What is YOUR status?

[somethingelse]

New here and just curious what the mass majority of the members here status are? I feel like the majority are BW/BH? Extra points for sharing why you decided to get involved on this particular forum. Thanks for sharing!

 

 

 

OW,OM - Other Woman, Other Man

 

fOW,fOM - Former OW, Former OM; anytime you see the lower case f in front of one of the acronyms it stands for "former"

 

OP - This can have two meanings. Other Person, or Original Poster (The person who started the thread.)

 

rOW,rOM - Reformed Other Woman, Reformed Other Man. You may also see the lower case r in front of WS, WW, or WH. This is one that is highly debated here, and is most often thought to be an insult, but I put it here because you are likely to come across it at some point.

 

BS - Betrayed Spouse. (It also occasionally used for what it is most commonly used for, and we all know what that BS stands for.)

 

BW,BH - Betrayed Wife, Betrayed Husband.

 

MM,MW - Married Man, Married Woman.

 

MOM,MOW - Married Other Man, Married Other Woman. These are people who are married and in an affair with someone who is also married.

 

WS - Wayward (or Wandering; either works) Spouse.

 

WW,WH - Wayward Wife, Wayward Husband.

 

 

fWW, fHW - Former wayward wife/husband

 

fMW, fMM - Former married woman/man

[eye of the storm]

There is a pinned thread with all the normal loveshack abbreviations.

 

 

Also, there is a very healthy mix of BSs, and OW/OM here, with an occasional WS. I like this forum, lots of tough love. When you are in a situation where you are involved in an A. You know you are wrong. And someone patting your head telling you things will be ok is not always the best approach. Sometimes you need a 2X4 to the head or someone yelling with a megaphone about the giant cliff you are running straight for.

 

 

Affairs create a fantasy fog. With everything that happens filtered thru that fog to match your story line. LS doesn't have time for fog. They cut thru it.

 

 

BSs are good to hear from because it reminds you there is a real person you are ACTIVELY damaging. OW/OM are good to hear from because they are trying to help you avoid the damage they are still trying to recover from.

 

 

LS can occasionally be brutal. I had some really not nice comments thrown at me when I came on. And...they hurt. But, they helped me clarify some things in my head.

 

 

Take the good with the bad. Even in the hurtful comments you can find pearls of knowledge. If you flounce off every time someone tells you that you are screwing up. You wont be here long and you will miss out on a support structure that does help.

 

 

But to your question, I am a former BS and I would like to say I'm an xOW but....we still talk. We don't talk as much and I am trying to date. I bought a house because I was tired of waiting for him, tired of waiting for my life.

 

 

I have tried to go NC or even extreme LC but, something happens and he is one of the few people I can vent to without worrying about their reactions. (I work a high stress job in occasionally not safe places) Because he has "been there done that" I don't have to filter with him. (see, even now I am adept at coming up with excuses to talk to him, but its a work in progress)

 

 

We dated casually for 3 years, lived together when we were both in the same location for about 3 years, and about a year or so ago, he moved and asked his W for a D. She said no, he didn't fight. I told him I was done. No fights, no DD, just done. On his part there never was a DD. She knew about me and had for years but never said anything.

[waterwoman]

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For the record I am a BW - 5 years post d-day and I would say successfully reconciled (it's always a work in progress though). I hold no brief for the betrayed but as with everyone else I have experience that might help you.

Edited October 18, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[MJJean]

I was a WW and a BW. I divorced and remarried, so I am now a DW.

[kittencupcake]

Unwitting OW. I didn't find out until we were a year into the relationship and house hunting/ring shopping. He was a real class act.

[cocorico]

Former OW, now happily married to my former MM.

 

You know, those people who “don’t exist”...

[RecentChange]

Oh gees.... I am lots of these.

 

I have been a:

BS, betrayed spouse.

WW, a wayward wife which is also the MOW, married other woman.

 

Not actively cheating or being cheated on, so I guess I get little F's in front of everything?

 

Curious how "BS" is forever and other titles get modifiers.

[Michelle ma Belle]

I have never cheated nor have been cheated on. I'm just a regular gal currently in a happy monogamous relationship with a truckload of relationship and life experiences I'm all too happy to share in the hopes it will help someone else.

 

Not sure what acronym applies so I'll leave that to you to decide

[Shanex]

I was once the ''Other Man'' of a woman who was about to divorce. Hardly cheating from her as they still lived together while not even being a couple anymore.

 

All the rest of these acronyms don't apply to me.

[MJJean]

Former OW, now happily married to my former MM.

 

You know, those people who “don’t exist”...

