If you had the chance to go back and change something in your life, would you?

[Opium]

I've been thinking a lot about the past and how I had a great childhood (with of course the usual ups and downs in a family) and it made me think about the person I've become. (Some friends and I had this discussion yesterday)

 

Everything in my past has led to where I am today. I was trying to think of something that I could have done better or different to see how much my way of thinking has changed. You know the saying "If I knew then what I know now____"(fill in your thoughts).

 

I asked myself if I would change something or make a different choice, and so far my answers NO! Why? Well for one, I wouldn't be the person I am. Maybe you guys can trigger something that I could've changed.

 

So my question is, If you can go back and change something in your past would you?

[Art_Critic]

I really love my life.. But if i could change one thing it would be the type of person I was in my '20s.

 

I was all about work and no play and I put off my social calandar because work took a priority and looking back today I think it took WAY TO MUCH priority.. and I really didn't start living until my mid '30s

[NTB]

without going into much detail............yeah i would

[TUDOR]

Not sure on this one Opium, my first conclusions are very much the same as you said it and not sure I would change anything. This one will take some thought....I'll come back to this. Great now I will be pondering this and not get any work done!

[Opium]

Originally posted by NTB

without going into much detail............yeah i would

 

Oh come on, at least a little something.

 

Originally posted by TUDOR

Not sure on this one Opium, my first conclusions are very much the same as you said it and not sure I would change anything. This one will take some thought....I'll come back to this. Great now I will be pondering this and not get any work done!

 

Sorry ! I've been thinking about it all day, and dammit their has to be something, right?

[thegoodhubbie]

ABSOFREAKINLUTELY!

[LonelySoul]

I wouldn't change anything, what's the point, realistically you can't so why bother. I just try my hardest to make the best decisions possible.

[JPMorgan]

If someone sprinkles some magic fairy dust over my head and I could change one decision or choice that I made in the past -- yeah, there is at least one and without thinking on it too hard, I could probably come up with half a dozen things I wish I'd done differently. But since I don't know anyone with any fairy dust (magic or otherwise) I guess I won't dwell on it!

[Merin]

I woudn't have stayed so long in my last relationship...

 

He was toxic and it messed with me for quite awhile...

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

I would change the day my father died. Not only did the funeral become a disaster (Flowers were wrong, etc.) I did not want my best friend in the whole world have a bad funeral. I loved him more than life itself and with all the s*** he went through, his own funeral has to go wrong too!

[Opium]

Originally posted by IhavenoFREAKINclue

I would change the day my father died. Not only did the funeral become a disaster (Flowers were wrong, etc.) I did not want my best friend in the whole world have a bad funeral. I loved him more than life itself and with all the s*** he went through, his own funeral has to go wrong too!

 

Sorry to hear that. Here's a to cheer you up!

[Opium]

Originally posted by Merin

I woudn't have stayed so long in my last relationship...

 

He was toxic and it messed with me for quite awhile...

 

Merin, you have a point. I think your sparking something in me that I MIGHT have changed. Still thinking though.

[whichwayisup]

Originally posted by Opium

I've been thinking a lot about the past and how I had a great childhood (with of course the usual ups and downs in a family) and it made me think about the person I've become. (Some friends and I had this discussion yesterday)

 

Everything in my past has led to where I am today. I was trying to think of something that I could have done better or different to see how much my way of thinking has changed. You know the saying "If I knew then what I know now____"(fill in your thoughts).

 

I asked myself if I would change something or make a different choice, and so far my answers NO! Why? Well for one, I wouldn't be the person I am. Maybe you guys can trigger something that I could've changed.

 

So my question is, If you can go back and change something in your past would you?

 

Great question!

 

I've been very lucky, I had a very happy and healthy childhood. (same as you, with the ups/downs, normal stuff I guess)

 

Yeah I think my post reply is exactly the same as yours. The past is what made me who I am today.

 

Maybe one thing I would change would be not to make the choice to start smoking. That was just dumb.

[MWC_LifeBeginsAt40]

I wish I accomplished more in my 20's. For some reason I was in a rush to grow up, get married, and have kids. I should have taken more schooling (I finished community college though). I should have saved some money and travelled more too.

