Confusedjames Posted September 23, 2017 Share Posted September 23, 2017 (edited) I do have a story or what happened with me and my cheating ex. I've been going through the motions back and forth with hating her missing her to begging god to make me forget her. But yesterday me and her had a bad conversation when I said I was leaving because I didn't want to be dealt with on someone own terms But after I told her I was leaving she started cursing me out and getting mad saying things like why would she fight for a relationship that's been over for Months or a problem that's been happened months. saying things like I'm not going to date u and kiss your ass and that im getting a friendship and relationship ****ed up according to her but then she tells me to leave she doesn't care about me leaving wish me the best it's so crazy because I don't even bring up our relationship or anything everytime I bring up why I leave she gets mad but this is the same girl who cheated twice got pregnant lead me on for months treated me so bad to the point where I take meds took me for granted for so long I desperately want to move on but everytime she gets mad and say those things I feel important wrong and I'll never find better idk why she asks if I'm dating if she doesn't want me she wants to cuddle on her time then say we'll never get back together I don't even bring up our relationship to her anymore I don't get it idk why she Is like this it's like everytime she feels I'm telling her to fight for me she says things that screams she doesn't care or she gets mad and tells me to go and live my life. I don't get why she is like this it kills me cause I know she'll never regret cheating or leaving me but she always mad everytime it comes to showing me she cares obviously fighting for someone love and to show u love them is kissing there ass I don't get it im so confused this hurts like hell Edited September 23, 2017 by Confusedjames Misspelled words Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted September 23, 2017 Share Posted September 23, 2017 (edited) Some people are just cray cray. The important thing is you know she is bad for you, and you need to block/delete, and move on. She says things to you knowing you are emotionally weak, to control you. She lies to manipulate you, make you feel guilt/hurt. She is a psychopath. Edited September 23, 2017 by smackie9 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted September 23, 2017 Share Posted September 23, 2017 The only way for you to be happy is to get her out of your life for good. She is completely toxic for you. She has serious issues!!! You will not be happy with her 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedjames Posted September 24, 2017 Author Share Posted September 24, 2017 Some people are just cray cray. The important thing is you know she is bad for you, and you need to block/delete, and move on. She says things to you knowing you are emotionally weak, to control you. She lies to manipulate you, make you feel guilt/hurt. She is a psychopath. I know she is toxic but being mentally screwed by her for so long I get so fonfused about if I'm right or not everyday I hurt anytime I want to leave or be treated better either she has to kiss my ass to love me or she uses my emotions of her not caring if I leave against Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedjames Posted September 24, 2017 Author Share Posted September 24, 2017 The only way for you to be happy is to get her out of your life for good. She is completely toxic for you. She has serious issues!!! You will not be happy with her Your right she is toxic and I've dealt with all her issues everything I could I lost everything and was and still not her according to her checking on me every month is caring its like she gets mad when I don't she changed for the better one minute she says she understands and wishes me best in life the next second she gets irritated and says f me go live your idc I not kissing your ass find better I don't get it Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted September 24, 2017 Share Posted September 24, 2017 I know she is toxic but being mentally screwed by her for so long I get so fonfused about if I'm right or not everyday I hurt anytime I want to leave or be treated better either she has to kiss my ass to love me or she uses my emotions of her not caring if I leave against The best way not to be mentally screwed by someone is.... To stop communicating with them, that way they have no way to mentally screw you..just a suggestion, it might not work, much like not wanting to get sick from eating dirt you just don't eat the dirt.