Need tips approaching women

[hawx79]

If I see a woman I like in the streets, how do I let her know that im interested in her without coming across creepy?

I mean I want to make eye contact first to let her know that I like her so she wouldn't be overwhelmed when I start speaking to her. I have never approached a woman but I so often want too, I'm just afraid to come off as awkward.

[Superchicken]

First, never touch them as they pass, or approach you.

 

 

I myself, used to compliment women's eyes, as they are the first thing I notice (Truly ).

Actually, I still do, and my misses gets really pissed at me.. Anyway, that's another story..

 

 

Another I used to use, and again still do (Yes, I am a bad flirt), is when a beautiful women passes by me, I say "Excuse me", and point to the floor next to her.

She stops, and obviously looks down, and after a second or two says "What", I then say, "Oh nothing, I just wanted to look at your beauty for a little longer". They then smile and walk away.

However, sometimes it back fires, and they want to sit down and talk. Oh geez, that's when I don't tell my misses..

 

 

These are my things I did/do. You may like to do things differently, but you will need to do something.

As with anything in life worth getting, needs a little effort to obtain.

 

 

So, until that fat lady sings in your ear, it aint over..

 

 

Ted.

[d0nnivain]

In this day & age you are going to have a hard time conjuring up a conversation out of thin air from a passing on the street. If it's somebody you routinely see, start by smiling for a few weeks. Then move up to saying hello. It's all about establishing that you are not dangerous.

[preraph]

It's easy enough to strike up a conversation just referring to your immediate surroundings, but this will not get you her phone number because it's too soon. I'm old and I strike up conversations with strangers often. "It's cold out here" or in line, "Here, you go ahead of me. I'm still trying to decide" may be an icebreaker, or not. While shopping, "I have NO idea what that is." I mean, to me, that's easy. But again, you'll have a hard time closing a deal unless she's just freakishly attracted to you and pulls you in. If you get someone willing to talk, go in for finding out what she does for a living or if she's in school and try to find some common thread. What's your major? Oh, I'm also in IT.

 

Like Donnivain said, it is much better to start establishing rapport with someone you see regularly and just start by smiling and saying hi and not get in too big a hurry.

[CptInsano]

In this day & age you are going to have a hard time conjuring up a conversation out of thin air from a passing on the street. If it's somebody you routinely see, start by smiling for a few weeks. Then move up to saying hello. It's all about establishing that you are not dangerous.

 

I would say it is hard to strike up a conversation with somebody in particular, as the situation would have to be right in order to not come across as a creep. Having a conversation with somebody on the street is not that hard, on the other hand.

 

I mean, I like photography, and I cannot count the times that women have asked me about it when I was just out and about with my camera. If you appear to do something other than just hanging around you won't appear all that threatening as a guy.

[Bantosm]

Smile and don't approach unless you get a go ahead sign.

[Space Ritual]

Go Neanderthal...

 

Club them over the head and drag em back to your cave. What could possibly go wrong?

[jjgitties]

It's next to impossible to approach without coming off as a creep. If she shows any slight hint of politeness or interest, then by all means use the opportunity to say hello and try to strike up a convo.

[choyhtya]

Literally on the street may not be the best. First off I have no XP when it comes to approaching woman IRL, Only online so you can take this with a grain of salt.

 

If I were to start approaching I may look for signs that they're approachable I.E smiling or looking at me, saying hi, maybe sitting by themselves or window shopping. And avoid girls who have headphones in or are balls deep in there phones, walking really fast.

 

After that I don't really know what to say or do but you could try humor. Or something relevant to what they're doing.

 

I think humor going to be your best bet, since they have no rapport with you though, it'll help them relax.

 

Just remember that not every girl you approach will like you so don't focus or dwell on the negative encounters. If there not into you simply move on. Don't even have to be polite just don't beat a dead horse. Even if you get 10 rejections in a row don't even let it phase you, assume that they have some issue that has nothing to do with you.

[Happy Lemming]

I might try carrying a small map of the area on me. Ask the person you want to talk to where "fill in a local street name" street is or a landmark on that "fill in a local street name"?? Tell them you just moved to the area and got all turned around and are a bit lost. Then attempt to expand the conversation about how long they have lived in said town/city. You'll be able to tell if they are interested in talking to you or if they just want to be done with you.

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[SammySammy]

It's easy enough to strike up a conversation just referring to your immediate surroundings, but this will not get you her phone number because it's too soon. I'm old and I strike up conversations with strangers often. "It's cold out here" or in line, "Here, you go ahead of me. I'm still trying to decide" may be an icebreaker, or not. While shopping, "I have NO idea what that is." I mean, to me, that's easy. But again, you'll have a hard time closing a deal unless she's just freakishly attracted to you and pulls you in. If you get someone willing to talk, go in for finding out what she does for a living or if she's in school and try to find some common thread. What's your major? Oh, I'm also in IT.

 

Like Donnivain said, it is much better to start establishing rapport with someone you see regularly and just start by smiling and saying hi and not get in too big a hurry.

 

^^^ This.

 

Start a conversation about something in the surroundings. However, if she doesn’t show interest in you let it go. Forcing your interest on an uninterested person is the creep zone. Don’t go there.

 

It’s a numbers game. If you keep having friendly banter with women you’re interested in, at some point one will return your interest. Then you can take it to the next level. Arrange a way to get to know each other better.

 

Learn to recognize those indicators of interest. Only escalate when you perceive she’s interested.

 

And keep a positive mindset. Don’t get down or disappointed if things don’t go your way. Everyone is not going to be available or like you. That’s okay.

 

You have to like the ones that like you. Don’t worry about the rest.

[some_username1]

I don't know, better just to realise that, as with life itself, you can't win them all so you might as well not beat around the bush trying to come up with spurious things to say and just be direct about it. You will either win or lose and won't have that angst afterwards worrying about whether she liked you or not because you missed the opportunity to get to the point.

 

I did that the other week myself, went up to a girl who seemed approachable and attractive and said "excuse me...are you single?"

"Yeah, why?"

(Why do you think, you melon )

I said something about finding her attractive and she politely said she wasn't interested. Bit odd considering she said she was single when I asked....but there you go, it didn't work for me but don't let that put you off!

The point is the girl seemed receptive and probably gave me points for trying in a such a bold manner. For someone like me who is painfully shy I was surprised to feel pretty good about the rejection. She wasn't a bitch about it, nothing ventured nothing gained. Life goes on.

 

Fortune favours the brave......sometimes

[LuckyM]

You could say, if I was older or younger or--fill in the blank--I would buy you lunch or coffee. That way you are asking her out sort of but not really.

Emphasize the IF.

 

 

 

Or bring with you a bag of fresh dates and say, want a date? and point to the bag. She will laugh. Dates are so good too.

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