summerlove Posted August 15, 2005 Share Posted August 15, 2005 I would like some advice please. Ok well my life might have a big chance. My bf of 2 1/2 years wants to join the air force. Unable to find a job around our small little town and doesn't want to go back to school. He is 21 and I am 20. So when he joins he’ll have 6 weeks in training and then will be based somewhere. He wants to get married and I go with him so will have more benefits. We live with my family right now and I would be very scared about leaving my little town. Scared of leaving my mother and scared of leaving my work and university to start a whole new life! the only plus side of this is -- if the base was close to a university that had my major and also he told me I wouldn’t not have to work. All I would have to do is concentrate on school. If this was to happen it would be about 4-6 months a way. Should I go for it or tell him to just go. If he just goes I have a feeling that we will brake up and might not have a chance in the future. I don't know if he will go with out me because he said he wouldn’t. I have been in a bad mood lately. I don’t know if it is because I don’t want this to happen or if it is because he wants to go alone. The past two days we have be fighting. I’m afraid we are about to break up after all we’ve been through. I don’t know if I’m ready for this. Has anyone else had any major changes in there lives similar to this? Link to post Share on other sites
sburtug03 Posted August 22, 2005 Share Posted August 22, 2005 You need to devote a day to considering this. Be completely on your own and think: Do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with this man? Is this the only person for you? If the answers are yes you need to do what you must to stay together. If this means going with him, just do it. However if you go with him would your relationship survive if you were secretly upset with him for sacrificing your career, maybe your life? If you think that you would hold this against him then you need to stay at home with your family. If the relationship is strong you will last the long distance, with effort on both your parts to see each other as much as possible. Wishing you luck, Samantha x Link to post Share on other sites
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