My ex-boyfriend's new girlfriend suddenly followed me on social medias. Why?

[Akira1137]

It doesn't bother me deeply, although I feel like I'm somewhat being watched and I'm also a little bit curious as to why and I know that stalking your SO's ex is somewhat normal to an extent but I wouldn't make such a bold move like that myself. So, here I am since I'm a little uncomfortable asking the people around me I thought I should just ask here anonymously with less fear of judgement.

 

My ex and I last talked months ago and that was before they even dated.

[d0nnivain]

She can't follow you without your permission. Block her. What you do is no business of hers or your EXs.

 

She's following you to check up on you to make sure you are not a threat to her relationship.

[somanymistakes]

Can't know for sure without knowing them.

 

Checking you out seems normal, openly following you is a little weird. My guesses would be:

 

1. She thinks you're a threat, that your ex is still into you or vice versa, so she's watching you for any signs of inappropriate behavior and is sending you a sign that she has her eye on you.

2. She is trying to demonstrate how Friendly she is for her SO's benefit. "Look, see, I'm not jealous and controlling! I'm even friends with your ex!"

3. She actually doesn't know who you are but a 'people you may know' algorithm suggested you because of your connection to your ex. Unlikely but not impossible.

4. She is hoping to glean more information from you about your ex, in order to improve her own relationship with him, and hopes that you'll mark her as a friend without even knowing who she is so she can get into your old posts and dig up info

 

I'm sure there are other possibilities too, this is just what comes to mind

[Akira1137]

I've thought about these possibilities too. I don't know the new girlfriend personally but I've seen her sometimes because we all came from the same uni but I've already graduated. And back then, sometimes I'd stalk my ex because I miss him, and I'd get hints that he misses me a bit too in subtle ways because he's sort of a quiet guy. But I've stopped stalking since they've gotten together and just want to move forward with my life and to new things.

[Gaeta]

Maybe she just click the follow button by accident when she was checking you.

[Akira1137]

Maybe she just click the follow button by accident when she was checking you.

 

It's been quite a few days though and she hasn't unfollowed me.

[Almond_Joy]

First instinct is to block her, but if you do she may think there’s substance to whatever prompted her to follow you in the first place.

 

It’s not a big deal because you have nothing to hide but it would make me really uncomfortable. I guess you don’t have much cause to address her about it now without coming across as overly private or something.

 

If this is Facebook, I think there’s a setting that allows only your friends to follow you, you could turn that on. That way you don’t single her out but you also limit her ability to cyberstalk you.

[Akira1137]

First instinct is to block her, but if you do she may think there’s substance to whatever prompted her to follow you in the first place.

 

It’s not a big deal because you have nothing to hide but it would make me really uncomfortable. I guess you don’t have much cause to address her about it now without coming across as overly private or something.

 

If this is Facebook, I think there’s a setting that allows only your friends to follow you, you could turn that on. That way you don’t single her out but you also limit her ability to cyberstalk you.

 

It was on twitter since I don't set my profile to private, but I've deactivated it for now since I felt like I was being watched and I've got better things to do.

[Miss Spider]

Why is stalking your so's ex 'normal' now? She's being a creepy little creepette. Block her.

[Akira1137]

Why is stalking your so's ex 'normal' now? She's being a creepy little creepette. Block her.

 

I just think that a lot of people do it, it is indeed creepy but still harmless. It's just even weirder and creepier that she decided to follow me. I've deactivated my account for a while so I don't get distracted or curious myself, it almost feels like a trap lol.

[ZayKayWill]

It could be anything. Are you and your ex still cool? If that's the case maybe your ex put a good word out for you to his new gf and is just curious about you. I really love how people immediately assume the worst and think she's stalking her to see if she's a threat. But hey what else can you expect from here.

 

Bottom line: Wanna know the best thing to do to figure out the deal? Brace yourself...you're gonna probably have to sit down for this one because this **** will literally blow you away: *drum roll*.....

 

Ask her! Or her new bf (your ex). I guess they could lie about it, but either way you're not gonna have a 100% answer by coming on here asking a bunch of strangers.

[whichwayisup]

lock down all your social media accounts and make them private. Set up that only friends can follow you on fb. And block her!

 

she's probably curious about you.