lastonestanding Posted October 28, 2017 Posted October 28, 2017 I recently got out of a relationship (about 2 months ago) and have a huge crush on a really close friend of mine. Problem is, he just started dating someone (of course...). I know I can't really do anything to "fix" that, but I need to figure out how to not go crazy. I am attempting to date, but under it all, I want to be with him. He has expressed interest in dating, but doesn't want to be a rebound. But I drive myself crazy with thoughts of them evolving into a long term thing, falling in love, etc in the meantime. So jealous. I need some perspective!
todreaminblue Posted October 28, 2017 Posted October 28, 2017 i believe in if things were meant to happen they happen and jealousy doesnt help that process.....he may develop a long term bond with someone else.....at spoem point you realise that's the way its meant to be and even though it hurts you wish them well...because you really do want to see that person happy.....thats truly caring for someone...is when you want their happiness...over your own self ....developing this mindset takes time and heartache.....self analysis who knows if you do date others you just may find someone who suits you more than he could.....i wish you well...deb 1
smackie9 Posted November 10, 2017 Posted November 10, 2017 He has expressed interest in dating, but doesn't want to be a rebound. This is a cop-out. If he really was interested in you he wouldn't even care, he would just take things a little slow. You are not missing out on any opportunity with him. 1
Space Ritual Posted November 10, 2017 Posted November 10, 2017 Aliexpress is Star shopping... Please go bother somebody that cares that you have "Tit" in your screen name
heretoh3lp Posted November 10, 2017 Posted November 10, 2017 There isn't a way to not go crazy. I would step back and ask yourself how much you would want to date him, if he wasn't getting into a relationship. I know it sounds trivial, but often times, when someone we once could have is suddenly unavailable, they become more attractive to us. If he was genuinely interested in dating, he wouldn't have found someone else. I'm not saying he isn't, because he could be. What I'm saying is, his intentions may not be completely genuine if he expressed interest and then suddenly got into another relationship. Just be cautious. Try to let it go. If you two are meant to be, you will be.
Author lastonestanding Posted November 19, 2017 Author Posted November 19, 2017 There isn't a way to not go crazy. I would step back and ask yourself how much you would want to date him, if he wasn't getting into a relationship. I know it sounds trivial, but often times, when someone we once could have is suddenly unavailable, they become more attractive to us. If he was genuinely interested in dating, he wouldn't have found someone else. I'm not saying he isn't, because he could be. What I'm saying is, his intentions may not be completely genuine if he expressed interest and then suddenly got into another relationship. Just be cautious. Try to let it go. If you two are meant to be, you will be. Well the order was a little reversed. He started dating her before we actually had "the talk". It was was spurred me to actually bring it up. He is also friends with my ex, so I do believe his reasons, but I am just still fearful that his current relationship will develop into something in the meantime. Although it already seems a little hot and cold at this point. Your first point is a good one... I do try to step back and think about it.
Author lastonestanding Posted December 23, 2017 Author Posted December 23, 2017 Well it's been a month, and I still feel like a crazy person. He doesn't seem happy in his relationship, says he just kind of wants to be single. He apparently talks about me more than her (to mutual friends), and things have happened between us that aren't very appropriate considering he's in a relationship. I think he will eventually decide to end it with her, but I'm also in fear that I will have become too crazy by then and will have pushed him away. I'm trying to date, but have been out with so many guys and not been interested in any. I feel so needy and obsessive.
smackie9 Posted December 23, 2017 Posted December 23, 2017 Like I said if he was really interested in you he would be with you. I just think he likes the idea of being desired and not necessarily interested in anything serious. If he's willing to cheat on this girl emotionally or whatever, he's going to do the same with you. He's just playing games..so you better just cut him off for your own good. You being obsessive is clouding your better judgement.
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