Heard a great quote about love and relationships

[mortensorchid]

I was watching YouTube and for some reason I came across a Larry King interview with Linda Evans. I don't admire her or follow her career like others may or may not have, but I liked this quote she said about the relationships she had. And how it applied to me.

 

She's had two major loves in her life as you may or may not know, with John Derek and Yanni. Plus Larry King has been married about 8 times at last count. She said "There is a big difference between being in like and being in love with someone". How true is that ...

 

As of this writing, I have been in 4 LTRs in my adult life (not counting my high school sweetheart). The first, I was in love with him, we were together for 2 years off and on, we've been broken up for almost 20 years now, we're still friends. The next I was in love with. He was the love of my life, it ended with a ghosting on his part when he moved away and chose never to contact me again. Cowardly, but it's what it is. The 3rd, I realize now that we were in like not love. The 4th, I also realize that we were in like. There's a difference between being in like and being in love. So true.

 

And she said after her marriage to John Derrek ended, she was in despair that she would never find love again. But stayed hopeful, stayed open, and she met Yanni who she was with for the next nine years.

 

Hope. Keep the hope, people. Someday, somehow, keep the hope.

[SevenCity]

I was watching YouTube and for some reason I came across a Larry King interview with Linda Evans. I don't admire her or follow her career like others may or may not have, but I liked this quote she said about the relationships she had. And how it applied to me.

 

She's had two major loves in her life as you may or may not know, with John Derek and Yanni. Plus Larry King has been married about 8 times at last count. She said "There is a big difference between being in like and being in love with someone". How true is that ...

 

As of this writing, I have been in 4 LTRs in my adult life (not counting my high school sweetheart). The first, I was in love with him, we were together for 2 years off and on, we've been broken up for almost 20 years now, we're still friends. The next I was in love with. He was the love of my life, it ended with a ghosting on his part when he moved away and chose never to contact me again. Cowardly, but it's what it is. The 3rd, I realize now that we were in like not love. The 4th, I also realize that we were in like. There's a difference between being in like and being in love. So true.

 

And she said after her marriage to John Derrek ended, she was in despair that she would never find love again. But stayed hopeful, stayed open, and she met Yanni who she was with for the next nine years.

 

Hope. Keep the hope, people. Someday, somehow, keep the hope.

 

I agree but my have put it a little differently. If I count the plethora of women I’ve been with, I can say I was in love with three of them. Of those, the last one redefined what love was for me and I realized it was more infatuation with the other two. I had never been with someone who I thought about before doing anything. How it might impact her, or how it might impact us. Someone who was a best friend I would kill for or be killed for.

 

Hope? Not here. I think my chances of winning the lotto are better than finding that again.

 

My best bet hope is to become comfortable with never experiencing true love again.

[mortensorchid]

I keep in mind that everytime it's different because you're with a different person each time and they bring different things to the table so you will experience different things with them.

 

True love? Yes, I admit that the one I refer to as the love of my life was true love. But if I don't find that again ... This is part of what makes me bitter, I admit. It's what it is.

[carhill]

Linda Evans, the bow-wow? That Linda Evans?

 

I get the gig, "There is a big difference between being in like and being in love with someone", boy do I, but people who can plow through large swaths of the opposite sex while divining their perfect love have a very different perspective on things than we mere mortals.

 

OK, though, I'll hold out for the real thing. Sixty ain't enough. Let's see if we can make it to 80. Good goal. Don't worry, the wheelchair will be motorized

[mortensorchid]

Linda Evans from Dynasty.

[SevenCity]

I keep in mind that everytime it's different because you're with a different person each time and they bring different things to the table so you will experience different things with them.

 

True love? Yes, I admit that the one I refer to as the love of my life was true love. But if I don't find that again ... This is part of what makes me bitter, I admit. It's what it is.

 

I know the bitterness all to well. Many people here say that it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. I feel those people never experienced true love.

[Popsicle]

So how long was it between her first love and second love? If it was short (I.e 2 years or less) then she’s just another celebrity who finds their next man quickly.

 

The story I really liked was Barbra Streisand’s. The time between her first love and second/last love was 20 years. She was alone in all that in between time (and just working). She didn’t think she’d meet anyone to fall in love again, and bam, then she met her current husband.