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted September 24, 2017 Share Posted September 24, 2017 I do have a story or what happened with me and my cheating ex. I've been going through the motions back and forth with hating her missing her to begging god to make me forget her. But yesterday me and her had a bad conversation when I said I was leaving because I didn't want to be dealt with on someone own terms But after I told her I was leaving she started cursing me out and getting mad saying things like why would she fight for a relationship that's been over for Months or a problem that's been happened months. saying things like I'm not going to date u and kiss your ass and that im getting a friendship and relationship ****ed up according to her but then she tells me to leave she doesn't care about me leaving wish me the best it's so crazy because I don't even bring up our relationship or anything everytime I bring up why I leave she gets mad but this is the same girl who cheated twice got pregnant lead me on for months treated me so bad to the point where I take meds took me for granted for so long I desperately want to move on but everytime she gets mad and say those things I feel important wrong and I'll never find better idk why she asks if I'm dating if she doesn't want me she wants to cuddle on her time then say we'll never get back together I don't even bring up our relationship to her anymore I don't get it idk why she Is like this it's like everytime she feels I'm telling her to fight for me she says things that screams she doesn't care or she gets mad and tells me to go and live my life. I don't get why she is like this it kills me cause I know she'll never regret cheating or leaving me but she always mad everytime it comes to showing me she cares obviously fighting for someone love and to show u love them is kissing there ass I don't get it im so confused ������ this hurts like hell Call er bluff and take her up on her offer to walk. Dude, she is not only a cheater, but a manipulative little tart that is very good at emotional extortion. Why keep loving someone who treats you like this? I know it's hard but believe her when she tells you all this stuff, call her bluff and act accordingly. She is just a poor match for a committed relationship. Run away from her like you are running away from a bad fart in a Bus Station Bathroom. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedjames Posted September 24, 2017 Author Share Posted September 24, 2017 Call er bluff and take her up on her offer to walk. Dude, she is not only a cheater, but a manipulative little tart that is very good at emotional extortion. Why keep loving someone who treats you like this? I know it's hard but believe her when she tells you all this stuff, call her bluff and act accordingly. She is just a poor match for a committed relationship. Run away from her like you are running away from a bad fart in a Bus Station Bathroom. That comment made me laugh I needed it to be honest. It hurt everyday I thought her getting cheated on by the guy she put through hell for me but I guess it didn't do anything but make her more evil I don't get why she thinks being with me or showing me she loves me is kiss my ass idk if that's true not I'm so lost Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedjames Posted September 24, 2017 Author Share Posted September 24, 2017 The best way not to be mentally screwed by someone is.... To stop communicating with them, that way they have no way to mentally screw you..just a suggestion, it might not work, much like not wanting to get sick from eating dirt you just don't eat the dirt.. U are right it's just very hard to detach from abuse for So many years not having anyone to talk to about this I get urges to text back or call I don't know how to control it Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted September 24, 2017 Share Posted September 24, 2017 Control it by finding someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedjames Posted September 24, 2017 Author Share Posted September 24, 2017 Control it by finding someone else. Having an ex who is bi polar has adhd and so much emotional baggage it takes toll on your self esteem I know I deserve better but everytime I hear her voice in my head I start to feel she is all I can get Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 Having an ex who is bi polar has adhd and so much emotional baggage it takes toll on your self esteem I know I deserve better but everytime I hear her voice in my head I start to feel she is all I can get Stop talking with her. Go no contact for a month and see how you feel. Did you date before her? If so date again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Confusedjames Posted September 25, 2017 Author Share Posted September 25, 2017 Stop talking with her. Go no contact for a month and see how you feel. Did you date before her? If so date again. Not much of dating before her and I am going no contact idk but I feel bad for leaving for sum reason Link to post Share on other sites
Thatoneguy55 Posted October 3, 2017 Share Posted October 3, 2017 (edited) Not much of dating before her and I am going no contact idk but I feel bad for leaving for sum reason You don't "feel bad", that is something you are telling yourself to avoid the truth: Your confidence, as you displayed with the bolded, is completely shot. You are not sure that you will ever be able to find another women who is willing to let you touch her no-no-square, who will make those cute noises, get your inside jokes, etc. Trust me, as soon as this is over and you find yourself again, or maybe for the first time, you will look back at this and wonder why you were so stupid. Edit: To be clear, that isn't me on a high-horse. That is pure experience talking. Edited October 3, 2017 by Thatoneguy55 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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