Author Easy y Posted October 13, 2017 Author Share Posted October 13, 2017 I'm going to guess, based on your posts, that you are young. I hope over 18 but likely 21ish, younger if you are European. So hear this...men and women your age are borderline closed-head injury suffering fools. We are programmed by nature to procreate and it is easier for girls to do that. As you get older, assuming you have a job, a life, and are reasonably in shape, it is very easy (too easy, in fact) for guys to get laid. So let it come to you. The things you have to do at your age in order to simply get laid are, from what I can tell, well beyond your current capabilities. But if you want some tips, keep in mind that the number one attractor (I mean, besides fame and money) is confidence. The good news is that you can fake it and after faking it for a while it magically becomes real. So with every girl you meet, you would need to communicate without words that you don't need her. Maybe you want her, but you don't need her. You are confident that you will find someone else. Later in life, you find out that's actually true and when you do, things become much easier. In the meantime, just enjoy your early 20s. I'm 23, so your close. And it's true that as a man, when I'm on my path, I get laid more because I don't need it. That how I got her in the first place. The thing is that this breakup really ****ed my confidence up to maintain my path, as in my structure me chasing my goals in life. I also made this paradox that my goal in life is to have awesome sex (like I had with her). What I mean with paradox is me wanting to have sex wont get me sex. So I need to learn to get my confidence back without it. So like you said I should be focussing on my career, sports and other aspects of my life. But how do I get rid of the need to procreate so badly? It's tearing me apart, knowing that she is defenitly having sex makes it alot harder. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Easy y Posted October 13, 2017 Author Share Posted October 13, 2017 Why? Why do you feel bad and unworthy? Like firestar said, I let her walk all over me. Now don't I only have to deal with the breakup, but also not respecting myself because I didn't maintain my boundaries. Carrying this feeling makes it hard for me to interact with women, because I somehow know I'd let them walk all over me. At least thats what I'm guessing. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 13, 2017 Share Posted October 13, 2017 I will be kind because you're young and have a lot of learning to do. But the majority of really hot women don't want to be used for sex. They are probably rather also rather good at flicking off pesky guys who just want to have sex with him. They've had lots of practice. Think about if you really want to be the kind of guy who uses women for sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobra_X Posted October 14, 2017 Share Posted October 14, 2017 Like firestar said, I let her walk all over me. Now don't I only have to deal with the breakup, but also not respecting myself because I didn't maintain my boundaries. Carrying this feeling makes it hard for me to interact with women, because I somehow know I'd let them walk all over me. At least thats what I'm guessing. This is something completely within your control. Why would you let another woman push you around? Why can't you say no? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Easy y Posted October 14, 2017 Author Share Posted October 14, 2017 This is something completely within your control. Why would you let another woman push you around? Why can't you say no? Thats for counseling to find out. Probably because of mom issues Link to post Share on other sites
Tribble Posted October 16, 2017 Share Posted October 16, 2017 I will be kind because you're young and have a lot of learning to do. But the majority of really hot women don't want to be used for sex. They are probably rather also rather good at flicking off pesky guys who just want to have sex with him. They've had lots of practice. Think about if you really want to be the kind of guy who uses women for sex. I don't think it's necessarily that difficult to get women to have casual sex. You said in your beginning posts that it happened. Few women want to be used for sex, unless they're using you too. But, hot or not, usually the women that allow themselves to be used for sex are not happy. They're insecure, or sad or whatever. I have a friend who broke up with his very long term gf in January. Since then he has slept with anything that moves. His game is phenomenal, he has no problem getting laid and no problem getting the women he wants. But before all this happened, he was literally the nicest person I'd ever met. Since his "success", he isn't anymore. The way he talks about this women makes me feel a little ill. He doesn't do anything wrong, he's upfront about it all being casual and open. But he quite clearly has no respect for these poor girls. His confidence is slowly becoming cockiness. And that isn't a very nice person to be. Link to post Share on other sites
coolheadal Posted October 16, 2017 Share Posted October 16, 2017 Your hurt and your ego is affected by this to love a woman who has cheated or had sex 24/7 is tough. Why would you consider such a woman. You can do better it takes time to get what you really want out of life but in all you can always do better. Magic to use that to change her wouldn't make things go your way could back fire. Love isn't enough for her sex makes her happy and she'll keep having it who ever she wants too. She's not for you and you know it don't settle for her. Sex should be special for you with the right woman and only for you both. Don't share her with anyone else. I don't get myself involved with woman like this just not me.. I've ran into them as well I just tell we can be friends but I wouldn't touch you do anything with you at all. Your a multi-partner sex addict... Link to post Share on other sites
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