capsicumspray Posted January 28, 2018 Share Posted January 28, 2018 Take up meditation or work on yourself to control the emotions. If you're this emotional now, even if she comes back, it won't last. It sounds crappy now, but once you find someone better, you'll be fine and wonder why you spent so much time thinking of someone who doesn't deserve you. Link to post Share on other sites
Robert Posted January 28, 2018 Share Posted January 28, 2018 Note from moderation, multiple threads were merged together into one as they are about the same subject. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Gr8fuln2020 Posted January 28, 2018 Share Posted January 28, 2018 Hey all, guess I need a bit of a perk up. Thought I'd gotten over my ex. We broke up in October and I've been NC for like 2 months. It went away briefly, but recently I can't get her out of my head. I think it's related to my goals. I'm 25 years old, and I got a full-time job just after my breakup, also been going to the gym for a good month. I keep getting back to this place where I can't organise my thoughts, and I feel like I can't pursue long-term goals when it gets like this. I'm proactive, but I keep becoming unhappy in these brief moments. I need to get out there and make friends, and start dating and apply for stuff. I keep getting mad with myself because I feel like I've achieved nothing, even though I have. Sorry if I'm being dramatic, it's all a big struggle you know? Sometimes I just can't relax. Get counseling. It sounds like you would benefit from it. Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted January 29, 2018 Share Posted January 29, 2018 You are going to have your ups and downs. Just reread what you posted earlier about her being a schrew (lol). It’s upsetting to see an ex with someone else so it’s normal the way you feel. However, your friends should be with you and not hanging with her. At a minimum tell them you don’t want to hear anything about her ever again. You sound like a smart kid - especially for your age. You did the right thing by letting go of this toxicity in your life. Many men your senior would be married to her and be miserable until the sweet release of death pardons them. Once you find someone better you are going to realize you made the right move. In the meanine keep dating and practicing until she comes along so you’ll be ready. What happened to the chick at work and her birthday party? Link to post Share on other sites
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