Mary3 Posted August 22, 2005 Share Posted August 22, 2005 That's right : She wanted this to end some time ago ( and amazing that you thought it was just * yesterday * - so to speak - that she came to that realization. ) She wants to go. You need to let go........ Now ~! You are in for a world of hurt now....she has stated clearly her intentions and is moving out. I KNOW all your family and friends are distraught about this but this is something she wants to do and she is GOING to do it. When you can get some grip on reality you will be able to let her memory fade....that seems like a long way from now. But for her it is NOW. She has forgotten you, your marriage, the kids ( if any ) her priorities, her promise of faithfulness, her sense of committment..... The best thing you can do is imagine that she is not on this earth. It might make it easier if you take over your minds thoughts and replace them with other things because this woman has other ideas about her life. Only giving you the realistic sense that its really over.... Keep posting....we are here for you . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Grasshopper Posted August 23, 2005 Author Share Posted August 23, 2005 Well, she has paid her deposit on the rental and will take off Friday to move. I will take off to help her. She says she only wants a separation. I do not know if this is only to give me hope so i do not fall apart during this time, or if she just wants to keep me waiting in the case her other option does not work out. There is always the chance that she just needs time to herself like she says??? This almost seems harder. I have been on the fence wondering what was going to happen for nine months now trying to make this marriage work. And, now, it appears, if I do not push for the divorce, I will go through another six months of torture wondering if she will come back. Part of me tells me I deserve better and to move on. The other part tells me if I give up, I have failed not only myself and my wife, but my son also. I am not sure what to do. I know that if I did not have anxiety issues when this began, I do now. Link to post Share on other sites
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