iseestars Posted September 24, 2017 Share Posted September 24, 2017 I had been flirting with this chick for awhile this one day n I was getting ready and she asked for hug, I just kept making eye contact with her, I was planning on going in for a kiss. But as we were getting closer, she pulled away and said she didn't have a bra on and went inside. I'm guessing she didn't want the kiss, but do u think this is a bad thing Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted September 24, 2017 Share Posted September 24, 2017 Should have chased after her.... Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 In a clumsy immature way she's making her interest pretty clear. Step up to the plate already. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 That just means 1 thing..... That she didn't have a bra on. Maybe you are Semantically challenged but when some chick tells me at the end of conversation they don't have a bra on and start heading for the door....I'm following and trying to Tune In Tokyo. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 That just means 1 thing..... That she didn't have a bra on. Maybe you are Semantically challenged but when some chick tells me at the end of conversation they don't have a bra on and start heading for the door....I'm following and trying to Tune In Tokyo. LOL! You're showing your age. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author iseestars Posted September 25, 2017 Author Share Posted September 25, 2017 I just kept making eye contact with her, I was planning on going in for a kiss. But as we were getting closer, she pulled away and said she didn't have a bra on and went inside. I'm guessing she didn't want the kiss In a clumsy immature way she's making her interest pretty clear. Step up to the plate already. The reason I asked because we didn't end up kissing, so I figured she might not have been ready, but the bniggt went good and she wanted a hug haha, I'll pry hit her up today it was on sat. Link to post Share on other sites
Davey L Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 That was your moment to make a move. Dally no longer, young man, and strike while the iron is still hot. Link to post Share on other sites
Steve51 Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 I am thinking that she did not want you to feel her hard nipples against you. My wife hardly wears a bra. She does not need it. Some girls feel more secure with a bra that covers their nipples. It is like the girl who will let you feel her over her clothes but not underneath them. Let's face it, when you press against breast without a bra you are felling them move against you. Her bra is her shield. Not a good sign of her potential sexual behavior in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
olivetree Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 Unless she left the door open and gave OP the cue to follow, I don't see any indication that she wanted to be followed inside. From what was said, following her would just be creepy. All I see is an awkward good bye. 8 Link to post Share on other sites
Author iseestars Posted September 25, 2017 Author Share Posted September 25, 2017 I agree with the awkward good bye, I should have just been happy with the hug haha, it just seemed like a weird reply when she wanted a hug in the 1st place Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 Geez, does she sound awkward. I mean, being a child of the seventies and not generously endowed, I never wore a bra either, usually a camisole, but I certainly never TOLD anyone that, much less a reason not to kiss. Weird. I can't decipher that mess. Wish I could help you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 I don't see a 'come on' in this either. It's just weird behavior on her part. And I'm glad you didn't follow her inside. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted September 26, 2017 Share Posted September 26, 2017 She didn't want to appear to lead you on and you may have realised she wasn't wearing one and mis-read it as some signal of interest. I've had some lodgers in the past who have thought I was interested because I would pop down to get a coffee in pyjamas and a big huge fleece or furry robe. These guys saw it as nightwear - which yeah, it is but it's not like I wasn't fully covered. It wasn't me flouncing about in a baby doll see-thru nightdress. I was just grabbing a coffee before getting a shower and getting ready for work. She is either not interested in you in that way or definitely not close enough to you to wish for you to read anything into it if you had had a longer hug with her braless. Link to post Share on other sites
MJJean Posted September 26, 2017 Share Posted September 26, 2017 A full body hug, not to be confused with a brief almost side hug or a lean away hug, without a bra on can seem fairly...intimate. The person you are hugging can feel your body as if there weren't clothing at all and you can feel theirs. When this woman indicated she didn't want to continue the hug, or to begin a kiss, because she wasn't wearing a bra it wasn't an invitation. She was telling him that either A) it is too soon to physically feel each other that way or B) that she isn't physically attracted to him and has no desire to feel him pressed against her in that way. Nothing in this interaction seemed like any kind of invitation to me, quite the opposite. