such called friend calling my wife 3 to 4 times week?

[taehoon77]

Someone just help me out here! I have been married going on 3 years and all of a sudden this guy pops out from nowhere and stars to calling my wife 3 to 4 times week and my wife says that he just got out of jail and he was good familly friend to her and her mother! now story startts like this he contacted my mother in law after 8 years in jail and my mother in law asked my wife about him getting out since they did not know what happened to him 8 years a go and I was fine untill the point that he is calling well let say text messaging my wife and talking to her 3 to 4 times week and I wasnt cool with the situation that some other dude is talking to my wife that much in a week and she dont see anything wrong with it and she assured me that he was just good friend of families and trying to catch up! personally I say catch up on what jail stories? I did called him and talked to the dude and she called him saying he is causing our marriage a problem so its bnest that he stops calling! then my wife cell phone was off for about a week and I happend to find that he has called again after he told me he wasnt so I called him and left a message and he called right back with unknown call and we talked again enssuring he dont need to call her after his promiss and I was just pissed! so me and my wife argued again about some dude that I dont know and never met! am I wrong to feel like this or what? please give me some thought!

[gijane1128]

Is your wife being honest with you when she is talking to him or is she sneaking around. I think that maybe 3 or 4 times a week is a little rediculous. Maybe if you met the guy you would feel better about her talking to him plus I would find out why he was in jail for. Could be something serious especially if he was in there for 8 years. Was he an old flame? Keep your guard up!

[taehoon77]

no they werent old flmame and he went to jail for not snitching his buddies who I guess sold drugs that is what he told my wife and my mother in law and no she did never sneak to talk to him but I recently started new job it is from 1 to 9 and I did she his number on her phone during my working hours! however she did stop talking to him but she says that she feel embarased because of my behavior!

[taehoon77]

oh that is my biggies problem that I never met the dude nobody has ever offered me to meet him! so I said stop the bs and stop the calling bs! and other hting is he contacted the my mother in law so why is my mother in law never invited me to meet him in the first place? we have son together so if he was such good friend of families why nobody knew where he was at?

[gijane1128]

Yeah its one thing to say oh hey I'd like you to meet such and such but you are part of the family and you should be included in this. It probably would've been a different outcome had you got to meet this "friend". The only reason your wife should be embarrased about is not telling you much about him and the fact that it seems to be between her and her mother in law. You should not be left out. She should be open with you when you ask questions about this guy. And if this guy was an honest and decent "friend" he should be elated to meet you. I think if this happened maybe you would feel better about this whole situation and then you could go from there. I would ask your wife to introduce him to you and depending on her reply this would give you a good idea from her reaction. Another thing is, If you know his full name you could go to Michigan public records and do a background check on him. Find out why he spent 8 years behind bars unless you believe your wife and then you will know if she was telling you the truth about him.

I would be wary of this dude until you know a little more about him. You should have a right to know what kind of guy this is. Hope this helps a little