I Have So Many Regrets With Women

[GuitarGuy7]

Throughout my life, I have failed with women many times. Iv'e been brutally rejected, iv'e been ghosted time and time again, iv'e been written off on dates multiple times.

 

I have failed many times. But my biggest failures with women have nothing to do with rejection. It's with regret.

 

Iv'e had so many missed opportunities with women.

 

Sometimes I look back to when I was younger and think about all of the women that I had a crush on but I was too afraid to make a move. I hesitated when I should have taken action, I chickened out when I should have asked for her number. Any one of those girls could have been my girlfriend, the woman of my dreams, maybe even my wife. But because I hesitated, I can only watch as she walks away, often into the arms of another man who was braver than I was.

 

 

I could have asked for her name, I could have asked for her number, I could have asked her out. Now the only question i'll be asking is what if? That's a question i'll be asking myself for a long time. What if I had the courage to make a move? Would it have been different? Would we have shared many memories together?

 

I guess I will never know...And that's what hurts the most.

 

Thats where I have failed the hardest with women. Not with regret, but with reject.

[HiCrunchy]

Honey it is not healthly to ruminate in the past about what should have happened. Unless your analyzing your past with the intention of applying the information you learn for a better future, you are just kicking yourself in the ass.

 

We have all been there, but regret isn't gonna make you get where you need to be.

 

From what I have read in your other threads, you really need to get yourself in a better headspace before you even think about having a gf or dating anyways.

 

Maybe take a cooking class

 

Also watch this video. My sister sent it to me today and I think considering we are both in the same age range we could both relate.

 

Good luck

[Cookiesandough]

Honey it is not healthly to ruminate in the past about what should have happened. Unless your analyzing your past with the intention of applying the information you learn for a better future, you are just kicking yourself in the ass.

 

We have all been there, but regret isn't gonna make you get where you need to be.

 

From what I have read in your other threads, you really need to get yourself in a better headspace before you even think about having a gf or dating anyways.

 

Maybe take a cooking class

 

Also watch this video. My sister sent it to me today and I think considering we are both in the same age range we could both relate.

 

Good luck

This a gazillion times. If you tallied up my regrets with one guy, multiplied that by my regrets with every other guy I've dated, and then exponentiated that by the number of regrets you have with women, you'd get a vague idea of where I'm at so I completely understand the tendency to fall into the self-loathing spiral. But you must snap yourself out of it and be open to making new, better experiences. I take a lot of it as a learning lesson on how to become my best self.

 

I spent so much time just hiding, not going for stuff. Skipping out on opportunities that presented themselves on a silver platter. Just why. There is a reason. I have to try to seize the next opportunity

Edited November 10, 2017 by Cookiesandough

[newmoon]

I'd think of it more as destiny, and that none of those women were meant to be with you anyway, or it would have happened. When the right woman comes along you won't hesitate because it'll be destined and you'll be guided to act:love:

[GuitarGuy7]

Honey it is not healthly to ruminate in the past about what should have happened. Unless your analyzing your past with the intention of applying the information you learn for a better future, you are just kicking yourself in the ass.

 

We have all been there, but regret isn't gonna make you get where you need to be.

 

From what I have read in your other threads, you really need to get yourself in a better headspace before you even think about having a gf or dating anyways.

 

Maybe take a cooking class

 

Also watch this video. My sister sent it to me today and I think considering we are both in the same age range we could both relate.

 

Good luck

 

 

Thanks for the video.

 

Well you're certainly not the only one who feels down about all this relationship stuff. Sometimes it's hard to let go. I see all these people in relationships and I always get this feeling that i'm missing out.

 

One of my biggest fears is missing out. As stupid as this sounds, I don't want to be a 30 year old kissless virgin. And I feel like the older I get, the more my lack of dating experience is going to hold me back.

 

Maybe that's why I have such a hard time letting go of wanting to date.

[healing light]

I'm a 32-year-old virgin who recently got into a relationship for the first time in 14 years (he just got tested so I won't be for much longer). I didn't make dating a priority as I've had serious health issues and also attracted the wrong kind of guy prior to now. He doesn't care at all about my inexperience and neither will the right partner for you. There's always hope! You're still young--just take action the next time you meet someone that you click with.

[GuitarGuy7]

I'm a 32-year-old virgin who recently got into a relationship for the first time in 14 years (he just got tested so I won't be for much longer). I didn't make dating a priority as I've had serious health issues and also attracted the wrong kind of guy prior to now. He doesn't care at all about my inexperience and neither will the right partner for you. There's always hope! You're still young--just take action the next time you meet someone that you click with.

 

 

Well I hope you enjoy your first time.

 

When I lose my virginity, the first thing i'm going to do is listen to the song I Just Had Sex. Iv'e never even listened to that song before but ima do it once it finally happens lol.

[Mysterio]

Guitar. I think like me your burnt out and I think that you have to take it easy on yourself. Its the social media access of seeing and talking about Relationships that making a lot of us stressed in a bad way.

 

Whats the answer. Try turn every interaction with a woman into a romantic one!

 

I say just do not worry about being a virgin. If you think about. Every new woman your with. Its romantic/sexual exploration anyways.