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted September 26, 2017 Share Posted September 26, 2017 A full body hug, not to be confused with a brief almost side hug or a lean away hug, without a bra on can seem fairly...intimate. The person you are hugging can feel your body as if there weren't clothing at all and you can feel theirs. When this woman indicated she didn't want to continue the hug, or to begin a kiss, because she wasn't wearing a bra it wasn't an invitation. She was telling him that either A) it is too soon to physically feel each other that way or B) that she isn't physically attracted to him and has no desire to feel him pressed against her in that way. Nothing in this interaction seemed like any kind of invitation to me, quite the opposite. Totally agree with the above. She was not wanting him to accidentally make contact with her untethered breast and she basically straight out told him that by refusing the kiss and going outside. If she was using the announcement that she isn't wearing a bra as invitation to sex she would have given him a full body hug, pressed her chest into his, reciprocated his desire to kiss and then said she wasn't wearing a bra in flirty way while still maintaining physical contact with him. This was definitely not an invitation to take things further and it's good the OP did not attempt to follow her. Geez, it's like you can't even say certain words to some guys without them thinking "oh my god! She said bra! That means she wants me to bed her" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
healing light Posted September 26, 2017 Share Posted September 26, 2017 Agree with MJJean. I would assume this woman got spooked/was nervous, decided against kissing you, and/or that your breath smelled badly or something. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author iseestars Posted September 26, 2017 Author Share Posted September 26, 2017 Her sister was standing kind of by us, she heard the girl ask me for a hug, didn't see what I did and heard her say the bra comment, she was even like that was weird. Earlier in the night her sister even commented all we do is flirt, I thought it might have been ok but maybe more private for a 1st time Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 26, 2017 Share Posted September 26, 2017 Put yourselves out of your misery & ask the poor girl on a proper date already. If you are both under 19 you can phrase it "wanna hang out tomorrow?" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
loverboy69 Posted September 27, 2017 Share Posted September 27, 2017 (edited) Now if a guy told a girl he wasn't wearing any underwear when he went in for a kiss then suddenly ran away he'd be called a creep. Ladies? Edited September 27, 2017 by loverboy69 Link to post Share on other sites
MJJean Posted September 27, 2017 Share Posted September 27, 2017 Now if a guy told a girl he wasn't wearing any underwear when he went in for a kiss then suddenly ran away he'd be called a creep. Ladies? I'd assume he didn't want to kiss and risk an erection with nothing between him and his metal zipper. Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted September 27, 2017 Share Posted September 27, 2017 I agree she didn't want to kiss and the bra comment was not a come on. But, she did ask for a hug (without a bra, go figure?) so if she was totally disinterested why ask for a hug? Maybe ask her out again if you're interested, which it seems you must be, otherwise why post about it? If she continues to be weird, then you can move on but it's possible the other experience you had is a one off? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MJJean Posted September 27, 2017 Share Posted September 27, 2017 I agree she didn't want to kiss and the bra comment was not a come on. But, she did ask for a hug (without a bra, go figure?) so if she was totally disinterested why ask for a hug? I'm a fairly huggy person. There's hugs and there's hugs. One type does not involve a full body press. I think she meant to offer a briefer hug with less contact, OP went in for a full hug, and that was just too personal for her right then. I like that she was honest about it. She told him WHY she didn't want more physical contact. A lot of women in that situation would have made up an excuse rather than admit to guy they barely know they aren't wearing a bra. Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted September 27, 2017 Share Posted September 27, 2017 (edited) I'm a fairly huggy person. There's hugs and there's hugs. One type does not involve a full body press. I think she meant to offer a briefer hug with less contact, OP went in for a full hug, and that was just too personal for her right then. I like that she was honest about it. She told him WHY she didn't want more physical contact. A lot of women in that situation would have made up an excuse rather than admit to guy they barely know they aren't wearing a bra. Maybe so; sounds reasonable. But, you know what, lol! I'd, um, offer a lot of different excuses, before I'd tell a guy I wasn't very personal with I didn't have a bra on! Not saying that means she's interested, just that...we're all unique, is all I'm pointing out. (And some a little more unique than others, ) For one woman it's, "I don't have a bra on." For another it's taking a few steps back. Edited September 27, 2017 by LivingWaterPlease 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author iseestars Posted September 27, 2017 Author Share Posted September 27, 2017 I left after that happened but was kinda walking backwards talking to her sister, when she was saying that was weird, i seen her lookinh out. Pry tonmake sure ibwas hone haha, we have texted a few times, and she always replies fast, she even wished me a happy birthday the other day, but I have yet to ask to hang out Link to post Share on other sites
MyOphelia Posted September 30, 2017 Share Posted September 30, 2017 If she did a full-body contact hug and *then* made a comment about not wearing a bra, headed indoors, peeking over her shoulder and inviting you in with a nod.... Yeah, short of that, while actually *mentioning* she's not wearing a bra is a bit peculiar, I don't see anything to indicate what was trying to turn this into any type of come on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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