Dating While Living With Parents

[GuitarGuy7]

Do you think dating someone while living with your parents can work?

 

I'm 22 years old and although iv'e never dated before, I want to start dating and find someone because i'm lonely and horny as **** dats why

 

The problem is that I live with my parents because I just got back from going to college up north and i'm not making enough money to support myself yet.

 

Also my dad works from home so it would probably be awkward af to bring a girl to my place in the middle of the afternoon. No lazy Sunday netflix and chill sessions :'(

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

You could probably date someone still in college, or someone just out of college who is also still living with her parents.

[alphamale]

sure, just find a chick with her own crib.

[alphamale]

oh, wait a minute, not a lot of chicks in you age range would have their own crib...

 

find a girl who also lives at home with her parents. it'll be hard to find a place for sex but that is what no-tell motels and cars are for

[GuitarGuy7]

oh, wait a minute, not a lot of chicks in you age range would have their own crib...

 

 

 

 

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[RecentChange]

Most college girls do not live at home with their folks. They live in a dorm or other housing with roommates.

 

Worry about actually meeting a girl - then where you will go.

[alphamale]

Most college girls do not live at home with their folks. They live in a dorm or other housing with roommates.

 

how about a girl lower on the totem pole who is attending community college???

[RecentChange]

how about a girl lower on the totem pole who is attending community college???

 

Well, then she might be living at home...

 

I did the JC thing before going to the Cal UC system. I lived with roommates, as did many of my friends.

 

I had a job, JC wasn't so demanding that I couldn't work and still go to school.

 

Bottom line.... Hard to date like a "young adult" while still living like a child.

[d0nnivain]

You're 22 working to get established, not 32 & unable to cut mommy's apron strings.

 

Yes, you can date. However you will have to be more patient about sexual activities unless she has her own place. It will take some time until you can establish let's go away for the night / weekend. That will also get expensive fast.

 

Assuming you are working, have you made a budget so you can have a plan to move out? What do you need for rent with a roommate, for car payments, utilities, insurance, cell phone, food, fun money etc? Lay out the numbers & get crackin' achieving your goals.

[GuitarGuy7]

I'm just friggin tired of being single, iv'e had enough! I really have... Believe me, I wish I could take away these desires but I can't. I'm just a young, lonely and horny college dude.

 

There's several girls in my class that could potentially be a dating option. In my history class, there's 4 girls I find attractive. 2 of them are confirmed to be single. I spent all my time and effort pursuing a girl who happened to have a boyfriend, that was just an error on my part. I asked her out but she said she had a boyfriend.

 

I asked another girl in the same class to study together this Tuesday and she said yes. She's cute but in an average looking way. She's only 18/19 but she could potentially become more hot as she gets older, there's a good chance she's just a late bloomer not even joking. She's blonde, petite, and has some curves to her.

 

Then there's this other girl in my history class that I don't know too well yet. I see her sitting in the commons after class, and my plan is to talk to her next week. She's also petite, has red hair, and she has pretty blue eyes.

 

In my psychology class, I was meaning to ask this girl in my class to study this week but I chickened out. I beat myself up over it because i'm only going to see her 3 or 4 more times this semester. She's cute too, my physical ideal. Petite, cute face.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

I'm just friggin tired of being single, iv'e had enough! I really have... Believe me, I wish I could take away these desires but I can't. I'm just a young, lonely and horny college dude.

 

There's several girls in my class that could potentially be a dating option. In my history class, there's 4 girls I find attractive. 2 of them are confirmed to be single. I spent all my time and effort pursuing a girl who happened to have a boyfriend, that was just an error on my part. I asked her out but she said she had a boyfriend.

 

I asked another girl in the same class to study together this Tuesday and she said yes. She's cute but in an average looking way. She's only 18/19 but she could potentially become more hot as she gets older, there's a good chance she's just a late bloomer not even joking. She's blonde, petite, and has some curves to her.

 

Then there's this other girl in my history class that I don't know too well yet. I see her sitting in the commons after class, and my plan is to talk to her next week. She's also petite, has red hair, and she has pretty blue eyes.

 

In my psychology class, I was meaning to ask this girl in my class to study this week but I chickened out. I beat myself up over it because i'm only going to see her 3 or 4 more times this semester. She's cute too, my physical ideal. Petite, cute face.

 

So what are their personalities like? What do they like to do? Do you have common interests?

[HiCrunchy]

You're 22 working to get established, not 32 & unable to cut mommy's apron strings.

 

Yes, you can date. However you will have to be more patient about sexual activities unless she has her own place. It will take some time until you can establish let's go away for the night / weekend. That will also get expensive fast.

 

Assuming you are working, have you made a budget so you can have a plan to move out? What do you need for rent with a roommate, for car payments, utilities, insurance, cell phone, food, fun money etc? Lay out the numbers & get crackin' achieving your goals.