 

The way I see it. Most of us are going from Relationship to Relationship. All marriage/kids do is slow it down. I think that on some level. We all should just let love just come to us and work it out when its in our face, than the constant seeking it out.

[FilterCoffee]

Hi GuitarGuy. I don’t know how it is where you live but on any given day I can find at least 2 attractive girls when I go out for a 20 minute walk. Even if you’re not so lucky, I’m sure you can find a few attractive women during the course of a week. What’s stopping you from talking to them? Your big regret is that you never did anything when you had the chances; do you want to have the same regret 10 years from now? I’m not a big fan of waiting till something comes your way. What if it doesn’t? Do you really want to take this chance during the prime of your youth? Be brave and most importantly, keep learning from your mistakes.

 

@HiCrunchy: Thanks for sharing the video. I enjoyed it.

[elaine567]

Thanks for the video.

 

Well you're certainly not the only one who feels down about all this relationship stuff. Sometimes it's hard to let go. I see all these people in relationships and I always get this feeling that i'm missing out.

 

One of my biggest fears is missing out. As stupid as this sounds, I don't want to be a 30 year old kissless virgin. And I feel like the older I get, the more my lack of dating experience is going to hold me back.

 

Maybe that's why I have such a hard time letting go of wanting to date.

 

Wait a minute, you just got handed a great video about how to start sorting out your life, and thinking more upbeat, taking responsibility and acting more like an adult, and you are immediately back on the same old, same old,

"Wah wah wah, I don't have a gf like everyone else and I should give up and learn how to live with it, oh woe is me..."

[normal person]

One of my biggest fears is missing out. As stupid as this sounds, I don't want to be a 30 year old kissless virgin. And I feel like the older I get, the more my lack of dating experience is going to hold me back.

 

Maybe that's why I have such a hard time letting go of wanting to date.

 

Do you have any plans to do anything about your problems? The common theme of your threads is "woe is me." For example:

 

- I Have So Many Regrets With Women

- Why Meeting People Is So Hard

- Why Some People Are Just Destined To Be Alone

- Getting Rejected Sucks

- My Bad Dating Woes

 

I think at this point you've done a great job of documenting that you have regrets, woes, and apprehensions. Do you have any desire to fix these things or is the sole purpose of these threads just to commiserate? It's a serious question. If you want someone's help, you should ask a direct question like "How do I..." or "What can be done about..." and not just start a thread to talk about how inescapably bad the landscape is.

[BarbedFenceRider]

Well, FIXER is one point of view. lol But I would rather it be about your relationship gaming. Now, your not going to go PUA. But With coaching, you can swallow the red pill, Alpha up and start getting results FAST! You are the nice guy, with shy tendencies. Cute, but not "breeding material". Gotta think primitive here... The good news is, your not "missing out." There are plenty of other "fish in the sea" bro. Seriously, once you see what women want and how to apply your life into that...Your golden. Coach Corey Wayne has Utube vids that will start you on your path. Easy, laid back and fun. Good luck.

[Yosemite]

Wait a minute, you just got handed a great video about how to start sorting out your life, and thinking more upbeat, taking responsibility and acting more like an adult, and you are immediately back on the same old, same old,*

"Wah wah wah, I don't have a gf like everyone else and I should give up and learn how to live with it, oh woe is me..."

 

 

Do you have any plans to do anything about your problems? The common theme of your threads is "woe is me." For example:

 

- I Have So Many Regrets With Women

- Why Meeting People Is So Hard

- Why Some People Are Just Destined To Be Alone

- Getting Rejected Sucks

- My Bad Dating Woes

 

I think at this point you've done a great job of documenting that you have regrets, woes, and apprehensions. Do you have any desire to fix these things or is the sole purpose of these threads just to commiserate? It's a serious question. If you want someone's help, you should ask a direct question like "How do I..." or "What can be done about..." and not just start a thread to talk about how inescapably bad the landscape is.

 

 

OP why did you skip over these two comments? It’s hard to take any of your threads seriously because any time someone starts giving you the cold hard truth you just ignore it or abandon the thread.

 

The fact is no one can change your life but you. You have a fear of ending up 30 and a virgin…not sure why you think that at the pace you’re going that you’ll lose your virginity at 30. It’s very possible to be a 40, 50, and 60 yr old virgin.

 

You either change your actions or you don’t. Starting threads to whine over and over again isn’t going to have any impact on your life whatsoever.

[GuitarGuy7]

OP why did you skip over these two comments? It’s hard to take any of your threads seriously because any time someone starts giving you the cold hard truth you just ignore it or abandon the thread.

 

The fact is no one can change your life but you. You have a fear of ending up 30 and a virgin…not sure why you think that at the pace you’re going that you’ll lose your virginity at 30. It’s very possible to be a 40, 50, and 60 yr old virgin.

 

You either change your actions or you don’t. Starting threads to whine over and over again isn’t going to have any impact on your life whatsoever.

 

 

 

You're right though about making threads, this isn't going to solve my problems with women. I need to get my life together first before worrying about dating.

 

This is how I want to live.

Edited November 10, 2017 by GuitarGuy7

[whatnot]

You're right though about making threads, this isn't going to solve my problems with women. I need to get my life together first before worrying about dating.

 

This is how I want to live.

 

you just admitted you want to live with problems rather than solving them. Trust me....you're far from alone. kudos for owning it