Do looks matter to women?

[dateme]

I see different types of guys get attractive women. What are women looking for?

[d0nnivain]

Different women are looking for different things. For example many people think Brad Pitt is gorgeous. I disagree.

 

 

You need to find a woman who thinks you are attractive & interesting. Never mind what "everybody" wants.

[RecentChange]

Women are individuals and look for different things

 

But generally men's looks are not as important to women as women's looks are important to men.

 

As for what women want in a man, ask 100 women, and you will get 100 different answers.

[Michelle ma Belle]

Women are individuals and look for different things

 

But generally men's looks are not as important to women as women's looks are important to men.

 

As for what women want in a man, ask 100 women, and you will get 100 different answers.

 

This seems to be the case.

 

Do we have physical preferences? We sure do. But women will so often do away with a particular preference(s) if the guy has other qualities they love like a great sense of humor etc.

 

That's why you see 'average' or 'unattractive' men dating physically beautiful women. Not necessarily the case in the reverse.

 

And like everything in life, there are always exceptions.

 

Bottom line, women tend to be more fluid in their attraction whereas men are not quite as flexible.

[Woggle]

Looks matter to everybody unless they are lying.

[d0nnivain]

Looks matter to everybody unless they are lying.

 

 

Looks do matter but not everybody finds the same look pleasing.

[LivingWaterPlease]

Looks matter to everybody unless they are lying.

 

Agree. To anyone who has their sight. However, various people prefer various appearances.

 

Another thing to consider is that a person's personality actually changes his/her appearance. Appearances are fluid. Objectively, one may look great when smiling but not so great when face is at rest, etc.

 

The musculature beneath the features alters the appearance of the features when emotions are expressed. For instance, one may look like their mother when they're smiling, like their dad when their face is at rest, like some other relative when excited, etc.

 

Women who believe they aren't influenced by appearances may be doing so based on believing they're evaluating the features of a man only when so much more visual observation enters into the equation.

 

But, when they say they like him for his personality, bear in mind when he is expressing his personality most times his face (and body language) is changing so there are things in the way his face moves that may be visually attractive or may trigger subconscious responses in the female.

 

It's a fascinating topic, but, yes, if women weren't influenced by what they see (beauty, etc.) advertisers wouldn't be concerned with who they use for their ads and commercials and how they present in photos and on camera.

 

Appearances are a huge influence on all of us and there are careers centered around researching visual influences on the consumer for this reason.

 

That said, one of the best things any of us can do to improve our appearance is to wear a SMILE that comes from the heart!

[Tribble]

Looks do matter but not everybody finds the same look pleasing.

 

Agreed. They also place a different value to it. Someone might be driven primarily by looks, someone else may be attracted to a certain personality.

[chinadiary]

But generally men's looks are not as important to women as women's looks are important to men.

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This.

 

I don't care what he looks like (got to be clean, obviously) as long as he's intelligent, funny, kind, compassionate.

[RecentChange]

Sure, everyone is influenced by looks….

 

But come on. On the scale of things, males often put a lot of importance on a women’s physical looks. As they say, “men are visual creatures”. Women on the other hand tend to have different motivators.

 

How much porn is consumed by men vs. women? Now what about romance novel popularity among men vs. women?

 

A man is seduced through his eyes, a woman through her mind.

 

How many men would say “well she is young and beautiful, but doesn’t seem career focused / isn’t educated enough / I don’t find her funny” therefore reject her?

 

Verses how many physically stunning women are with less than physically desirable men? Its safe to say that those men had other qualities that she found attractive, and therefore the physical stuff didn’t matter so much.

 

Do you think Melina Trump saw Donald one day and thought “Oh my he is so handsome, just a stunning physical example of a man, I must have him” – or do you think its more likely that he has other qualities that she found attractive?

 

How many successful / rich men “trade up” to more beautiful second or third wives? How many rich women trade up to gorgeous young men?

 

There are differences in the sexes when it comes to this, that cannot be denied.

 

For me, there has to be a base line physical attraction. But after that, its his mind, his wit, his success, his power that I am going to find alluring. A man who is simply good looking is not going to captivate me.

