heartbroken..........need some advise

[ronan]

hiya,

 

i was in a 2 year realtionship with a woman not of my culture and who broke up with me becoz my immigration to that country was talking too long,she iswith another who is making full use of her becoz she has the money.

 

i can see the proof and truth of this other person right infront of my eyes,when speaking to other freinds want to help her but she refuses to see the truth.love her a lot and even as a friend dont want see her taken advantage of by another who pretens a false love story...........

 

pls help andadvise

 

ronan

[hurtingandconfused]

Let her be. She does not want/need your help.

 

And

 

Start a new life.

[jc]

It truly doesn't sound like there is much you can do, as difficult as that is to accept. The best thing you can do right now is to continue living your life without contacting her. If she contacts you, listen to what she has to say; she may realize after a period of NC that it is YOU she wants, not this other guy. And she may not, which is why it is so important to move on with your life regardless of what she does.

 

The first few days will be hard, trust me, I know. I am notoriously bad for breaking NC. But the more you stick to it, and ignore those insane urges to call/email/IM, the faster you will heal, even though it probably doesn't feel this way right now.

 

The more you hold on, the more times you make contact, the longer you keep the wound open, unable to heal.

 

Let her contact you if she wants...if she wants to come back she should be prepared to work for it and to commit wholly (none of this "friends" business). If she calls and doesn't want to get back together, stop contact with her. It's the best thing you can do for yourself. (And you do deserve the best for yourself!)