attractive women accused me of being gay because I wouldn't sleep with her. I still didn't sleep with her lol. She just wasn't my type. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CptInsano Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 If it was an SO, I almost always went along with it because I don't believe in denying my SO. Done it when I was sick or tired. This falls into a slight different category, meaning that I generally want to have sex with that person, just not right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wmacbride Posted September 12, 2017 Author Share Posted September 12, 2017 Do you feel like you have ever been sexually assaulted? I'm asking because so often, women are the focus of the discussion when it comes to this, and I've been wondering what men's experiences are like. Link to post Share on other sites
Shanex Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 That's a good question and generally yes - men can also be victims of sexual harassment. Probably much less than the other way around but still... I cannot remember a woman pressuring me into sex. Neither in a relationship or in different situation. It was always consensual. A friend of mine told me a story about losing his virginity to a very horny older woman. He didn't fill a complaint though. He was young and wanted to avoid the whole evil process of going to the police station. About gay men: I was approached and more than once by gays. But never ever abused and much less raped. I made it clear I was straight and they understood quickly enough. Most gays are very forward toward other men but don't insist if they see you are heterosexual. Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 Do you feel like you have ever been sexually assaulted? I'm asking because so often, women are the focus of the discussion when it comes to this, and I've been wondering what men's experiences are like. If sexual assault is defined as non-consensual sexual contact, then, yes, I have. By men and women. Groped by a man and a MTF transsexual. Groped by many women including a family member. Not a blood relative, but still. Grabbed and kissed by a woman I wasn't remotely interested in. I've also been sexually harassed - by co-workers and clients. Stalked. Twice. It happens. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bastile Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 More times than I can express in a single post. First time that I encountered such a thing was a woman who was "top girl" of a social/party scene when I was 17. She had quite a thing for me, which became more obsessive the more that I rejected her. Girl wasn't used to being turned down, shall we say... Started becoming more obsessive. Phoning up my mother, using my friends to try and make me jealous, tried to have sex with me one night when I was passed out from drinking vodka... Anyway, I made a very big mistake. I was on the rebound hard from the first girl that I ever really loved. So where do you think I went for some intimacy, brothers and sisters? Yep. She told me that she was on birth control (I forget the name, the one which is put in the arm?). This was a lie. Anyway, I'm not going into everything. This is just one situation lol. Last year I was using erectile dysfunction drugs off the internet just to try and satisfy women. So yes, you can imagine. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CptInsano Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 Do you feel like you have ever been sexually assaulted? If getting my ass groped by men or women qualifies as such, then yes. One woman bit my butt while I was standing at an intersection. That was really weird. I also had my junk groped by an elderly lady who wanted to dance dirty. (And I thought I was trying to do the nice thing, dancing with my friend's grandmother.) But mostly it did not involve force. Men and women trying to use business relationships for other purposes was far more common. I'm asking because so often, women are the focus of the discussion when it comes to this, and I've been wondering what men's experiences are like. Mens' experience of violence in public is probably more pervasive, but also mostly non-sexual. Link to post Share on other sites
trustyourself Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 I was drinking with my girlfriend (at the time) and were chatting to a group of gay dudes in the bar. I went to the restroom, and one of them came in and grabbed my junk while trying to come on to me. I politely pushed him away, told him I had a girlfriend and promptly walked over to my GF and told her we had to leave. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
ZayKayWill Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 sure. One time this attractive women accused me of being gay because i wouldn't sleep with her. I still didn't sleep with her lol. She just wasn't my type. 10/10 pimpin Link to post Share on other sites
ZayKayWill Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 I was drinking with my girlfriend (at the time) and were chatting to a group of gay dudes in the bar. I went to the restroom, and one of them came in and grabbed my junk while trying to come on to me. I politely pushed him away, told him I had a girlfriend and promptly walked over to my GF and told her we had to leave. LOL That guy would have gotten an ass whooping from me. Totally uncalled for. Link to post Share on other sites
ZayKayWill Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 More times than I can express in a single post. First time that I encountered such a thing was a woman who was "top girl" of a social/party scene when I was 17. She had quite a thing for me, which became more obsessive the more that I rejected her. Girl wasn't used to being turned down, shall we say... Started becoming more obsessive. Phoning up my mother, using my friends to try and make me jealous, tried to have sex with me one night when I was passed out from drinking vodka... Anyway, I made a very big mistake. I was on the rebound hard from the first girl that I ever really loved. So where do you think I went for some intimacy, brothers and sisters? Yep. She told me that she was on birth control (I forget the name, the one which is put in the arm?). This was a lie. Anyway, I'm not going into everything. This is just one situation lol. Last year I was using erectile dysfunction drugs off the internet just to try and satisfy women. So yes, you can imagine. Another prime example of when 'not caring' makes the other person feel challenged and want you even more than ever. Sad how it's true that those who care the least are always the ones that win. Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted September 12, 2017 Share Posted September 12, 2017 One time. I had a FWB in 2003. It was good,but I am a deeper person. So I did not want to have someone that I could not transition into a LTR. No matter how I try to fight it. I kind of want a woman who is more of girl next door type. This girl at the time was more bullish in her ways. Semi soft with me. She just dropped into my lap. So its not like I was working it. Link to post Share on other sites
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