if this guy likes me or not

[Tiga]

I posted about my interactions with this guy at the gym before but it’s a long thread and my current question is different then what I mentioned in that post.

 

Guy at the gym always smiled at me, came to workout next to me, waved at me and etc. I thought he was cute and I introduced myself. Our convo was a bit dry because we were both pretty shy. He is 3 years younger then me btw. 24/27.

 

Anyway we had two more interactions at the gym after we met. One was a convo and one was he said hi to me and waved. I stopped seeing him at the gym but on instagram he was a suggested friend. I decided to send him a message to make sure it was him.

 

He responded, asked me how I was doing and that he had switched gyms because of the men’s locker room of the gym I met him at. He immediately sent me s friend request and I approved him and I sent him one and he approved me.

 

He didn’t like any of my pictures although he flirted with me in the direct message inbox. He asked is he could workout at my gym when I build one and I told him of course that I would even hook him up with a job. He said he could be my smoothie maker. I joked and said I was thinking more towards the cleaning or maintenance crew but we could negotiate. He responded by saying he is willing to work his way up and for me not to be jealous if he takes over my gym. I told him if he could handle it that I wouldn’t hate on him. He said “I think I can handle it” and I responded by sending the a okay emoji.. That was it he last few things we talked about. Since that convo he hasn’t reached out and didint ask for my number when we messaged each other. He watches all of my ig stories by the way.

 

 

My question is is this guy shy, playing hard, or feels like he is out of my league because of the age difference.

 

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Edited December 19, 2017 by Tiga

[snowboy91]

He didn’t like any of my pictures although he flirted with me in the direct message inbox. He asked is he could workout at my gym when I build one and I told him of course that I would even hook him up with a job. He said he could be my smoothie maker. I joked and said I was thinking more towards the cleaning or maintenance crew but we could negotiate. He responded by saying he is willing to work his way up and for me not to be jealous if he takes over my gym. I told him if he could handle it that I wouldn’t hate on him. He said “I think I can handle it” and I responded by sending the a okay emoji.. That was it he last few things we talked about. Since that convo he hasn’t reached out and didint ask for my number when we messaged each other. He watches all of my ig stories by the way.

 

 

My question is is this guy shy, playing hard, or feels like he is out of my league because of the age difference.

 

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Most phones have Facebook Messenger or something similar installed so you don't need a number to call or text. And a 3 year age gap isn't even a problem.

 

Your banter could be the start of a friendship, or something more. Ask him out and find out for sure.

[browzer]

What's the matter with the men's locker room at the gym you met at?

[Tiga]

Most phones have Facebook Messenger or something similar installed so you don't need a number to call or text. And a 3 year age gap isn't even a problem.

 

Your banter could be the start of a friendship, or something more. Ask him out and find out for sure.

 

Yeah idk, it doesn’t look like he has a gf. No pics of him with any girl. So maybe he is taking it slow but I already made moves, I approached him at the gym and sent him a message when I came across his profile. He on the other hand switched gyms so makes me think that he isn’t interested although when he did attend my gym he seemed interested.

[Tiga]

What's the matter with the men's locker room at the gym you met at?

 

He said it was dirty and nasty he got sick of it and then people were not putting the weights back and etc. He told me what gym he goes to and said it was nice.

[snowboy91]

Yeah idk, it doesn’t look like he has a gf. No pics of him with any girl. So maybe he is taking it slow but I already made moves, I approached him at the gym and sent him a message when I came across his profile. He on the other hand switched gyms so makes me think that he isn’t interested although when he did attend my gym he seemed interested.

 

Look at it the other way. He switched gyms then started messaging you (after you initiated, might I add). It's entirely possible he might have written off your brief chats at the gym as just that, then when he started to hear from you more he might have worked out that you were interested.

 

The best way to know for sure if he's interested is to ask him out! I'm sure most guys wouldn't mind being asked out rather than the other way round. I know it's unusual for the girl to ask the guy, but it's better not to miss your chance

[Tiga]

Look at it the other way. He switched gyms then started messaging you (after you initiated, might I add). It's entirely possible he might have written off your brief chats at the gym as just that, then when he started to hear from you more he might have worked out that you were interested.

 

The best way to know for sure if he's interested is to ask him out! I'm sure most guys wouldn't mind being asked out rather than the other way round. I know it's unusual for the girl to ask the guy, but it's better not to miss your chance

 

Could be, maybe he didint get the impression that I was interested at the gym but now maybe he does. My thing is why doesn’t he go for it? Uncertainty?