Friend stole and spit in face

[Ralph1mil]

I really could use some advice on a messed up relationship. Here's the short version. We met on Line talked almost daily for 14 months, then got some friction and we basically quit talking because she was pulling away due in part to a large work load and serious family issues. The ****ty part!.

 

I borrowed her 1200 $ 6 months into our friendship cuz her and her daughter were going to be literally homeless. As our friendship started to waiver I asked her when she thought the money was coming, she said she would send half the money by the end of june. We stopped talking throughout June, money never came of course. I waited two months to make contact and check in. I said hello wished her well and I received a msg from her phone saying this a family member and "M" was hit by a drunk driver and was in a coma. I was stunned and sad but the text felt weird, so i kindly thanked "family" and asked if we could speak briefly about "m" I just wanted to know if she was going to be ok.

 

Of course, No response. So I politely asked one more time if she was ok. And that I hate to. Break her trust and call her parents but I needed to know. I waited 5 weeks and then sent a message saying " I hope you are ok wherever you are and I'm going to give it a few days and then contact her parent"which I knew she'd hate but if she actually was hurt I wanted to know and offer support if necessary.. Again no response. So out of frustration, worry, stress, confusion I looked up her parents and made the difficult and awkward/stressful phonecall to her dad. I introduced myself and asked if she was in an accident and I just wanted to know she was ok. He was not super suprised and told me she wasn't in an accident. I was relieved and embarrassed but I had a hunch she was lying. He confirmed it and added she's been untruthful with them causing huge problems in the family.

 

So I text her that I spoke to her father and told her that was a messed up thing to do to me and I didn't deserve it and I hope you find a way to salvage this mess. I swear on My mother's life I was so polite and respectful throughout our whole friendship even though I was really upset and felt sooooo betrayed and used. She messaged me back still pretending to be "family" saying "glad you spoke to M's most unreliable family member" and I just validated her not trusting people and now my research was concluded good luck and thankyou. Wow was I pissed and told her she lied and what choice did I have, you let me think you were seriously hurt and I hope you come around and make this right. I wish you luck and hope you are doing ok. No response after that.

 

I'm 100% pissed off now and completely done with this lying con artist, I don't care how hard her life is right now she royally ****ed me over for a few dollars. I was going to let the money slide until she let me think she was in​ a coma and made me the bad guy for calling her dad. How ****ed up is that huh? I feel so ****ty for trusting and helping her. I want to get my money back and somehow make her life miserable emotionally, No vilionce or anything illegal plz. And dont say I should move on she needs to learn a serious lesson and I want my money. I'm done being super nice guy and need advice. Plz help me make this right. Thank you all

Edited November 7, 2017 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[road]

You did not have a relationship with this woman.

 

To use an old phrase you were just a pen pal. Someone

that you wrote to. Instead of real mail you sent virtual mail.

 

In this case she was a female con artist. Many times it can

be a male con artist.

 

Based on your talk with her dad I would bet dollars to doughnuts

that she is doing this fake relationship to get money from men

all the time.