Confused-in-Love Posted July 6, 1999 Share Posted July 6, 1999 Here is my problem. Two years ago I was dating this terrific guy. His only flaw was that he hated that I smoked and as a result refused to ever propose if I didn't stop. I was very angry that he couldn't accept me for who I was (yes I know it is a bad habit) and I broke up with him. While he and I were separated I ran into a guy I had been friends with for many years. We had always both had feelings for each other, but one of us was always involved with someone else whenever we were together. This time we were both single. We were having a great relationship and then BAM! I found out I was pregnant. He is slightly younger than I ( I was 19 he was 18) and freaked out. He quit calling me and trying to help me (I knew it wasn't that he didn't love me, but because he was scared). Anyway my exboyfriend and I reconciled and ended up getting married. Now my baby's father is back and he wants me and the baby back. I love both of the men and I can't decide if I should stay or should I go. I already know that if I go I won't jump into a relationship with my baby's father, but take it slow. I need some advice...PLEASE. When I am with each of the guys I feel at home, I don't know where I belong. --Mossy Link to post Share on other sites
Liz Posted July 7, 1999 Share Posted July 7, 1999 Here is my problem. Two years ago I was dating this terrific guy. His only flaw was that he hated that I smoked and as a result refused to ever propose if I didn't stop. I was very angry that he couldn't accept me for who I was (yes I know it is a bad habit) and I broke up with him. While he and I were separated I ran into a guy I had been friends with for many years. We had always both had feelings for each other, but one of us was always involved with someone else whenever we were together. This time we were both single. We were having a great relationship and then BAM! I found out I was pregnant. He is slightly younger than I ( I was 19 he was 18) and freaked out. He quit calling me and trying to help me (I knew it wasn't that he didn't love me, but because he was scared). Anyway my exboyfriend and I reconciled and ended up getting married. Now my baby's father is back and he wants me and the baby back. I love both of the men and I can't decide if I should stay or should I go. I already know that if I go I won't jump into a relationship with my baby's father, but take it slow. I need some advice...PLEASE. When I am with each of the guys I feel at home, I don't know where I belong. --Mossy I greatly understand how you are feeling... but it isn't quite as important as yours. I, myself, am stuck in the middle and I am not really sure what to do. They both make you happy when you are with them?... and you feel safe and comfortable with the both?... I really don't have any super advice for you other than, if there is a doubt in your mind about one of them and the future of you and your child then choose the other.. YOu want to stay happy for as long as you can. Happiness will make your child a better person and you will be glad that you are happy too. I hope that this helps a little... Liz Link to post Share on other sites
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