Andrew9 Posted September 24, 2017 Share Posted September 24, 2017 To clarify, she's not my individual therapist. She's my group therapist.* That being said, i've been having feelings for her quite some time now. She's beautiful, around my age, *educated, sweet, kind, compassionate, non-judgmental, caring, list goes on. She seems very happy to see me and i sense a bit of closeness on her part. She wants me to keep seeing her. She got uncomfortable when i casually looked at her rings. I'm not sure if she likes me, if she knows i like her, or if i should even tell her. I just don't want things to be awkward or tense between us. I know i'm there for therapy and not for romance but i can't shake off these feelings. I also know maybe it's just me loving the idea of her and how she makes me feel. The last thing i want is for us to have to split up. I'm trying to do what's best for myself and not do something out of line. It's difficult to do by myself.* Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted September 24, 2017 Share Posted September 24, 2017 It would be incredibly inappropriate for her to get involved with you, considering your professional relationship. She could lose her job and be blacklisted forever. If you like her at all, you shouldn't want to risk destroying her entire life. The best thing for you to do would be to find another therapist. If you can't do that, you have to get past these feelings. Entertaining those thoughts is bad for you, it's bad for her, and it is bad for your therapy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted September 24, 2017 Share Posted September 24, 2017 Talk to her about something called transference. Perhaps she can help 3 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneL Posted September 24, 2017 Share Posted September 24, 2017 Unlike a physician (under certain situations that don't involve power imbalance with her/his *former* patient), a psychologist or psychiachrist can never ever have a romantic/sexual relationship with a former client, period. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Andrew9 Posted September 24, 2017 Author Share Posted September 24, 2017 She's neither a psychologist or a psychiatrist to my knowledge lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Andrew9 Posted September 24, 2017 Author Share Posted September 24, 2017 Talk to her about something called transference. Perhaps she can help Will do. Sometimes it's awkward to do and scary because i don't know how she'll respond. Link to post Share on other sites
ZayKayWill Posted September 24, 2017 Share Posted September 24, 2017 She's neither a psychologist or a psychiatrist to my knowledge lol. But she's still a mental health professional and you are her client, therefore any relationship other than a professional one isn't appropriate. I'm not even sure if you guys are allowed to be friends, honestly. Someone correct me if I'm wrong on that. Link to post Share on other sites
duncsvoice Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 But she's still a mental health professional and you are her client, therefore any relationship other than a professional one isn't appropriate. I'm not even sure if you guys are allowed to be friends, honestly. Someone correct me if I'm wrong on that. Yeah pretty much that. At the end of my counselling, my therapist said if I see her out around town I'm more than welcome to say hey, otherwise she would just ignore me (not quite as blunt as that, she really was fantastic and the type of person I'd totally be pals with). Link to post Share on other sites
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