 

But, when I look back at the person I was then compared to the person I am now? I would have been way too chicken s**t to travel the world, and I was too much of a party animal with poor study habits to go to Univ.

 

I would have had more sex, tried drugs maybe once although I wouldn't now, and waited for the right guy instead of marrying the one who was in my life at the time I felt I should be married.

[quankanne]

I'd have chased off Hot Guy's best friend the time we necked on our senior trip. Not sure if I'd have given up my virginity to him, but something more than a hot kiss surely would have been nice ...

 

otherwise, I would have done more when I was young, single and carefree. It's a booger to get together with friends anymore because of obligations to work and home and debt!!!

[dgiirl]

It's a vicious cycle. Had I known then what I knew now, I definitely would want to go back and change it. But because i didnt know then, I made a mistake, I learned from it and that's why I know now what i didnt know then. I think having regrets is good because it means you'll never repeat the same mistake twice.

 

Currently I'm facing a divorce. Do I wish I could go back and change things? Most certainly. But I dont regret getting married, and I wont regret getting a divorce (something I do not want). I'm learning a lot from the whole terrible experience. I do regret doing the things I did that led me to a divorce, and I hope to not repeat those mistakes again.

[laRubiaBonita]

i would have invested in google and micro soft...then sold my shares in ripe fashion, and live in georgetown....there is this awesome home there for a cool 10 mill.

[room101]

change anything - the only thing i can think of is those times when u think of something u should have said but its too late. whether its in general conversation or with a partner.

 

also totally agree on the shares thing! in fact, id probably try and talk my way into microsoft and take some profit!

[caring guy]

I would have been more responsible & not got in with the wrong crowd at an early age!

I wouldn't have used drugs & alcohol that fu_ked up my relationships!

I was so, so damn stupid!

Listen kids!

[RecordProducer]

OMG, I would change almost everything! The easier question would be what I wouldn't change... when I think of something, I'll let you know guys.

[Opium]

I think having regrets is good because it means you'll never repeat the same mistake twice.

 

That's true!

 

Originally posted by RecordProducer

OMG, I would change almost everything! The easier question would be what I wouldn't change... when I think of something, I'll let you know guys.

 

That's funny! I see you've made a lot of mistakes

[shamen]

While I'd like to say that I would like to take back all of the insanity of my 20s (drugs, alcohol, sex), I don't think that I want to. All of those things make me who I am now, so why take it back?

 

However, sometimes I wish that I had had a different major in college/grad school so that I could be doing something more along the lines of what I love in terms of my career. While I like what I do, I am not satisfied with it either.

[caring guy]

Shamen

I get you that all the drugs sex & booze made you who you are today & i hope your happy with that!

May be if it wasn't for waking up sick & tyred, endless days of no sleep through amphetamine abuse, relationship fu_kups through alcoohol, i would be in a better career environment now, just like you!

[shamen]

Originally posted by caring guy

Shamen

I get you that all the drugs sex & booze made you who you are today & i hope your happy with that!

May be if it wasn't for waking up sick & tyred, endless days of no sleep through amphetamine abuse, relationship fu_kups through alcoohol, i would be in a better career environment now, just like you!

 

Hey, caring guy, I still put myself through school, even while I was doing that. Took a couple of years off in between college and grad school. That's when I was the messiest. When I saw myself spiraling down into the pit, I got out, brushed my feet off, went back to school and got a real job!

 

Just because someone was once like that doesn't mean that they have to stay like that forever. While I admit that I still go through phases of alcohol abuse, I'm much cleaned up in comparison (and working on getting it back under control)!

 

Sorry to the OP for the off topic...

[RecordProducer]

Originally posted by Opium

That's funny! I see you've made a lot of mistakes

 

Well not really. People have made mistakes upon me. I was naive. Or I was just a child. Or I thought they were good cuz they pretended too well.

I guess I just wasn't very happy in my life so if I would have this mind, I would go back and do everything different. I wouldn't let so many people hurt me.