toomanyquestions123 Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 Most of you is now familiar with what happened with my breakup with my ex-fiancé. My ex moved to my country which is in the other side of the world to be with me, while he was here he got a local sim card & used it in another phone device. Before he fled the country 6 months ago, I charged his phone till august, sim cards after this date usually expire and they go back to the market for sale.Several family members & friends pointed out that my ex is still keeping a pic of us on whatsapp so i had to call the number ( from a private number ) to ask the owner to remove my pic. Surprisingly it was him so i hung up immediately, the line was roaming which means he is using the line abroad, which is fishy because nothing relates him to my country except me, he does not have any friends, any acquaintances, any relative anything, i am the only one that relates him to this country. So i started wondering why would he recharge his sim card online abroad on a monthly basis for a sim card that he will never use ? So 2 days ago i sent him a whatsapp message, i asked him to remove the pic and to give me a reason why he is recharging the sim card because it is creepy and i cant find a reason for this. Today morning he read the message removed the pic and didn't answer me, replied by thanking him and re-asking him why he is recharging the sim card. He didnt receive this message yet. I really want to know why he is doing this !!! Not only he didnt remove the sim card from his mobile when left my country but he is recharging it which makes me wonder what is going on and i have the right to know what is going on !!! i even started thinking that he is sort of agent or something , or he is a psychopath... I dont think he will give me a clear answer but how can i drag him to answer me without being pushy ? Link to post Share on other sites
Jagged100 Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 You don't have a right to know, he is your ex fiancee not current. Why can't you just delete the number and move on? He clearly doesn't want to speak to you and where ever he is now, has nothing to do with you. It sounds like you're holding on to this remote connection with him, and long term it does not help you move forward. Link to post Share on other sites
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted November 8, 2017 Author Share Posted November 8, 2017 You don't have a right to know, he is your ex fiancee not current. Why can't you just delete the number and move on? He clearly doesn't want to speak to you and where ever he is now, has nothing to do with you. It sounds like you're holding on to this remote connection with him, and long term it does not help you move forward. I am aware that he is my ex fiance but what is he doing is creepy and related to me, i am not just initiating a conversation to get him back, i am aware that he will never come back, but what is he doing is fishy and i will feel relieved to know why. Link to post Share on other sites
HumanMachine Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 Pic removed and message not going through? You’ve been blocked. Link to post Share on other sites
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted November 8, 2017 Author Share Posted November 8, 2017 Pic removed and message not going through? You’ve been blocked. Nope im not blocked he put a black picture instead lol Link to post Share on other sites
Jagged100 Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 I am aware that he is my ex fiance but what is he doing is creepy and related to me, i am not just initiating a conversation to get him back, i am aware that he will never come back, but what is he doing is fishy and i will feel relieved to know why. Why is it related to you? Am I missing something, sorry? Link to post Share on other sites
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted November 8, 2017 Author Share Posted November 8, 2017 Why is it related to you? Am I missing something, sorry? First because he was keeping a picture of us together on his Whatsapp, so my family and friends thought that we were back together, when i called to check if the sim card that must be owned by another person now since it has must been expired in August, he answered ( i called from a private number ), that means not only he kept our picture together but he is recharging this sim card online abroad. Mind you he has 0 reasons to do this and to waste money on a line that he is not supposed to use. That is why i want to know why he is doing this ? Because for me there are 2 scenarios for doing this: 1. Either he is a secret agent and had a mission in my middle eastern country lol thats why he needs to keep this sim card 2. Or he has some mental issues that i can not specify... Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 You are watching too much TV, OP. He's not a secret agent. People who actually work in Intelligence operate on a far more sophisticated and complex level than this. He evidently has his own reasons for keeping the SIM active. My guess is the far more obvious and simple explanation, which is that you are no longer the only person he knows in your country. He removed your photo. The rest is not your business anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted November 8, 2017 Author Share Posted November 8, 2017 You are watching too much TV, OP. He's not a secret agent. People who actually work in Intelligence operate on a far more sophisticated and complex level than this. He evidently has his own reasons for keeping the SIM active. My guess is the far more obvious and simple explanation, which is that you are no longer the only person he knows in your country. He removed your photo. The rest is not your business anymore. no no he does not know anyone from my country except my circle. I am pretty sure of that. Keeping a line recharged to catch up with a friend from my country that he never told me about? he could use his american sim card for that. Plus the reason why we suspect he is an agent because he works in a similar field, thats why... Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 I really want to know why he is doing this !!! Not only he didnt remove the sim card from his mobile when left my country but he is recharging it which makes me wonder what is going on and i have the right to know what is going on !!! i even started thinking that he is sort of agent or something , or he is a psychopath... I dont think he will give me a clear answer but how can i drag him to answer me without being pushy ? I'm not sure why any of this is your business. He removed the picture. You had a concern and he resolved the issue. Whether he is a secret agent or a psychopath has nothing to do with you. What your priority should be is to keep moving on and focusing on your own life. Why are you so nosey about what he's doing? He doesn't have to give you any answers. You two are broken up. Whatever he chooses to be or do has nothing to do with you. Your behavior is pushy and irrational. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
HumanMachine Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 First because he was keeping a picture of us together on his Whatsapp, so my family and friends thought that we were back together, when i called to check if the sim card that must be owned by another person now since it has must been expired in August, he answered ( i called from a private number ), that means not only he kept our picture together but he is recharging this sim card online abroad. Mind you he has 0 reasons to do this and to waste money on a line that he is not supposed to use. That is why i want to know why he is doing this ? Because for me there are 2 scenarios for doing this: 1. Either he is a secret agent and had a mission in my middle eastern country lol thats why he needs to keep this sim card 2. Or he has some mental issues that i can not specify... I don’t think he is the one with mental issues. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Highndry Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 I'm sorry, but YOU are coming across as creepy. It is none of your business why he continues to use a particular phone. He deleted the pic, keep your nose out of his life. Link to post Share on other sites
Jagged100 Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 First because he was keeping a picture of us together on his Whatsapp, so my family and friends thought that we were back together, when i called to check if the sim card that must be owned by another person now since it has must been expired in August, he answered ( i called from a private number ), that means not only he kept our picture together but he is recharging this sim card online abroad. Mind you he has 0 reasons to do this and to waste money on a line that he is not supposed to use. That is why i want to know why he is doing this ? Because for me there are 2 scenarios for doing this: 1. Either he is a secret agent and had a mission in my middle eastern country lol thats why he needs to keep this sim card 2. Or he has some mental issues that i can not specify... He may not have noticed the profile pic if he just uses that SIM for calls. He has removed it now, so really there is nothing connecting him to you. You need to let it go Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 You used the picture as an excuse to contact him. He took your request at face value and obliged. But he didn't engage with you, which is what you really wanted. Don't lie to yourself. He did what you asked him, and the rest, unfortunately for you, is not your business. He's under no obligation to explain himself to you about something that doesn't pertain to you. Sorry if this seems harsh, but it's important to recognize where the boundaries between you and this guy are now that you're no longer engaged. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 Let's assume for the sake of argument that this guy is indeed a mentally ill secret agent - what he does still doesn't concern you and he doesn't owe you an explanation. You need to let go and stop reading into things. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted November 8, 2017 Share Posted November 8, 2017 Let's assume for the sake of argument that this guy is indeed a mentally ill secret agent - what he does still doesn't concern you and he doesn't owe you an explanation. You need to let go and stop reading into things. I agree. TMQ He isn't blowing up your phone, or following you around the supermarket, knocking on your door late at night, threatening your mother, or stealing your knickers out of your bedroom when you are not at home... He is ignoring you, and that is perfectly normal ex behaviour. He owes you nothing. