Merin Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by ThumbingMyWay this is why I admire you so much..... Thanks TMW... I appreciate that Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale . its what they were put on the earth for and also gives them validation and fullfillment and love. Uh.. yeah you did. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Uh.. yeah you did. i did not state it was the oNLY thing they were put on the earth for. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Run Alpha ... Grab onto the liferaft.. See what just one or 2 sentences can create ? They are gonna hang you and skin you next.. Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Merin....All these posts about "a MAN needs to be a MAN" and he still can't admit that he's wrong. A real man would be able to admit that he's wrong Link to post Share on other sites
Author tanbark813 Posted August 16, 2005 Author Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 Why do you want to get married? Because, call me naive, but I like the old-fashioned idea of creating a family and being the head of it. I would like to find a woman to call my own who would feel honored to take my last name rather than consider it a legal inconvenience and be worried about what her single, overly feminist girlfriends will say about it. It would be nice to have a solid commitment with someone I know I can trust for life and know that she won't run off to f*ck other dudes should some financial burden befall the family. Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Wooh, I felt fulfilled like a MoFo! i think merin might be the exception here it's real hard to find the "one" Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by Art_Critic Run Alpha ... Grab onto the liferaft.. they'll never find me...unless they can trace my IP address *alpha goes to hide in 5th floor copier room* Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale i did not state it was the oNLY thing they were put on the earth for. You said it's what they (Women) were put on Earth for. Regardless if you didn't add the word ONLY is irrelevant.. Bottomline, there are a lot of Women out there the big world Alpha that do not have children out of choice and guess what? They are STILL amazing Women that are fullfilled, validated AND loved... You are Not to say (no more than I am) what people (MEN AND WOMEN) are here on this Earth to do, experience, or attain. MEN AND WOMEN are INDIVIDUALS not to be lumped into what we might want or have them be. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by tanbark813 Because, call me naive, but I like the old-fashioned idea of creating a family and being the head of it. watch some reruns of Everybody Loves Raymond....thats pretty much what married and family life is like. :0 Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by tanbark813 Because, call me naive, but I like the old-fashioned idea of creating a family and being the head of it. I would like to find a woman to call my own who would feel honored to take my last name rather than consider it a legal inconvenience and be worried about what her single, overly feminist girlfriends will say about it. It would be nice to have a solid commitment with someone I know I can trust for life and know that she won't run off to f*ck other dudes should some financial burden befall the family. Ok, so now I'm confused. Isn't this what men get by being married? Men get the same things that women get...a family, a commitment with someone they can trust for life....and to be perfectly honest, I live in what is arguably the most jaded city in the U.S. and personally I don't know one married woman that didn't take her husband's last name. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by Merin You are Not to say (no more than I am) what people (MEN AND WOMEN) are here on this Earth to do, experience, or attain. **alpha turns into a mouse** "squeak, squeak" Link to post Share on other sites
Author tanbark813 Posted August 16, 2005 Author Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale watch some reruns of Everybody Loves Raymond....thats pretty much what married and family life is like. :0 Yeah, that's my fear. I've also noticed that on almost every TV show, the man is portrayed and some incompetent, bumbling fool. That 70's Show is the only recent show I can think of where the man of the house is actually the man of the house. Originally posted by JS17 Ok, so now I'm confused. Isn't this what men get by being married? It would be if that is what were to happen. But my point is that it seems like the situation I described that you quoted is becoming less and less common. Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by tanbark813 It would be if that is what were to happen. But my point is that it seems like the situation I described that you quoted is becoming less and less common. Yes, I agree that it is becoming less common but that doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Maybe I'm the naieve one but I think the men and women that want the traditional family are still in the majority. I think that very few women wouldn't take their husband's name and most women wouldn't cheat. that's just my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale watch some reruns of Everybody Loves Raymond....thats pretty much what married and family life is like. :0 And what's so wrong about that? What do I get for being married you ask? My heart still skips a beat when Mrs. Moose walks into the room. No matter what mood I'm in, when she's in eye shot, I know things are going to be ok. I know that my better half, my helpmate, will be my crutch if need be, and that's unconditional. I know that the only person who truly knows me, and understands me is near and will back me up. She gave me 5 beautiful, extremely smart and talented kids that I know will take care of us when we won't be able to. I know she'll hold my hand, and head as I take my last breath. All of that is priceless. Link to post Share on other sites
JS17 Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by Moose And what's so wrong about that? What do I get for being married you ask? My heart still skips a beat when Mrs. Moose walks into the room. No matter what mood I'm in, when she's in eye shot, I know things are going to be ok. I know that my better half, my helpmate, will be my crutch if need be, and that's unconditional. I know that the only person who truly knows me, and understands me is near and will back me up. She gave me 5 beautiful, extremely smart and talented kids that I know will take care of us when we won't be able to. I know she'll hold my hand, and head as I take my last breath. All of that is priceless. awww do you have a younger brother? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by Moose I know she'll hold my hand, and head as I take my last breath. Guilt maybe cause and effect Link to post Share on other sites