 

Being more specific than my first post on this thread, I'm a former serial WW who left the marriage to be with an AP. I've been happily and faithfully with him for nearly 18 years, married to him for nearly 15 of those years. We "don't exist", either.

[BikerAccnt]

I have never cheated nor have been cheated on. I'm just a regular gal currently in a happy monogamous relationship with a truckload of relationship and life experiences I'm all too happy to share in the hopes it will help someone else.

 

Not sure what acronym applies so I'll leave that to you to decide

 

Michelle, I am like you. Never cheated nor to my knowledge been cheated on. Perhaps we are among the lucky few.

 

Though, much like product review boards, you don't often read the good reviews, only the one's where people have problems. I think LS is a lot like those review boards in many ways

[Mysterio]

I am a Canadian Black Male. Age 46. Look 34 or so. I live in a Condo with a cat. I work at a hospital down the street from me. 20 min bus ride. I go to the gym 5 times a week. I go to music venues 2-3 times a week.

 

I have a lot of friends. My parents are still together and I have a brother that is 44.

 

I am single. My last GF was in 2012. I have had two dating relationships one in 2013 the other in 2015. I just found out two love prospects are married this year.

 

There is no one on the horizon at the moment. Although I am hopeful.

[Miss Spider]

I am a Canadian Black Male. Age 46. Look 34 or so. I live in a Condo with a cat. I work at a hospital down the street from me. 20 min bus ride. I go to the gym 5 times a week. I go to music venues 2-3 times a week.

 

I have a lot of friends. My parents are still together and I have a brother that is 44.

 

I am single. My last GF was in 2012. I have had two dating relationships one in 2013 the other in 2015. I just found out two love prospects are married this year.

 

There is no one on the horizon at the moment. Although I am hopeful.

 

Sounds awesome

[Mysterio]

Thanks for the compliment Cookie. What about you.

 

I am getting to the point in my life, where even though I still desire a romantic relationship. I have my close friends/Parents/Brother around. So what am I really missing.

 

I have a friend that just has his GF and thats pretty much it. Thats scary to me. If his GF breaks up with him. Its a major shift in his life. he does have a son. Yet he only sees him every second weekend at best.

[5x5]

I am a MM and have been so in two instances. With the first ending after I found out I was a BH when my ex WW confessed to me. Between those two marriages, I was also albeit briefly the OM to a few WW's.

[Southwardbound]

New here and just curious what the mass majority of the members here status are? I feel like the majority are BW/BH? Extra points for sharing why you decided to get involved on this particular forum. Thanks for sharing!

 

 

 

OW,OM - Other Woman, Other Man

 

fOW,fOM - Former OW, Former OM; anytime you see the lower case f in front of one of the acronyms it stands for "former"

 

OP - This can have two meanings. Other Person, or Original Poster (The person who started the thread.)

 

rOW,rOM - Reformed Other Woman, Reformed Other Man. You may also see the lower case r in front of WS, WW, or WH. This is one that is highly debated here, and is most often thought to be an insult, but I put it here because you are likely to come across it at some point.

 

BS - Betrayed Spouse. (It also occasionally used for what it is most commonly used for, and we all know what that BS stands for.)

 

BW,BH - Betrayed Wife, Betrayed Husband.

 

MM,MW - Married Man, Married Woman.

 

MOM,MOW - Married Other Man, Married Other Woman. These are people who are married and in an affair with someone who is also married.

 

WS - Wayward (or Wandering; either works) Spouse.

 

WW,WH - Wayward Wife, Wayward Husband.

 

 

fWW, fHW - Former wayward wife/husband

 

fMW, fMM - Former married woman/man

 

The perspective I write from: I was an WS (with the same man (2yrs) at the very beginning of my marriage, who is now a OM with me (2 1/2Yrs ongoing) ) and a BS through ex-H's actions, I divorced him, married 19years.

Edited October 19, 2017 by Southwardbound

[Gaeta]

wow! lets see.

 

I am not sure what I am.

 

I was married then divorced but my ex-husband died so that makes me a divorcée without an ex. Can you find me an acronym?

[TheWoman]

Im none of them!

 

I do occasionally chime in on the infidelity threads... only to feel quite told off a short while after

 

I admit I just dont get it. Although I think that is my personality. I could never lie and cheat. It has been done to me by a boyfriend, and well it killed it in a way that left me cold.... no tears, just bye. I could probably be poly tbh, except I dont have the time for more than one significant other. But this ownership of others when it is not what they want, I do not get.

[carhill]

Back in the day I probably had more experience with MW's that anything else. Nowadays I'm an old divorced guy who enjoys the solo life and doesn't bother with women at all, other than as friends.