people who write few words

[guy45]

I should have writen this thread years ago so here goes. Throughout my life I've met many women, especially from dating sites that text back very few words.

 

For example you will write something to them and they will give you back a poorly spelled short response. I assume most of the time they don't want to talk to me but sometimes they do keep the conversation going, but they keep it going again with short misspelled replies.

 

Not to sound rude but is there something wrong with these people, a sort of disorder perhaps? Why can't people just write back well spelled messages?

 

I used to talk to a woman that would send me a "Hey" every couple of weeks and if I didn't respond right away she would get mad. If I did respond she would respond like 20 min later.

[Popsicle]

Most of the time it's simply that they are uninterested and dispassionate about you.

 

The rest of the time is because they are lazy conversationalists. They think the other person is supposed to do all the work. Men suffer from this a lot, because they think that women love to talk and will do all the talking. It's a skill they don't think they have to learn. I'm sure there are some women like this too, especially if they are used to being with male extroverts.

[GorillaTheater]

short misspelled replies.

 

 

Maybe they only know a few words.

[normal person]

Most of the time it's simply that they are uninterested and dispassionate about you.

 

 

Maybe, maybe not. I get endless messages from women that consist of simply "hey," or a barely coherent sentence. If these people were uninterested or dispassionate, why even respond or send a message?

 

The rest of the time is because they are lazy conversationalists. They think the other person is supposed to do all the work. Men suffer from this a lot, because they think that women love to talk and will do all the talking. It's a skill they don't think they have to learn. I'm sure there are some women like this too, especially if they are used to being with male extroverts.

 

I always assumed it was because lots of these women think it's "enough" to just be attractive, and that if they have a few pictures of themselves looking hot, and that lots of less scrupulous men don't care that they don't have anything written about themselves or talk much, then that all men won't care. The problem there is that any man worth his salt is not going to go for a woman just because she's attractive. If she can't type a complete sentence, hold a conversation, or has the personality of a rock, why would a discerning man care how attractive she is? I don't think many of them consider this. If you want a high caliber guy, looking good is only half the equation.

[guy45]

These people really need to realize that their quality of messages is coming off as rude. I don't care how attractive someone is and whether they like me or not but if they type something such as "lol" or "k" that really makes me mad. It's just simple respect for others. Even people I don't like that I chat with I politely tell them that I'm busy. It's sad the crap some guys are willing to put up with.

[Imajerk17]

These people really need to realize that their quality of messages is coming off as rude. I don't care how attractive someone is and whether they like me or not but if they type something such as "lol" or "k" that really makes me mad. It's just simple respect for others. Even people I don't like that I chat with I politely tell them that I'm busy. It's sad the crap some guys are willing to put up with.

 

YOU need to realize that someone from a dating site doesn't really owe you anything.

 

If you truly don't like the quality of someone's messages to you and feel it is disrespectful, then it is your prerogative to stop chatting with that person. That is how most people handle OLD

[guy45]

YOU need to realize that someone from a dating site doesn't really owe you anything.

 

If you truly don't like the quality of someone's messages to you and feel it is disrespectful, then it is your prerogative to stop chatting with that person. That is how most people handle OLD

 

Your right about that.

[guest569]

Not interested, or lazy , or lacking in social skills. Either way, no thanks!

[kazen]

Some people don't like to txt long winded messages. I prefer short txts to get the point across because I could be doing something at the moment. If I want to txt long messages I rather call and talk. You're getting mad over something so insignificant. How are you going to handle the major relationship issues without blowing a fuse? Don't think you two are a match. She is more laid-back while you appear a bit snobbish if you're that concern with misspellings.

[salparadise]

...these women think it's "enough" to just be attractive, and that if they have a few pictures of themselves looking hot...

 

^ I think this is it, although many who are not very attractive do it too. It drives me nuts when I see a new message notification and it end up being "Hey there :)" It's usually someone I wouldn't be interested in anyway. It's the tired old notion that they are some kind of prize and men are supposed to pursue. They think they're doing you a favor by opening the door... like dropping their hankie so you can pick it up.

 

Sometimes I send back an even shorter message. If they say, "hey there," I'll respond, "hey." Then they say, "how are you?" And I say, "I'm good, and you?" After that I usually just block them.

[SevenCity]

^ I think this is it, although many who are not very attractive do it too. It drives me nuts when I see a new message notification and it end up being "Hey there :)" It's usually someone I wouldn't be interested in anyway. It's the tired old notion that they are some kind of prize and men are supposed to pursue. They think they're doing you a favor by opening the door... like dropping their hankie so you can pick it up.

 

Sometimes I send back an even shorter message. If they say, "hey there," I'll respond, "hey." Then they say, "how are you?" And I say, "I'm good, and you?" After that I usually just block them.

 

Funny how women complain about guys just saying "Hey" but how many do it when they are forced to reach out first like on bumble.

 

I've actually read many profiles that said they won't reach out first and to contact them on Instagram or they will just say hey because it's the guys job to lead.

 

But if they are good looking enough they will always have a plethora of men from which to choose. Actually, from reading some of the profiles of the ones not so good looking, they have choice as well.

[loverboy69]

Yeah avoid pouring your heart out and forcing people to read a 3 chapter dialogue when trying to score a date online or when sending a text message.

 

It comes across as needy, clingy and full of drama. Not attractive qualities in a man.

 

Keep things light and interesting. Be a little mysterious.

[salparadise]

Funny how women complain about guys just saying "Hey" but how many do it when they are forced to reach out first like on bumble.

 

I've actually read many profiles that said they won't reach out first and to contact them on Instagram or they will just say hey because it's the guys job to lead.

 

But if they are good looking enough they will always have a plethora of men from which to choose. Actually, from reading some of the profiles of the ones not so good looking, they have choice as well.

 

Yes, it really does come down to the lop-sided supply/demand curve. Even seemingly progressive women retain old school notions about it being "the man's job to pursue." I'm looking for someone who simply doesn't subscribe to all of that nonsense. It just feels weird to me.

 

I had two women interested (online) and when I asked to meet both put me out a few weeks due to scheduling. Well, I guess they expected me to be wooing them daily because when I contacted them again a week later I get no response. These were women who contacted me first, seemed to have strong interest, and had already agreed to meet. Nothing else changed.

 

When you haven't even met, you'd only be pursuing a vague concept of a person. A pic or two plus the few words exchanged in previous messages is all you know. How do they reasonably expect a guy to preselect them and be all crazy in the eyes before even meeting in person?

[Eternal Sunshine]

I only write few words when I am not that interested. When I am interested, I am much more animated, lengthy and humorous in my texts.

[Gaeta]

People are so judgemental on so little.

 

There are a lot of good people that simply have not have been in school long enough to learn how to write long letters or text in this case. They are still full members of society, participating to the economy, and are still good conversationalist in person.

 

Stop judging people on text, judge them once face to face.

 

I dated a man a few years back he could not type more than 3 words at a time and his 3 favorite words were yes, no, ok. When I spoke to him on the phone he was very articulate and I decided to meet him. Turns out he was funny, articulate, smart, on top of current affairs, well put together and had a job as a train mechanical with full benefits. We dated 1 year. I never had one boring moment with him.