Mysterio Posted November 18, 2017 Share Posted November 18, 2017 In your life. Which Gender feels like they are more single, Men/Women? Also what age range. For me from what I can tell. If feels like the Men are more single over the women. It feels like older women 60 + are more single from what I can tell in my social environment, with work or from what I have seen. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 18, 2017 Share Posted November 18, 2017 I'm about 60 and am somewhat surprised to opine I'm running into more single women by choice than single men. I only know of one guy besides myself who isn't married but the list of women not married and not apparently living with a man grew to over ten this year. Make no mistake, they're not unpalatable for a relationship/marriage, far from it rather are actively choosing to not be available to men, much like my mother after my father died. Men came around but she brushed them off and lived a single solitary life in her 60's-80's, by choice. All, that I know of, are grandmothers or great-grandmothers so their lives have those young people in them and they enjoy their families and social lives to the full. Just no apparent men. Never see them with a date and they never talk about men at all. Only one that I know actively hates men (for dating) due to her exH cheating on her long-term. The rest are kinda like me, no problems with men just not interested. The one guy I know my age has never been married and rarely had an apparent girlfriend. Good catch but he's picky. That's life! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 18, 2017 Share Posted November 18, 2017 Carhill, I was listening to a discussion about single older women on the radio the other day. There seems to be a general consensus among the older women that they want to be free to live their lives without worrying about anyone else. After all the years of caring, they are taking some "me time". I know a handful of 20 something women who are single and complain about having no decent men around. I'm also seeing a handful of older women who are ending up in lesbian relationships after marriage breakdowns. I can't think of any single men. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 18, 2017 Share Posted November 18, 2017 Though it may be changing in the younger generations, I think older women have adapted to single life far better than same age men have. In general, in established societies anyway, women don't need men to protect them and are, or can be, financially independent and can use their networking, social and communication skills to live fulfilling lives without a partner. If they desire sex it's generally available without significant effort or commitment. If it appears more are choosing to live single and not get married again I can certainly see why. If they desire a 'buddy' for stuff, and I saw a lot of this when we were traveling for the fall colors last month, they team up with another lady, something my friend's wives often do as well. Men, ha, well sure we'll go fishing together If widespread, do such social dynamics attack the fabric of social cohesiveness in a society? IDK. It appears the vast majority of people are still choosing romantic relationships or marriages so there's that. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LurkerXX Posted November 18, 2017 Share Posted November 18, 2017 (edited) Many times women outlive their husbands, and sometimes the end of that relationship involved a pretty heavy care-giving load, willingly done, but emotionally exhausting. They have their own health issues looming on the horizon if not also present, they realize they have friends, often female, that may also be widowed and need a bit of a hand, and see a situation that may soon mirror theirs.....it makes sense that where they invest their energy is different. Edited November 18, 2017 by LurkerXX 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mysterio Posted November 18, 2017 Author Share Posted November 18, 2017 For me. The only reason I feel like being single for me is no physical affection. If I could get rid of the desire of sex and wanting an needing physical touch. I could be free of wanting a love relationship. Seeing a hooker won't cut it for me. Even a FWB. I just think higher of myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mysterio Posted November 18, 2017 Author Share Posted November 18, 2017 It feels like certain women can close up shop at an older age when it comes to love and company in that sense. Men are not. They are on to a nw adventure. My buddy S broke up with his Wife. They have kids. This happened in Jan 2017. He has a new girl now. I don't know if they are living together. S's x J. She has no one that I am aware of and she initiated the break up. Although I don't know why. More later. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 18, 2017 Share Posted November 18, 2017 I don't know a lot of single people, but excluding elderly widows, it's a pretty even split. The men are way more "desperate" about finding someone though. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted November 18, 2017 Share Posted November 18, 2017 Over 60, as a woman, I indeed find less of a logical incentive to pair up with a guy ,due to the likely high caretaking demands that this would entail. Since women have been taking care of families over the years, probably at that time they just want to enjoy what life they have left. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
LurkerXX Posted November 18, 2017 Share Posted November 18, 2017 Maybe for some, being on their own is the new adventure. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted November 18, 2017 Share Posted November 18, 2017 It seems like about the same in my location. Age 20s and 30s. Link to post Share on other sites
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