darkmoon Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 (edited) Not lesbians in love Not lonely women. I refer to women who pester me to be in lives when my gut says no - no means no, I make that clear, by ignoring them. They are even capable of stalking, such is the strength of their will; they are not to be pitied, but to be weirded out by. Have you been pestered? Have you been a pesterer? Edited November 10, 2017 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 What's the motivation? Are they in direct sales businesses? Link to post Share on other sites
Author darkmoon Posted November 10, 2017 Author Share Posted November 10, 2017 What's the motivation? Are they in direct sales businesses? no sales, these are chance aquaintances -so that is just my query too - what is their motivation? I see a power-play, and wanted feedback here Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 Can you give a specific example other than just saying "pester?" I'm not sure what you mean by "power play." Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 I'm not sure what you're talking about. Can you give examples? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 What do you mean...like your mom? Link to post Share on other sites
somanymistakes Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 I'm not sure I understand the question - this sounds like it may be a "some people in this world are very pushy friends" rather than any sort of male or female thing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author darkmoon Posted November 10, 2017 Author Share Posted November 10, 2017 I'm not sure I understand the question - this sounds like it may be a "some people in this world are very pushy friends" rather than any sort of male or female thing? I think you have nailed it. "pushy friends" by power-play, I meant that they take control. They do not accept my no, not even a series of nos, which is a bad sign. It is a sign of dominance, because nobody reasonable would keep going. No? ok, so .... Why do they keep going? What are they acting out? Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 I think you have nailed it. "pushy friends" by power-play, I meant that they take control. They do not accept my no, not even a series of nos, which is a bad sign. It is a sign of dominance, because nobody reasonable would keep going. No? ok, so .... Why do they keep going? What are they acting out? You still haven't given any examples. As they asking you to lunch and you don't want to go? Link to post Share on other sites
Author darkmoon Posted November 10, 2017 Author Share Posted November 10, 2017 (edited) They are women about whom my gut says no. I have not talked to them, no invites, no words exchanged, not a word, but they want to talk to me and pester me, up the point of stalking. This phenomenon is just occasional, but I am now looking for a reason. I think you have nailed it in a way saying "pushy friends" well, "pushy wannabe friends" by power-play, I meant that they take control. They do not accept my blunt rejection, not even a series of rejections, head turning away, eyes closing at them. This lack of acceptance or my rejections is a sign of dominance, because nobody reasonable would keep going. No? ok, so .... Why do they keep going? What are they acting out? Edited November 10, 2017 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 They are women about whom my gut says no. I have not talked to them, no invites, no words exchanged, not a word, but they want to talk to me and pester me, up the point of stalking. This phenomenon is just occasional, but I am now looking for a reason. I think you have nailed it in a way saying "pushy friends" well, "pushy wannabe friends" by power-play, I meant that they take control. They do not accept my blunt rejection, not even a series of rejections, head turning away, eyes closing at them. This lack of acceptance or my rejections is a sign of dominance, because nobody reasonable would keep going. No? ok, so .... Why do they keep going? What are they acting out? OK, I'm out. I have no clue why you are being so vague. Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 I am so confused. Is this about women LOOKING at you? You said no words exchanged right? Is it like when a guy is checking you out making you feel uncomfortable? Honestly this sounds like a perception issue on your part. Link to post Share on other sites
Author darkmoon Posted November 10, 2017 Author Share Posted November 10, 2017 (edited) I am so confused. Is this about women LOOKING at you? You said no words exchanged right? Is it like when a guy is checking you out making you feel uncomfortable? Honestly this sounds like a perception issue on your part. I perceive women with a bad vibe, nothing to do with guys checking me out. If my gut-reaction tells me not to get involved with somebody, another female, in my case, then I listen to that gut-reaction, only to get pestered by them. Still wondering why they pester me so. This is just an occasional phenomenon, but still, what makes these pesterers tick? Edited November 10, 2017 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 WHAT exactly are they doing to pester you? Do they speak to you? Do they touch you? Do they interact with you? Or are they just looking at you? Give a SPECIFIC example of this pestering. Think of a time this happened and describe it for us. Where where you. What did she do. What did you do in response. How did it end? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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