 

I agree!

 

Also what happened to the video I posted on the other thread. You have to understand that you aren't in the right mindset to set a stable girl right now.

You need to get your life in order before you can share that space with someone or else you asking for a really short term deal. And trust me, loving and losing is much worse than not having loved at all.

 

Also finding a gf isn't only about sex. If ur that horny, there are other options. Just putting it out there...

[GuitarGuy7]

So what are their personalities like? What do they like to do? Do you have common interests?

 

I don't really know any of them well enough to know their personalities but my plan is to talk to them all and make a push to try and get their number or snapchat and then meet up outside of the classroom. That's the ultimate goal, and see what happens from there.

 

Iv'e looked up all of these girls on Facebook just to make sure they're single so i'm not wasting my time.

 

This one girl who I originally pursued, I didn't know she had a boyfriend because when I was looking her up on Facebook, I actually looked at the profile of someone else.

 

I asked her out in the middle of October and that's when she said had a boyfriend. Not a big deal for me, we still talk as merely friends and in the context of studying for tests. I need a female friend anyways, it's good practice.

[GuitarGuy7]

I agree!

 

Also what happened to the video I posted on the other thread. You have to understand that you aren't in the right mindset to set a stable girl right now.

You need to get your life in order before you can share that space with someone or else you asking for a really short term deal. And trust me, loving and losing is much worse than not having loved at all.

 

Also finding a gf isn't only about sex. If ur that horny, there are other options. Just putting it out there...

 

 

I watched the video and I liked it. I thought it was funny but also educational. You are right, I need to get my life in order. I don't want to be in the same situation I am in now a year or two from now. I feel like iv'e gone down in production ever since iv'e gotten back from college.

Edited November 11, 2017 by GuitarGuy7

[alphamale]

I'm just friggin tired of being single, iv'e had enough! I really have... Believe me, I wish I could take away these desires but I can't. I'm just a young, lonely and horny college dude.

 

There's several girls in my class that could potentially be a dating option. In my history class, there's 4 girls I find attractive. 2 of them are confirmed to be single. I spent all my time and effort pursuing a girl who happened to have a boyfriend, that was just an error on my part. I asked her out but she said she had a boyfriend.

 

I asked another girl in the same class to study together this Tuesday and she said yes. She's cute but in an average looking way. She's only 18/19 but she could potentially become more hot as she gets older, there's a good chance she's just a late bloomer not even joking. She's blonde, petite, and has some curves to her.

 

Then there's this other girl in my history class that I don't know too well yet. I see her sitting in the commons after class, and my plan is to talk to her next week. She's also petite, has red hair, and she has pretty blue eyes.

 

In my psychology class, I was meaning to ask this girl in my class to study this week but I chickened out. I beat myself up over it because i'm only going to see her 3 or 4 more times this semester. She's cute too, my physical ideal. Petite, cute face.

 

which of these girls is making eye contact repeatedly and smiling at you? that's the one you go for

[jjgitties]

I think there is nothing wrong being in your early 20s and living with your parents. Especially if you are in college.

 

I know people in their late 30s who are married with kids and live with their parents. now thats faucked up.

 

i am pretty sure when you find a girlfrend you tow will figure out the where and when part.

 

just keep being friendly and talking to women.

[d0nnivain]

OP

 

You are doomed to being single until you figure out that a relationship is about companionship. You are focused on how the girl looks, whether she's hot & whether she will ease your horniness. Guess what? In many women's eyes that makes you not relationship material.

 

You are in college. You have a ton of prospects. Talk to these woman. Get to know them over a course of a few days but ask one out already. All this dithering & chickening out . . . you are your own worst enemy. Even if she says no, that's on her. It's not a referendum on you. Just move on to the next girl.

[normal person]

OP

You are doomed to being single until you figure out that a relationship is about companionship. You are focused on how the girl looks, whether she's hot & whether she will ease your horniness. Guess what? In many women's eyes that makes you not relationship material.

 

True, and a relationship is also about providing some value or benefit to someone else's life.

 

You are in college. You have a ton of prospects. Talk to these woman. Get to know them over a course of a few days but ask one out already. All this dithering & chickening out . . . you are your own worst enemy. Even if she says no, that's on her. It's not a referendum on you. Just move on to the next girl.

 

Here's where I disagree -- a large part of it is a referendum on him. Yeah, we've all got some personal tastes, but there's a reason some people are so much more desirable to larger numbers of people and some people are widely scorned. Someone's appeal to others is a result of the others' tastes in conjunction with the person's desirable qualities. Let's not pretend that we don't have any control over how appealing we are to others, because we do to a good extent. Some qualities are inherently attractive and can be developed, and some qualities are inherently unattractive and can be overcome. The consideration of those things is the "referendum."

