arlington Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 My boyfriend of 5 months just broke up last week as he said his heart was just feeling friends. After we broke up, I immediately went down to FL to spend a few days with my family. He asked if I wanted a ride home from the airport and I declined and had another friend come and pick me up instead. I go home on Sunday and talked to a friend and he told me to listen to my heart so I did and I called him up and told him that I missed him. He said that he was glad that I called because we didn't talk much over the past few days and he was worried about me. He came over and we talked and I wanted to demonstate my unconditional love for him and said that if he wants to be friends thats OK with me. Also, over the past few days he still called me baby and sweetie and when I confronted him on that he said that it was just a force of habit and that he would try to not say it. He has said it to me twice since Sunday. We hung out with a mutual group of freinds for dinner last night and then when we left he said I will catch you online later. I was beat and went to bed. He sent me two IMs - one saying "Are you still up?" and another one later saying "I am guessing you fell asleep on the couch, sleep well and I will talk to you in the morning." He called me first thing this morning and asked if I fell asleep on the couch and I told him that I did. He e-mailed me again later when I was in a meeting and then called and left me a message saying he was out running errands, etc. Then a few minutes later he e-mailed me again asking if I wanted a small fridge for my office that he didn't have a need for. I waited a while to reply and told him that I did not have room for it. Mostly because I want to come across that I don't need anything from him. What is going on? I think he is confused about his feelings and I won't be at his beck and call and I won't be a yo-yo if he is feeling one thing one day and something else the next. I do want him back - we are friends and I was very happy. What should I do??? Link to post Share on other sites
theclash Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 men eh? they are so werid and confusing. It sounds to me as he has hopes of maybe you and him getting back together, but he must work out his true feelings towards you. My ex treated me like a door mat Link to post Share on other sites
sundrop Posted August 16, 2005 Share Posted August 16, 2005 Hum, I agree with theclash on this one. I would give him a little space so he can sort out his true feelings. And also give yourself a little space from him, so you can figure out if he is really what you want so you don't end up being the yoyo. If he contacts you keep things short and sweet, don't tell him everything you are doing keep him wondering. And if this keeps up and you can hang in there without worring yourself to death, then ask him whats up? But keep your space and let him miss you. Link to post Share on other sites
butterfly29 Posted August 17, 2005 Share Posted August 17, 2005 Seems to me he is playing mind games with you. He is not ready for commitment that is required for relationship, and yet he doesn't want to let you out of his life. Don't fall for it. Know that you deserve. Link to post Share on other sites
Jayhawks Posted August 17, 2005 Share Posted August 17, 2005 HE is a friend. You need to accept this and believe him. Just because he is concerned about you doesn't mean he wants more than friendship. You said friends was fine so accept his friendship and don't wish for more. If you can't then you will have to end the friendship. Link to post Share on other sites
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