 

 

It's a fascinating topic, but, yes, if women weren't influenced by what they see (beauty, etc.) advertisers wouldn't be concerned with who they use for their ads and commercials and how they present in photos and on camera.

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Humans show preferences to attractive people. We all want to be attractive - so of course products use attractive people so that they are associated with them.

 

When it comes to using nudity, sex etc, the VAST majority of this type of advertising is directed towards males.

 

In fact, I am trying to think of a product that uses male sexuality to sell a product to females.

 

First I thought of Calvin Klein adds - but is it really women who are buying men's underwear? Or is that just another attempt to appeal to males (you will look as sexy as the model in their underwear).

[GorillaTheater]

Do we have physical preferences? We sure do. But women will so often do away with a particular preference(s) if the guy has other qualities they love like a great sense of humor etc.

 

 

Thank God.

[CptInsano]

This topic makes me think of my mom and her tennis coaches. It's all good, I'm sure these guys worked hard for the money. I could have done without her introducing them to me, as they were my age or younger, but it's allright. I think women posses the tact to not show off these escapades as men do.

 

I'm not that good-looking, but there are social skills and a halfway decent career that work for me. Two women have tried to outright buy me. Maybe I should have sold out, life might have been easier than it already is.

[thefooloftheyear]

Body way more important for women.....Face way more important for men...

 

Meaning men place more emphasis on body of their partner, women place more emphasis on face of men...

 

I hope that makes sense...

 

 

Guys get "extra credit" for career/wealth, Alpha qualities, etc...Women generally don't....

 

 

TFY

Edited November 20, 2017 by thefooloftheyear

[carhill]

If I had a nickel for every time my exW said 'If I weren't married I'd fck that' going on nothing more than appearances.

 

Then there's the guy who enters the room and all female heads, married and single, swing his way and faces light up. It's like Christmas entered the room. Love it.

 

Looks matter to women when they do. Trying to nail down a firm answer is like herding cats. Good luck with that!

[alphamale]

I see different types of guys get attractive women. What are women looking for?

women are looking for a good looking guy with money

[chinadiary]

If I had a nickel for every time my exW said 'If I weren't married I'd fck that' going on nothing more than appearances.

 

Then there's the guy who enters the room and all female heads, married and single, swing his way and faces light up. It's like Christmas entered the room. Love it.

 

Looks matter to women when they do. Trying to nail down a firm answer is like herding cats. Good luck with that!

 

 

 

Really? Could you be any ruder?

 

2 women on here said, looks aren't what attract them and you still know better. You know hat is REALLY unattractive? Arrogance.

[chinadiary]

women are looking for a good looking guy with money

 

 

How about ask a woman? The guy I'm not getting with is younger and wealthy. The ex I'm pining over is much older, no money, and you'd say he was ugly. To me he was hot and I adored him.

 

Men don't know what women want.

[BluEyeL]

Depends what for. For a long term relationship looks matter less to me. For just casualsex only looks matter.

 

Why would I care about his personality or career since I won't see the guy again or not too many times ? But if I plan to spend the rest of my life with someone kindness, emotional and career stability, values compatibility will rank higher than looks.

[RecentChange]

Depends what for. For a long term relationship looks matter less to me. For just casualsex only looks matter.

 

Why would I care about his personality or career since I won't see the guy again or not too many times ? But if I plan to spend the rest of my life with someone kindness, emotional and career stability, values compatibility will rank higher than looks.

 

I agree with this to an extent.

 

Except that personality matters to me for casual as well (although not as much as for a long term partner).

 

If I am going to have sex, I want to have great sex, and for me that comes with chemistry - and for me chemistry is dependent not only on looks, but personality as well.

[MJJean]

Do looks matter? Sure. But not nearly as much as chemistry. I have found myself not sexually attracted to objectively physically attractive men and very attracted to objectively not very physically attractive men.

[chinadiary]

Do looks matter? Sure. But not nearly as much as chemistry. I have found myself not sexually attracted to objectively physically attractive men and very attracted to objectively not very physically attractive men.

 

Me too. Chemistry is electricity and it's nothing to do with looks.

[LivingWaterPlease]

Sure, everyone is influenced by looks….