Author tanbark813 Posted August 16, 2005 Author Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by JS17 Yes, I agree that it is becoming less common but that doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Maybe I'm the naieve one but I think the men and women that want the traditional family are still in the majority. I think that very few women wouldn't take their husband's name and most women wouldn't cheat. that's just my opinion. Well I hope you're right. Originally posted by Art_Critic Guilt maybe cause and effect Link to post Share on other sites
JPMorgan Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 quote:Originally posted by alphamale majority of women enjoy doing the above. its what they were put on the earth for and also gives them validation and fullfillment and love. LMFAO You're out of your damn mind. AMEN! I've heard this before and it's funny -- make that frightening how many men think that women LOVE to clean up puke, wipe butts, blow noses and be run ragged taking care of the children. We do it because #1: We HAVE to and #2: We love our children and want them taken care of. BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT WE ENJOY IT!!! Or that it gives us somekind of validation, fullfilment or love! That is ludicrous! Its the CHILDREN we love -- not their s***ty butts and snotty noses! Link to post Share on other sites
JPMorgan Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by New_Wife Do you have to put alot of bandaids on those knuckles after they've drug across the pavement all day long? OMG! I just gassed the lab I laughed so hard! Link to post Share on other sites
JPMorgan Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale watch some reruns of Everybody Loves Raymond....thats pretty much what married and family life is like. :0 Bullcrap -- that is a TV sitcom not real life and not even a true reflection of real life. It is idealized, condensed, spcied up, and twisted around for entertainment. No one should compare their life with a TV sitcom or look at a TV show as a true reflection of real life. ELR is no more accurate a reflection of what marriage and family are than Leave it to Beaver was back in the 1950's! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by JPMorgan Bullcrap -- that is a TV sitcom not real life and not even a true reflection of real life. Hmm lets seee, you have: - they bitchy wife whos always in a bad mood - hubbie who gets no sex except on rare occasion - meddling in-laws - a moronic sibling who messes everything up - kids that misbehave all the time sounds pretty real-life to me! Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Merin- I'm so glad you took control in this thread! Alot of times we also find ourselves doing all of this for our kids because if we didn't it wouldn't get done. My ex certainly never worried about whether or not the kids had lunch money or shoes to wear. Thus, one reason he is my ex! My husband feels that he's gotten a bargain or so he has told his buddies. They were teasing him about getting remarried and he sat one of them down and said, "Look, I married my best friend and I've never felt this way before, ever. I can call her tonight and she'll run me a bath if I'm tired and also have me a drink ready. She will meet me at the door with a kiss too. You know why? Cause I'd do the same thing for her. Look at yourself- what do you have? A string of women who will leave you when someone comes along that has more money? There is no amount of money that would cause my wife to leave me. You haven't ever had it like this- because if you had you'd know what I was talking about and you wouldn't want to give it up either- you'd want it everyday" I guess we could have lived together but I'm kinda old fashioned about that. I didn't feel, for me, that it was setting the proper example for my daughter. That's why I didn't want to do it. He never considered it though, he said it just wouldn't be right for us- he wanted a lifetime committment just like I did. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Originally posted by JPMorgan quote] Its the CHILDREN we love -- not their s***ty butts and snotty noses! Exactly. Originally posted by Mz. Pixie Merin- I'm so glad you took control in this thread! Alot of times we also find ourselves doing all of this for our kids because if we didn't it wouldn't get done. My ex certainly never worried about whether or not the kids had lunch money or shoes to wear. Thus, one reason he is my ex! My husband feels that he's gotten a bargain or so he has told his buddies. They were teasing him about getting remarried and he sat one of them down and said, "Look, I married my best friend and I've never felt this way before, ever. I can call her tonight and she'll run me a bath if I'm tired and also have me a drink ready. She will meet me at the door with a kiss too. You know why? Cause I'd do the same thing for her. Look at yourself- what do you have? A string of women who will leave you when someone comes along that has more money? There is no amount of money that would cause my wife to leave me. You haven't ever had it like this- because if you had you'd know what I was talking about and you wouldn't want to give it up either- you'd want it everyday" I guess we could have lived together but I'm kinda old fashioned about that. I didn't feel, for me, that it was setting the proper example for my daughter. That's why I didn't want to do it. He never considered it though, he said it just wouldn't be right for us- he wanted a lifetime committment just like I did. Good to see you Mz.P So happy for you and your New Hubby... sounds like things are going great! Link to post Share on other sites
Annacabana Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Married men have longer lives, are happier and have better sex and more sex. Also: Additional research shows that marriage: Provides the highest levels of sexual pleasure and fulfillment for men and women Protects against feelings of loneliness Protects women from domestic and general violence Enhances a parent’s ability to parent Helps create better, more reliable employees Increases individual earnings and savings Link to post Share on other sites
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