I like him but I'm scared

[mousse]

Hello,

 

I noticed a guy in my neighnourhood recently and I think he's attracted to me too:o when we bump into each other, he seems nervous and he tries to act cooler than his usual self. I caught him looking at me a few times and then looking away when I was looking back, little things like that. I've known him for three years but we never spoke. I've observed him from afar for a while and he seems like a good person : calm, mature, with intelligent eyes. I don't really like the people he hangs out with though. I don't know them but they have created problems in my building. He seems different from them.

 

I'm tempted to 'break the ice' but I'm not sure it's a good idea because of the company he keeps. And, second, I'm scared because love relationships are really not my forte. I tend to overanalyze a lot when I'm in love, get very stressed up, and it just sabotages the relationship with the man and my life as a whole. Also, I've often been rejected in the past and I had a traumatic love relationship 7 years ago that left a deep scar in me.

 

So I don't know. On one hand, I'm really attracted to this guy and he seems like a good guy. On the other hand, I'm very scared.

 

Any suggestions on how to deal with this dilemma?

[smackie9]

Hi my name is______. Here's my number, text me if you want to hang out sometime (smile).

[Gaeta]

He seems like a good guy but if he would be he wouldn't be keeping bad company like he is.

 

I say pass. If you are afraid of relationships and afraid of not being treated right then picking a man *who keeps bad company* isn't the best of idea.

[olivetree]

He seems like a good guy but if he would be he wouldn't be keeping bad company like he is.

 

I say pass. If you are afraid of relationships and afraid of not being treated right then picking a man *who keeps bad company* isn't the best of idea.

 

Agreed.

Birds of a feather flock together.

[act00]

I think you have a lot to consider, one being that he lives in your complex and you see him often...I equate this to dating a coworker. Granted, in this type of environment there hopefully won't be any major personal backlash if things don't work out...except you are suspicious of the people he hangs out with...regardless, if things don't work out, he'll be "in your face" unless and until one of you moves.

 

You are who your friends are, and "birds of a feather flock together," and "you are the company you keep." Keep these in mind.

 

My friend just moved into a new apartment and has since met a few neighbors. One of them has turned out to be a little bit creepy, and she's wishing she never talked to him at all. He seems to be sweet on her, but she's not interested and it's getting uncomfortable. I would be very careful about pursuing anything with a neighbor, particularly when his lifestyle (his friends) are questionable.