 

But come on. On the scale of things, males often put a lot of importance on a women’s physical looks. As they say, “men are visual creatures”. Women on the other hand tend to have different motivators.

 

How much porn is consumed by men vs. women? Now what about romance novel popularity among men vs. women?

 

A man is seduced through his eyes, a woman through her mind.

 

How many men would say “well she is young and beautiful, but doesn’t seem career focused / isn’t educated enough / I don’t find her funny” therefore reject her?

 

Verses how many physically stunning women are with less than physically desirable men? Its safe to say that those men had other qualities that she found attractive, and therefore the physical stuff didn’t matter so much.

 

Do you think Melina Trump saw Donald one day and thought “Oh my he is so handsome, just a stunning physical example of a man, I must have him” – or do you think its more likely that he has other qualities that she found attractive?

 

How many successful / rich men “trade up” to more beautiful second or third wives? How many rich women trade up to gorgeous young men?

 

There are differences in the sexes when it comes to this, that cannot be denied.

 

For me, there has to be a base line physical attraction. But after that, its his mind, his wit, his success, his power that I am going to find alluring. A man who is simply good looking is not going to captivate me.

 

 

 

 

Humans show preferences to attractive people. We all want to be attractive - so of course products use attractive people so that they are associated with them.

 

When it comes to using nudity, sex etc, the VAST majority of this type of advertising is directed towards males.

 

In fact, I am trying to think of a product that uses male sexuality to sell a product to females.

 

First I thought of Calvin Klein adds - but is it really women who are buying men's underwear? Or is that just another attempt to appeal to males (you will look as sexy as the model in their underwear).

 

This is the field I work in (the visual/beauty) everyday and I can assure you that women are equally as visual as men. Their views are considered equally commercially though I agree with you that often it's assumed men are more visual.

 

Also, imho, being discriminating and being visual are two different considerations, though they are both influences that affect choices, both personal and commercial.

 

Both men and women are artists, both men and women are designers and decorators. At one time men were dominant in many careers including the artistic but thankfully, women now have great opportunities.

 

Also, sexuality is only one component of physical attraction and it was my understanding the post was about appearances, not sexuality.

 

However, since you mentioned porn, it's been pretty interesting to me to note that women are now viewing porn almost as much as men and from what I read the gap is fast closing as to the proportion of men vs women viewing porn.

 

Here's a sample I quickly pulled up from an article, was going to enclose the link to it but lost it, sorry!, though I haven't studied this issue I do read a lot and have noticed it's being observed that demographics for porn viewing are shifting in favor of more women being involved than in past decades.

 

"At the time of the study in 2006, 68% of those who viewed porn online were men while women only made up 13.6%. However, times are changing are fast due to—you guessed it—internet porn. In analytics released by popular porn site Pornhub, women are 113% more likely to search the term “hardcore” than men. They are also over 105% more likely to seek out genres of porn like “gangbang” and “rough sex.”

The old ideas that women just want to see romantic comedies and read steamy novels like Fifty Shades of Grey are outdated. With the porn culture in society that has been created, women are seeking out these harmful and dangerous depictions of sex just as much as men. The normalization of porn has led to many women becoming hooked on porn. It is now reported that the female demographic accounts for almost one-third of online porn viewers."

 

OK, back to appearances!

 

I see plenty of good looking men with women who are not as good looking irl and wonder if it's possible that men with more depth are interested in more than just a woman's good looks, which accounts for this.

 

Possibly because I'm such a visual person (am female) I've always placed good looks as one of the top features of men to date and am probably more selective than many men are, though, lol, not sure the men I've dated have done the same:)!

 

Well, I've barely scratched the surface in responding to your post, RecentChange, and this surely needs some editing but need to get back to work! Taking my LS break here to switch gears a little!

[stillafool]

I'm a woman and you can call me shallow all you want to but looks have always been important to me. I like good looking men.

[alphamale]

I'm a woman and you can call me shallow all you want to but looks have always been important to me. I like good looking men.

you go girl..

[GoodOnPaper]

Depends what for. For a long term relationship looks matter less to me. For just casualsex only looks matter.

 

Does that mean sex with the long-term guy is less exciting? Seems like a lot to give up, especially if you are thinking marriage.