one night stand

[ExpatInItaly]

I dont think you read what i said carefully. I said the comment he made is since there are serious issues between both countries.

 

I read your whole thread, OP, and I still agree with HumanMachine.

 

You barely know this guy, yet you're letting his bone-headed comments eat away at you. He should not have this much effect on you, this long after the fact. I know it was irritating and insensitive of him, but you can't really do much but work toward letting it go. People say stupid things, sometimes with the intent of hurting us. It's up to us to decide how much power we give them to occupy space in our minds.

 

And really, what more can do you? It's not as though you should be contacting him to confront him about this.

[Purepony]

This guy has issues. I hope you learned something positive from this

[Nadine123]

I have. I think if anything Im mad at myself for letting this comment slide just so he doesnt get pissed off. He must think I am really desperate. Do you guys think when I blocked him it made me look not so desperate anymore? I know it shouldnt matter what I think but it would help me.

[BC1980]

I have. I think if anything Im mad at myself for letting this comment slide just so he doesnt get pissed off. He must think I am really desperate. Do you guys think when I blocked him it made me look not so desperate anymore? I know it shouldnt matter what I think but it would help me.

 

Blocking could go either way. They could see it as you are so hurt that you have to block them, or you hate them so much you blocked them. Either way, what does it matter? Something very important I learned is that you can't control what others think about you. It's not your job to go around policing what others think about you. Number one, it's an impossible task. Number two, you will just drive yourself insane because it never ends. Think about the people on social media who are obsessed with carefully constructing a certain image of themselves. We all know those people.

 

This kind of thing happens a lot when relationships end because everyone wants to come off smoothly or get the last word. Beware, because it doens't work like that. Endings are usually weird and messy. It's not like in the movies where people have a long closure talk that brings about sudden understanding, or people exact the perfect revenge a few months down the line. It just doesn't happen. The best thing you can do is focus on yourself and moving on so, at some point, you won't care what this guy thinks of you. That's really the ultimate goal. To get to a place where you just don't care what he thinks.