 

Let's say one of these girls likes tall guys with brown hair. Ok, personal preference. For the sake of argument, let's say OP meets the criteria. Great. But OP also says he also says he's 22 and had to move back into his parents' house because he became underweight and unhealthy when he couldn't figure out how to feed himself. Most people have graduated college at that point, and he can't figure out how to go on YouTube and watch a cooking lesson, or just go to the dining hall or anywhere else to get a prepared meal. Pretty basic stuff. If a woman were to then decide that these were the sort of qualities that she wants to avoid, that's very much a referendum on him, even if he's tall and has brown hair.

 

A woman wanting a guy with basic life skills, who doesn't view women as sex objects, who enriches her life in some way isn't ascribing those desires to personal choice. Those are basic prerequisites to even be considered as a partner. If an individual can't or won't meet them, it's very much on that individual. There's a basic standard that should be met, and if it can't be, can you really blame someone for overlooking the person?

 

Yes, it sounds harsh but at some point OP has to consider what he brings to the table for someone. Women are under no obligation to date men merely because those men desire them. People need to take personal inventory, audit themselves and think about what they provide the other person that would make them appealing. I'm sure OP is a great guy but in his threads he's yet to mention why a woman would go out with him; he only seems to talk about his struggles and complications without any desire for resolution. When you suggest resolutions, he ignores it and/or abandons the thread.

 

"Meeting women is so hard."

Solution: Stop playing video games so much and invest more time in learning how to talk to them.

 

"I can't figure out how to feed myself."

Solution: Go to the dining hall and eat. Or watch a YouTube video on how to make what you want.

 

"I live with my parents, and that's bothersome."

Solution: Move back to campus. Get a job if you can't afford it.

 

"I'm 22 and still in college."

Solution: Take as many classes as you can and graduate faster.

 

"Getting rejected sucks."

Solution: Develop qualities that are less likely to warrant rejection, even if the process is uncomfortable.

 

"The process is uncomfortable."

Solution: Deal with it like everyone else, or accept the consequences of inaction.

 

"The consequences of inaction suck."

Solution: ughhhhh

 

If we aren't getting the things we desire, I think at some point we really need to hold the mirror up to ourselves and ask if we're really doing everything we can. If someone is getting rejected left and right, assuming that it's in no way a reflection of that person's appeal is a very dangerous attitude, in my opinion. It dispels personal responsibility and doesn't promote positive change. It assumes people are total slaves to circumstance, and they aren't. Personally I think people would be better off if they just were better people rather than assuming rejection is 100% out of their hands. Some things can't be changed. But the referendum that we should all worry about is on what can be changed that hasn't been.

 

Until you're doing everything you can to get what you want, at one point do you accept liability of the problem? Food for thought.

Edited November 11, 2017 by normal person

[GuitarGuy7]

OP

 

 

You are in college. You have a ton of prospects. Talk to these woman. Get to know them over a course of a few days but ask one out already. All this dithering & chickening out . . . you are your own worst enemy. Even if she says no, that's on her. It's not a referendum on you. Just move on to the next girl.

 

That's what I plan to do. I was going to do it last Thursday but I chickened out, I was beating myself over it. That's alright though, it will be my motivation do it next week.

 

Next week i'm going to show up in my best outfit, make sure to have a good conversation, after class look her straight in the eyes and ask her out. I'm going to be so nervous, i'll probably sht my pants, but if she says yes i'll be jamming to sweet victory in the car on my victory lap back home.

[d0nnivain]

Next week i'm going to show up in my best outfit, make sure to have a good conversation, after class look her straight in the eyes and ask her out. I'm going to be so nervous, i'll probably sht my pants, but if she says yes i'll be jamming to sweet victory in the car on my victory lap back home.

 

Good plan but can I suggest 1 tweak? Show up in your 2nd best outfit. If you were your best to class for the ask, you will have to step down on the date.

[jjgitties]

That's what I plan to do. I was going to do it last Thursday but I chickened out, I was beating myself over it. That's alright though, it will be my motivation do it next week.

 

Next week i'm going to show up in my best outfit, make sure to have a good conversation, after class look her straight in the eyes and ask her out. I'm going to be so nervous, i'll probably sht my pants, but if she says yes i'll be jamming to sweet victory in the car on my victory lap back home.

 

I would add the following. You need to find your own personal way of showing a balance between being enthusiastic about seeing the women and also at the same time not being too interested in her. Women have this weird instinctive intuition and they can sense "desperate and horny" from a mile away and will not find it terribly attractive which may lead to a situation where her interest and feeling for you is non reciprocal.

[alphamale]

I'm going to be so nervous, i'll probably sht my pants,

dude, the world was built upon **** filled pants