There are only four internal reasons why people want a relationship (theory)

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I have a theory that I have been trying to apply here already a few times. But I don't get a lot of feedback regarding it so I will share my theory here and see if anyone disagrees. If people disagree, then obviously the theory has flaws, so here I go:

 

There are only four internal reasons why people want a relationship (peer/social pressure is an external reason).

1. Physical fulfillment - Body language is a powerful thing, and when people are willing to share physical contact with us it makes us feel good. However, physical contact of this magnitude is selective, not just anyone can do it and give the effect we need. (sex, holding hands, hugs, cuddles, kisses, etc.)

2. Mental/emotional fulfillment - We are social creatures and we require interaction with others. We mostly crave social interaction with someone we can relate with the most and share our life with them. Family and friends can fill this but only to a degree.

3. Safety - There is strength in numbers. We are most vulnerable when we sleep but we don't sleep with our friends or our family. We are also quite selective in who we deem as capable of providing us safety from danger, or protection during danger.

4. Quality of life - Again, strength in numbers. You will have less responsibilities overall because tasks are shared and done in higher efficiency. Some have skills that you do not have.

 

Now that we have established why we want relationship, we need to know what to look for in a person to make sure each factor is met.

1. Attraction - physical and mental attraction are needed to gain physical fulfillment. Physical is obvious, but mental include qualities like humor, intelligence, introvert/extrovert, personality, etc.

2. Compatibility - People that have similar views, values, standards, beliefs, behaviors, hobbies, etc.

3. Trust - You trust them with your belongs, money, keys, life, and most importantly your children's lives.

4. Commitment - People who are able to commit are generally much more successful in life than those that can't commit.

 

Conclusion, all we need to do is to find someone who meets all four factors - attractive, compatible, trustworthy, and knows how to commit and you will have all your needs met.