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted November 9, 2017 Author Share Posted November 9, 2017 Well i think you are all right concerning the part that as long as he is not interfering with my business i should not interfere in his. BUT i dont think anyone of you understood the oddity of the situation. Whatever the reason behind recharging the sim card is related to me not anyone else because again nothing connects him to my small country except me. Intentionally & consciously going the mobile website recharging the sim card paying a big amount of money for a sim card he is not supposed to use except if he is with me or in my country is a little bit odd for me. I dont excpet anyone of you to get it, and some of you thought i am the creepy one because i am reading into this a lot, but i assure you what he is doing is very weird and maybe i dont have the right to know what is behind this or what he is up to but whatever he is doing with this sim card is related to me or else he could have answered. PLUS i had to contact him anyway to remove MY pic. I dont think he forgot to remove it, my ex-fiancé does not forget anything. if he checked my whatsapp after 6 months and saw that i am still keeping a pic of him wouldnt he ask me to remove it ? well i did the same. Anyway i agree with all of you that no matter how awkward or weird it is i should not give a f*** & just move forward as long as he is not talking to me. Yesterday night i thought about it & i blocked him and deleted his number before even receiving the last message i sent ( asking him why he is recharging ). I dont think i should know or it doesnt change the fact that 6 months ago he took this decision and i am half way now to get healed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted November 9, 2017 Author Share Posted November 9, 2017 You used the picture as an excuse to contact him. He took your request at face value and obliged. But he didn't engage with you, which is what you really wanted. Don't lie to yourself. He did what you asked him, and the rest, unfortunately for you, is not your business. He's under no obligation to explain himself to you about something that doesn't pertain to you. Sorry if this seems harsh, but it's important to recognize where the boundaries between you and this guy are now that you're no longer engaged. Maybe i did it as an excuse, but even if i was really over him 100% i would have talked to him to remove MY pic that everyone is still seeing. Link to post Share on other sites
Blanco Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 No, if you were over him, you wouldn't ask him to remove the pic because it's just a freaking benign picture. Unless you're nude in it or something, I don't see the big deal. I get you're hurt but this is just you projecting that hurt on to other issues that aren't a big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
HumanMachine Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 Maybe i did it as an excuse, but even if i was really over him 100% i would have talked to him to remove MY pic that everyone is still seeing. I’m struggling to see how his profile picture is relevant to you? Your picture is being seen by supposedly people who are aware that you aren’t together any more, so what’s the problem? Actually I definitely think he is a secret agent on a mission. Link to post Share on other sites
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted November 9, 2017 Author Share Posted November 9, 2017 I’m struggling to see how his profile picture is relevant to you? Your picture is being seen by supposedly people who are aware that you aren’t together any more, so what’s the problem? Actually I definitely think he is a secret agent on a mission. his friends my friends his family my family. You do ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted November 9, 2017 Author Share Posted November 9, 2017 I’m struggling to see how his profile picture is relevant to you? Your picture is being seen by supposedly people who are aware that you aren’t together any more, so what’s the problem? Actually I definitely think he is a secret agent on a mission. it is a pic of US HumanMachine !!! very close & almost hugging & my face is so clear. Well i dont like to have my picture on my ex's profile sorry... Link to post Share on other sites
Author toomanyquestions123 Posted November 9, 2017 Author Share Posted November 9, 2017 No, if you were over him, you wouldn't ask him to remove the pic because it's just a freaking benign picture. Unless you're nude in it or something, I don't see the big deal. I get you're hurt but this is just you projecting that hurt on to other issues that aren't a big deal. it is a pic on whatsapp not just a pic on a social media & he is using this whatsapp, my friend who was close to him when he was here talked to him 2 months ago to say hello & he immediately replied. He removed all of us on his Instagram and removed our pics but forgot to remove our pic on whatsapp ? well i doubt he forgot... Link to post Share on other sites
HumanMachine Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 it is a pic of US HumanMachine !!! very close & almost hugging & my face is so clear. Well i dont like to have my picture on my ex's profile sorry... Just because you don’t like it doesn’t mean he HAS to remove it.......... Link to post Share on other sites
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