niceties55 Posted August 20, 2005 Share Posted August 20, 2005 Ok. Here is another problem that I have w/ girls. (man, the female sex is a very complicated one) 1st I want to thank every1 for there help on my last post. Ok heres the problem When ever a girl (particularlarly the one I like) talks to another girl and looks in my direction when she talks I automatically assume she is saying something bad about me and I feel "depressed" the rest of the day because i think in my mind that they are making fun of me. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 20, 2005 Share Posted August 20, 2005 You know what assume means right? Ass-u-me. Are you assuming the worst or do you actually "hear" the conversations? You seem to have a low image of yourself. Don't let ANYBODY make you feel bad...And definately don't let it ruin your day. You are responsible for your own happiness. Don't put that on anyone, it's alot of responsibility! Link to post Share on other sites
Author niceties55 Posted August 20, 2005 Author Share Posted August 20, 2005 Yes... I am assuming the worst. Link to post Share on other sites
april Posted August 20, 2005 Share Posted August 20, 2005 Originally posted by niceties55 Ok. Here is another problem that I have w/ girls. (man, the female sex is a very complicated one) 1st I want to thank every1 for there help on my last post. Ok heres the problem When ever a girl (particularlarly the one I like) talks to another girl and looks in my direction when she talks I automatically assume she is saying something bad about me and I feel "depressed" the rest of the day because i think in my mind that they are making fun of me. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!! I can't imagine feeling that way. Must be low self-esteem or something. In a situation as such, I just automatically assume they are saying complimentary stuff about me. But maybe they are NOT...and I'm the a$$ in assume.....LOL! April Link to post Share on other sites
Author niceties55 Posted August 20, 2005 Author Share Posted August 20, 2005 ok here is something you should know. I am not the most attractive guy in the world and i don't think it either. In fact i rate my self below average. So i think they are talking about how "ugly i am or what a creep" or something like that which brings me to the point of avoiding/ignoring girls that i think are Hot. Link to post Share on other sites
april Posted August 20, 2005 Share Posted August 20, 2005 Originally posted by niceties55 ok here is something you should know. I am not the most attractive guy in the world and i don't think it either. In fact i rate my self below average. So i think they are talking about how "ugly i am or what a creep" or something like that which brings me to the point of avoiding/ignoring girls that i think are Hot. Will you puhleeeeze stop this negative self-talk!!! April Link to post Share on other sites
Author niceties55 Posted August 20, 2005 Author Share Posted August 20, 2005 Ok. I'm sorry.......what kind of things can i do to make me build confidence and stop talking like this? Link to post Share on other sites
april Posted August 20, 2005 Share Posted August 20, 2005 Originally posted by niceties55 Ok. I'm sorry.......what kind of things can i do to make me build confidence and stop talking like this? Well first of all know that : not all women go for drop dead gorgeous or rich guys. Now lets start showing off those natural assets, shall we? I want you to write in a journal, list all your positve qualites... We already know you are a real sweet guy. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author niceties55 Posted August 20, 2005 Author Share Posted August 20, 2005 I Think i will do that. Thanks a lot. Special thanx to April ( I think that is a very pretty name) You've made me feel welcome again. By the way any other help will be appreciated very much. Link to post Share on other sites
april Posted August 20, 2005 Share Posted August 20, 2005 Originally posted by niceties55 Special thanx to April ( I think that is a very pretty name) You've made me feel welcome again. Treat yourself to something today, okay? I find this really gives me a boost...even if it's just what some may consider a very small thing - like a Lotto ticket, or d'ling a good tune, or buying myself a book. I like doing stuff like that. Plus it puts you in the position of being in the company of strangers (shop clerks, etc) and you know darn well they are gonna be nice to you...no imagined talking behind your back. Oh, and about "April"(thankyou!)...it's the month I was born. But I also like it as a first name for gals. Link to post Share on other sites
Author niceties55 Posted August 20, 2005 Author Share Posted August 20, 2005 I WILL do it today. BTW sorry about the mix up about the name and your birth month Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 21, 2005 Share Posted August 21, 2005 Self confidence is what you need. Make a list of ALL your positive qualities, positive experiences and accomplishments in life. Anything and everything, even the smallest accomplishment counts as a good thing!!! Go and photocopy the list about 6 times! Stick them throughout your house; bathroom, kitchen, bedroom, livingroom, etc...And everytime you start to feel down about something, or yourself - GO to where the nearest list is. READ it and feel good. This will help you feel good about you and give you self confidence! Hope this helps! Link to post Share on other sites
april Posted August 21, 2005 Share Posted August 21, 2005 Wow! WWIU......that's good advice for anyone feeling discouraged at any point in time. I'm even gonna try that, next time I feel down. 6 copies splattered all over my teenie apartment, ought to do the trick. Link to post Share on other sites
Author niceties55 Posted August 22, 2005 Author Share Posted August 22, 2005 All rite. I just did it Cool thanx. I know i sound desperate but.....................any thing else i should do.(Things are getting better.) Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted August 22, 2005 Share Posted August 22, 2005 Originally posted by april Wow! WWIU......that's good advice for anyone feeling discouraged at any point in time. I'm even gonna try that, next time I feel down. 6 copies splattered all over my teenie apartment, ought to do the trick. Originally posted by niceties55 All rite. I just did it Cool thanx. I know i sound desperate but.....................any thing else i should do.(Things are getting better.) Thanks! It does work when you're feeling down and out about crap in life. It's something my Therapist had me do to bring me up when I start to feel yuk. Ya know, the whole anxiety disorder thing...Doing SO much better now though. Glad to help niceties55. I hope it brings you up and puts a confident smile on that face of yours! Link to post Share on other sites
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