stuck in the middle Posted September 4, 2005 Share Posted September 4, 2005 Okay here is my thing. I have been married for almost a year. My husbands best friend is extremely gorgeous and he has recently made some comments about how good I look to me. Well I saw him last night, he was over at our house to see my husband. I noticed he kept watching me. I think we are both extremely attracted to each other but I am not positive that he is interested in me. How can I find out? What can I do to see if this a real thing or if I am just feeling this because I want it so bad? I am kinda in the same situation as you. As a matter of fact i was looking for some advise of my own. My boyfriend/ husband and i have been together for 3 years and his bestfriend and i have been getting real close for the past year. He has came flat out and asked me to make my move on him, and as bad as i may have wanted to i couldn't do it. If you really want to make the move then do it, but just know that everything will come to an end. You met your husband first for a reason a reason that is unspoken. It's fair that to him if you persue what you may want to happen. Just know that if his friend can step over the line as a friend and make a move on his friend's wife then he is not a good guy to be with. Because later there will be another female another friend and you will see that you aren't anyone special. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 10, 2007 Share Posted April 10, 2007 Okay here is my thing. I have been married for almost a year. My husbands best friend is extremely gorgeous and he has recently made some comments about how good I look to me. Well I saw him last night, he was over at our house to see my husband. I noticed he kept watching me. I think we are both extremely attracted to each other but I am not positive that he is interested in me. How can I find out? What can I do to see if this a real thing or if I am just feeling this because I want it so bad? I'm not sure that you want to find out if he's interested in you or not. What will that change? Are you thinking of cheating? If he was interested in you, would you cheat? Are you willing to sacrafice the marriage for his best friend? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted April 18, 2007 Share Posted April 18, 2007 Okay here is my thing. I have been married for almost a year. My husbands best friend is extremely gorgeous and he has recently made some comments about how good I look to me. Well I saw him last night, he was over at our house to see my husband. I noticed he kept watching me. I think we are both extremely attracted to each other but I am not positive that he is interested in me. How can I find out? What can I do to see if this a real thing or if I am just feeling this because I want it so bad? Are you kidding me? IMO, You need to stop right there and not cheat. Seriously, no offence, but where are people's guilty conciences these days?? What if your husband did that to you behind your back? You might think his friend is hot, but even flirting with him will probably hurt your husband... cheating will just mess everything up. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveLace Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 It could be a hoax...a joke...to sit back and laugh at everybody telling her how crazy she is... But if it's real, I agree with LB 1st and foremost. You are trying to start an affair on purpose, do you realize this? Are you that careless of what happens to your marriage? So the guy has been looking at you...so what, to be blunt. He thinks you want him, I'm sure, and it's probably boosting his confidence, and he might brag to his buds that "my friends wife wants me bad ha ha!"...if even that. If he is any kind of a friend to your husband, he would dis you fast for doing that to his good buddy. Then he might tell him, and you could lose BOTH of them, how would you like that? If you are considering a sneak-around affair or even just a 1 night stand, I hope you are aware of the damage this can do to your marriage and your dignity if it becomes a serious thing. It doesn't sound like your using your concience much, but if you did, you'd feel so guilty that you would hate it. Even if you don't "love" your husband anymore, he's a human being that deserves respect (unless he's been abusing you or something), either way asking for a divorce is more respectful than sneaking. My best friends husband used to hit on me a lot. And I would playfully flirt back (wife not around of course) but it got to the point where it was almost like we were talking dirty to each other, and although it was joking, I started to feel pretty bad..so I backed off a lot on being his bud. Nothing even happened, and I still feel guilty when I remember it. And if you consider physical attraction "the real thing", I guess now we might know the only reason you might have gotten married in the 1st place. I don't think a true newlywed in love would even think of an act like this. Was this a drunk Las Vegas marriage or something? Link to post Share on other sites
LoveLace Posted April 19, 2007 Share Posted April 19, 2007 Am I blind! The post says its from 2005! How in the world did it find its way up here!? I was responding to someone from 2 yrs ago? Link to post Share on other sites
chaos40 Posted April 23, 2007 Share Posted April 23, 2007 Okay here is my thing. I have been married for almost a year. My husbands best friend is extremely gorgeous and he has recently made some comments about how good I look to me. Well I saw him last night, he was over at our house to see my husband. I noticed he kept watching me. I think we are both extremely attracted to each other but I am not positive that he is interested in me. How can I find out? What can I do to see if this a real thing or if I am just feeling this because I want it so bad? You're a real piece of work Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted April 25, 2007 Share Posted April 25, 2007 lol she's either divorced by now or cheated and ran off with the best friend btw, I think I remember seeing this post in 05! Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted April 25, 2007 Share Posted April 25, 2007 Your poor husband. BTW, that guy isn't your husbands best friend. A friend would not look at one's wife that way. Or is it all just in your head because he gave you a compliment? I can't believe you would ask someone how to cheat on your husband. Divorce him is what you can do if you want to find out about this other guy. Link to post Share on other sites
mjayc Posted April 28, 2007 Share Posted April 28, 2007 I am pretty much in the same boat but probably worse. The difference is that my hubby's bf and I share a mild history from way back 12 years ago from highschool. His wife is my bf too. She is never home bc she is in the army and only gets to come home once a week. Always-- seen the looks but tried to pretend it didn't happen, but I did the deed not a week ago now. And I regret it in so many ways. I know where she's coming from, but the question remains...if we were getting what we needed, from our hubands, would we do this? BUT I also agree that he is no bf to my hubby either. he persued and persued me for the last 2 years, and now when my hubby and i are not doing well, he jumped on the opportunity and usedthe situation to his advantage, yes, I admit, I am weak, but I learned a lesson about myself, him, and friendship. All of which is not good. Link to post Share on other sites
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