fred123 Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 if a girl says she doesn't want anything serious does that mean you aren't allowed to invite her and do things such as valentines or romantic dinner etc? another question- if you aren't boyfriend and girlfriend and are just dating or seeing each other and say its her birthday coming up or valentines is it allowed to organise a dinner or something or do you have to wait until you are official boyfriend and girlfriend before you do such things? my best friend has been seeing a girl for 2 months and he told me they aren't boyfriend or girlfriend ( no labels atm) but they have seen each others friends and parents and invited to his friends birthday and she is going. is that allowed and within the rules? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 25, 2017 Share Posted September 25, 2017 When somebody says they don't want anything serious, they mean no emotional ties, no commitments &/or no sex. Sometimes it's a combo but they are warning you not to fall in love. You don't need the official titles to be part of life celebrations but in the beginning you need to be low key. My rule of thumb for under 6 months: a card & a token gift around $20. You can organize drinks with friends but you would be overstepping your bounds as a new BF to host a dinner. It's normal & find that your buddy was invited to his new GF's birthday celebration. The aberration was when your EX went to great pains to keep you away. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted September 26, 2017 Author Share Posted September 26, 2017 When somebody says they don't want anything serious, they mean no emotional ties, no commitments &/or no sex. Sometimes it's a combo but they are warning you not to fall in love. You don't need the official titles to be part of life celebrations but in the beginning you need to be low key. My rule of thumb for under 6 months: a card & a token gift around $20. You can organize drinks with friends but you would be overstepping your bounds as a new BF to host a dinner. It's normal & find that your buddy was invited to his new GF's birthday celebration. The aberration was when your EX went to great pains to keep you away. But she isnt his girlfriend yet! Thats my point. She invited him also to her friends birthday. They arent BF and GF yet so is it normal? Im quite shocked actually Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted September 26, 2017 Share Posted September 26, 2017 is that allowed and within the rules? Allowed by whom? Within what rules? As far as I'm aware nothing you've posted is against any laws therefore you are allowed to do any of it that you want. Link to post Share on other sites
Tribble Posted September 26, 2017 Share Posted September 26, 2017 Allowed by whom? Within what rules? As far as I'm aware nothing you've posted is against any laws therefore you are allowed to do any of it that you want. Gotta agree. There are no rules and you aren't "allowed" to do anything based on a relationship status or label. Some people act like bf and gf without having the label at all. I've met people who my friends are seeing without them being bf and gf yet. It's all part of the getting to know you process. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 26, 2017 Share Posted September 26, 2017 But she isnt his girlfriend yet! Thats my point. She invited him also to her friends birthday. They arent BF and GF yet so is it normal? Im quite shocked actually it's perfectly normal. It would be odd if she didn't do that. Your EX screwed up your sense of what is & what is not appropriate. Link to post Share on other sites
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